I'll admit I used to have an aversion to guys who were shy around women. It seemed like they took forever to ask me on a date or make the first move and by that time I was over the intrigue of waiting to see what would happen. However, the past year or so things have changed and I've discovered that these shy guys can be much more appealing than the guy who walks up to me with swagger and offers to buy me a drink. So what are the sexiest things to love about a man who has a tendency to be shy around women?
Their nervousness is adorable
I find it incredibly charming when a guy is a bit nervous around me. While my girl friends and I have laughed over cheesy pick-up lines, we've all uttered a collective "Aww!" after a shy guy uttered a sweet compliment. His nervousness often makes you want to be closer to him.
Their attention is yours
One of my friends used to complain that a guy she was dating would always wander away while they were at a party or event. She explained that while talking to different people wasn't a problem, she felt like they were attending as two completely separate individuals rather than as a couple. After they split and she started dating a guy who was more on the shy side, she explained that when they were out at parties, she felt like they were there in solidarity as a couple. When you're out with a shy guy, you don't have to worry that he's flirting with other women and rarely do you have to run all over a bar, party or other venue just to catch a few words with him. He'll talk to other people, but he'll very likely be next to you the majority of the time, not because you force him to stay there but because that's where he genuinely wants to be.
Their words and actions make you feel special
When a shy guy says something to you, you know there's a really good chance he's not running around saying the same thing to a bunch of other women. Just knowing the amount of effort it took for him to offer up a sweet compliment or even come up and talk to you should make you feel special. He mustered up all the courage he could find just to do or say something that he thought could be worth it. The guy likely isn't doing any of it because he expects something from you. Often enough, his intentions are genuine.
They're different than what you're used to
Many guys today won't hesitate to offer brazen comments - especially after a few drinks. There's been a couple of guys who have walked up to me and flat out asked for my number after only saying "Hello, what's your name?" Then, of course, there's the charmingly vulgar comments that make you want to throw your drink. It's refreshing to deal with the shy guy who takes his time to have a conversation with you that doesn't involve requesting that you go back to his place.
They can surprise you in bed
A guy who isn't shy may make comments about his prowess in bed or what he's got in his pants, but a guy who is shy around women usually keeps that info under wraps. I'm a huge fan of (positive) surprises in bed, and shy guys definitely offer that. Many women have told me they expected to have to be the ones to take control over these rather timid guys and the next thing they knew, the guys were the ones pulling out all the stops. The majority of the ladies said it was the best sex they've ever had.
The next time a shy guy is interested in you, don't be so quick to turn him down because you think he's not your type. He may just surprise you in a whole slew of fantastic ways.
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