It never fails. If four women go out to a nightclub, one of them will surely get a majority of the attention. Invariably, there will be at least one member of the crew who feels left out, virtually ignored by the present male population as a result. If this person happens to be you, then you understand what a cruddy feeling this can be. Lucky for you, it's not the end of the world. Here's how to deal:
Check your envy/jealousy at the door.
You will be greatly served by ending the silent competition you've likely created in your head. It's only natural to harbor a few not-so-friendly feelings when your gorgeous friends "damper" your shine. If you're not careful, cattiness could creep in and ruin not only your night, but also your friendship. If most of your outings feel like "competitions," there might be deeper issues at hand.
Smile.
It's the cheapest, most natural aesthetic enhancement you can make. The most beautiful creature on earth may sit alone if she sports a constant scowl. The idea that gorgeous people are intimidating is one that's been argued for years. Wearing a genuine smile has a lot to do with attractiveness. Put one on and watch the difference.
Go your own way.
It's possible the guy who wants to approach you won't do so because your lady friends flank you. Men in general don't really like approaching large groups of women; it puts them on the spot. There's nothing wrong with hanging with your best gal pals. But make sure you're taking ample time to mingle on your own.
Highlight your attributes.
If you're constantly comparing yourself to your amazingly hot girl friend, you're sure to suffer a deflated sense of self-esteem. We all have attributes that we like more than others. Play up your best features and strut your stuff. The boost of confidence you get in doing so almost instantly translates into sexy.
Change your mission.
Are you hanging with your lady pals for the sole purpose of finding a man? If so, then you're missing the point of having a social life. Getting out and doing things you truly enjoy immediately takes off the pressure. You will regularly meet interesting people at every stage of life, under circumstances you'll never be able to predict. Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself inside and out, doing things you enjoy. You won't worry so much about who's not paying you any attention.
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