Do You Argue Right? Your Relationship Could Be at Risk.

Do you fight fair or are your fights going to destroy your relationship?

Anderson welcomes Dr. John Gottman, Co-Founder of The Gottman Institute. He's the nation's foremost researcher on marriage and relationships, and says he can predict with 94% accuracy whether a marriage will end in divorce.

On Anderson's "Fight Lab" episode airing Wednesday, April 19, Dr. John Gottman gives his tips on how to fight the right way.

Dr. Gottman advises: "The important thing is not to point your finger at your partner, but to really talk about what you need and what your positive need is: your recipe for success."

Take a look at his top three tips on the right way to argue with your significant other...



Dr. John Gottman, Co-Founder of The Gottman Institute, says there are three things you should never say in a fight with a significant other. Are you guilty?



Do you nag in your relationship?

Dr. Gottman addresses nagging, and tells Anderson it's "only half the equation. You have to nag when your partner really just blows you off."



"Take the things that are most important to you," says Gottman, "and state your need as a positive need -- not what you don't want, but what you really do want from your partner."

The nation's foremost researcher on marriage and relationships says to be sure to do it in a kind way and to really communicate to your partner how you feel respected and understood when listened to.

He says it's important to share that you feel part of a team when heard, instead of feeling lonely from being ignored.

The goal is to have a responsive partner and more importantly, to choose your battles. This will help you to stop nagging. Don't make us tell you again.

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