A guy I used to date didn't do foreplay; apparently he didn't with his exes either. I quickly told him our styles didn't mesh well and I thought it would be better if we went our separate ways. Other than the physical benefits, foreplay also adds another layer of intimacy that's vital to a relationship. So is it ever okay to forgo it? Absolutely! There are five times when you can just completely skip foreplay altogether.
When you're in a rush
Sometimes we just don't have all the time we want to devote to sex. Maybe friends will be arriving at your home shortly or you have to pick up the kids and you know your time is limited. If you want sex, go for it, but if you're in a big rush feel free to skip the foreplay.
When you're in public
Whether you're in a car, on a private beach or out somewhere else that's public, there's no reason to spend the extra time on foreplay. In this case, the less time you spend in the act the better it is for you.
When you're in an awkward situation
Did you ever stay with your guy at the house of a friend or family member and sleep in the same room together? I personally cannot have sex while staying as a guest at the home of a loved one, but if you're someone who can, you're better off foregoing on the foreplay. It goes along the lines with having sex in public - the less time spent the better. Things won't be so awkward with your loved ones right in the next room.
When you (or your guy) really just don't want to
As much as I love foreplay, I don't always want to do it. It's not that I'm even ready to jump right into sex, I'm just not in the mood for foreplay at all. If you or your guy really just have zero interest in it at the moment, don't just go through the motions if neither of you are feeling it. Should you try to force it and make it happen, it's likely only going to be sub par anyway.
When you just want to get down to business
Sometimes you get so turned on you just want to skip the foreplay and go right for sex. That's not necessarily a bad thing at all. In this case it might make it even better.
The key to skipping foreplay is to not let it become a habit. If anything, engaging in foreplay should become a habit you want to develop. If you're not happy with the way it's going with your guy, don't just forgo it and give up. Practice - and communication - will make things a lot better than just pretending the issue doesn't exist.
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Times it's OK to laugh during sex
How to talk about sex with your guy
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