Have you ever given someone a gift and seen a look of disappointment flash in his eyes when he opened it? Are you at a loss for how to pick out a gift that is sure to impress? I'll bet you want to avoid that scenario this Valentine's Day when you celebrate with your man. Picking out a successful gift just requires a little forethought and selflessness. Consider these seven tips as you decide what gift to give your man this Valentine's Day, and you won't choose a disappointing dud.
1. Remember little clues. My husband is always floored on holidays when he unwraps something he had once mentioned in passing he would like to have. Make a note whenever your partner drops a nonchalant hint while watching a commercial, swoons over something while shopping, or simply realizes he needs something during his everyday life. He'll appreciate your thoughtfulness, and you can be assured you've given him a gift he'll use.
2. Keep your gift relationship-appropriate. Don't give a gift that indicates you see your relationship more serious than he does. If you haven't been dating long or he seems hesitant to make a commitment, don't spend a lot of money or give him something too romantic. For example, a scrapbook of your relationship might not be an appropriate gift when you've only been together two months. He might feel as if you are saying you want to push the relationship to a level he's not ready for.
3. Relate your gift to his love language. Each of us has a "love language" that dictates how we desire to be shown love in a relationship. Find out his love language and choose your gift accordingly. For example, if his love language is "words of affirmation," write him a love letter. If it is "quality time," plan a day full of special activities you can do together. My husband's love language is "acts of service," and he would probably appreciate me helping him with a project than buying him a gift. The more you can relate your Valentine's Day gift to his love language, the more personal it will feel.
4. Celebrate his "manhood." Your guy might see Valentine's Day as a day that he has to abandon his masculinity and become Cupid just to make you happy. Surprise him by giving him a Valentine's Day that celebrates his manhood. Go out for a steak dinner, watch the "shoot-em-up" flick he loves, and throw back a couple of beers with him at his favorite bar. If he isn't into these stereotypical activities, just let him decide what you do to celebrate Valentine's Day this year in whatever way he expresses his manliness.
5. Let him pick it out. Your Valentine's Day gift can't be a flop if he's the one who picks it out! Give him a gift card to one of his favorite stores. After you go out for your Valentine's Day date, go to the store together and let him pick out his gift. You'll get your romantic evening, and he'll get the tool, electronics, or golf club he's been pining after. It's a win-win.
6. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Unless you don't know your way around the kitchen, you can't go wrong with food. Whether you bake him his favorite dessert or cook him his favorite meal, your Valentine's Day gift is sure to be a hit if it goes in his stomach. For an added bonus of quality time, ask him to help you in the kitchen, or sit down to have a romantic meal together and enjoy your culinary creations.
7. Make a list. At some point in your relationship, have him create a wish list and a "Do Not Buy" list. On the wish list, ask him to write down at least five gifts that would make him happy to receive, in a wide price range so they could cover a variety of occasions. On the "Do Not Buy" List, ask him to write down at least five categories of presents he would never want you to buy him. When Valentine's Day comes around, you might be able to pick out something from the wish list, or if not, the "Do Not Buy" list will help you keep from buying a gift that flops!
Now admittedly, if you're in a good relationship, it's always the thought that counts, and your man will never make you feel bad for buying a Valentine's Day present he doesn't particularly like. On the other hand, it's a great feeling to do something that would make his Valentine's Day special. If you are attentive and thoughtful and consider these seven tips, you're sure to make this Valentine's Day one to beat!
Source:The Five Love Languages: Improve Your Relationship With These Simple Tips by Manny CalaveraOther dating tips from this author: