When things go wrong, like you blow up at your friend or you falsely accuse your boyfriend of cheating, you must make amends. Saying your sorry, sincerely, goes a long ways towards healing and helping a relationship. A backhand, insincere apology could make a bad situation worse. There's nothing like an indifferent, half-hearted "I'm sorry" to really show how much you don't care. Offer a genuine apology using one of these sure-fire methods.
A private apology: In some instances, a public apology would only make the situation worse. Sensitive issues don't need to be shared in public. Offer a face to face private apology. Be sure to express regret, sorry and an real effort to change. Without these three components, it may not be accepted.
A public apology: If you've embarrassed your loved one in front of a group, a group apology is recommended. Gather your coworkers or friends together and make the apology public. Sometimes it's the only way to salvage a good friendship.
Token of love: Giving a gift with your apology might help heal his heart. Don't go over the top though. You want to express your apologies with a present, not try to buy his love!
Acts of service: Your tantrum erupted because you came home and the grass wasn't cut. You learn that the lawnmower died and that it was currently located in the repair shop. It's time to put your gardening gloves on and help him! Show some class, but serving someone you've wronged.
Notes and cards: Never underestimate the power of the written word. If you're a wordsmith, write a letter of apology or note of regret. Don't write a ten page report or a line item list of right or wrongs. Keep it simple and to the point.
Give a sign: When she want to talk to you try a sign! A friend of mine woke up with a dozen recycled election signs in her yard--all saying, "I'm sorry! Please forgive me!" She gave him another chance. Must have worked!
Talk it out: Real hurt stirs up the emotions. Give her a chance to express how you hurt her. Talking it out means letting her vent. Listen, observe and express your regret. That's a healthy and mature way to apologize.
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