There's no doubt about it, being single can be lonely, especially when everyone around you is in a relationship, and you're the last one left on the shelf. While it's a good thing to get out there and date, there is such a thing as too much. If you are constantly getting in and out of relationships, you might need to consider slowing down. Here are four signs you might be a dating addict.
You've had more than four boyfriends in a year
Believe me, I know how tough it is to find, "The One," and it's true, you won't find him if you sit at home in front of the TV every night. However, if you have labeled four or more men as your boyfriend in a twelve month period, there's a chance you might be a little bit obsessed. Constantly switching one guy for another is not good for you. It takes time to really get to know a person, so why not take it slower, and make sure your next man is really worth it?
You change to suit his tastes
This is just about the least cool thing a girl can ever do when getting to know a new man, but it's a classic trait of a dating addict. When you're looking for Mr. Right, you need to be right for each other. If you constantly find yourself telling guys you like everything they like when the thought of it really brings you out in a cold sweat, you will ultimately end up disappointed. Don't lie about your tastes because you will always get found out.
You tell everyone he's perfect (before you've been on the third date)
Sometimes, you just hit it off with a guy. The chemistry is right, there's attraction, you have things in common. Everything seems perfect. However, if you are telling everyone your new man is your soul mate after only seeing him a handful of times, you are bordering on dating addict territory. I have a friend who does this every single time she meets someone, and every time, she is wrong. If she just held in her enthusiasm until she was sure, she would go through much less drama.
You sulk when you don't have a man in your life
Being single is not a disaster. There are many worse things in the world than not having a boyfriend, but serial daters don't feel this way. Do you find yourself feeling miserable when you're alone? Are you always eager to get out and find someone else to make your life complete? Stop. You will have a hard time making someone fall in love with you if you're not happy with yourself. Perhaps it sounds like a cliché, but it's true.
Dating addicts need to learn to feel complete alone before trying to find a guy to share their lives with. There is no harm in waiting a while instead of always rushing in. Taking things slowly is much better than being hurt over and over again.
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