Madonna's Advice on Adoption

I do not understand how people can say things like "why not adopt from the US"?
I get that we have a lot of children that need good homes, but a child is a child, US kids are no more special or deserving than any other child out there. And while many US children in the system waiting and hoping to be adopted do have it pretty rough and live in some ugly environments - look at needy kids in poverse countries, talk about an ugly environment.
Also it's about age. Most potential adoptive parents want babies or toddlers, not older children. US babies and toddlers get adopted fairly quickly. So a lot of people go to other countries because the chance of adopting younger is much higher than it is here.

Why not adopt here in the US, CLearLY there are many needy poor children right in your own country.

Jermasty? I cringe. Imagine growing up and people replying to you, "Yes, Jermasty." or "No, Jermasty." What were they thinking??

People who believe it takes years to adopt domestically are possibly either a) woefully misinformed; or b) going through private adoption.

My husband and I were able to adopt our son within 8 months via foster care. And yes, we got a baby. And no, he had no drug issues at all. And yes, we are the luckiest people on earth and fell madly in love with him the minute we saw his cute little face.

And yes, we have many friends who also adopted via foster care, some multiple times, and only once did a family wait the full year before placement.

It may not take years chronologically but it does take years off your life. Me and my wife were put through the ringer. So please do not judge Madonna, she's not my fav entertainer; however, I don't blame her for what she and other celebs do. If I had the money I would have done the same thing knowing what I know now. NO dealing with the child's ex-family is a blessing! I used to be against gays adopting but children NEED homes. Do it yourself or butt out.

Wanting to give children a better life..nothing wrong with that.

Dear Madonna, I need a better life. Love, Me.

My husband and I adopted a sibling group of 5. It would have been a sibling group of 6 had the oldest child not aged out. It took us over 4 years from the day we took the children into our home until the adoption was final. We adopted through TFI (Formerly called The Farm Inc.) in Kansas. Also, the children went "Adoptable" 6 months after coming into our home. I hope that other people have had a faster process but my experience says it's very long and drawn out here in the USA. If you adopt over seas it may take at tops 2 years, most generally you are only looking at months! It's so much faster to adopt a child outside the USA. Which in my opinion is very sad that our USA kids have to wait so much longer for their forever families because of all the red tape!

I have adopted a child... I wanted to adopt an American child but the red tape and the wait list is absolutely insane!! I like many of you was very uninformed about adoption of a child in the US. I used to be the same way and would state things like, "why don't you want to adopt here? and are you too good for the US?" These are common, but uninformed comments. It would have taken me 6 years to adopt in the US but took me 2 and a half outside of the states.

Rich people don't always make good parents. But can buy there way out of problems more easier.

I am not as technically savvy as my 13 year old so I will probaly never even get to the acct associated with this email. I wish you continued good heatlh and will be praying for your continued success in all of your philanthropic endeavors. : )

Contrary to what people have written, adoption in the US can be difficult if you are not "wealthy" or "well-informed". Newborns through a private agency can be "hit or miss", and adopting through foster care can take years because the birth parents and their immediate family have to reliqusih their rights and that can be hard on the foster parents. I would love to adopt again, but it does not appear in the cards.

The spoiled elitist liberals have to have exotic pets. Whether it be ocelots, chimpanzees, or third world African/Asian throw-aways, the pathetic motivation is : "LOOK AT ME!"

I watched Madge on Anderson and had a sinking feeling she wasn't going to acknowledge her adopted children (unless asked).
I cringed when she was talking about children in general and said "my daughter", as if she had only one.
I had a feeling she was going to do that, I don't know why, and sadly....she did.
And no, it wasn't something where she was specifically referring to the eldest -- it was about children in general and she very clearly just said "my daughter"
And then later she said something about getting "my son" to do his homework.

It wasn't until Anderson asked about ALL the children she finally remembered she had two others outside the eldest daughter and the son she had with Guy Ritchie.

I think she cares about them they way she does any of her 'posessions' and thinks she is quite the noble character for adopting.
But in truth - whether you have children biologically or adopted - they should just be your children - same feelings - same love.

Somehow, I just don't think that is the case with her.
Hope I am wrong, but words don't lie.
Praying for all of them.

My husband and I adopted 2 children here in the United States. After all the classes, tests (background, drugs, etc.), we had them in our home in less than a year. Of course, we told them we would take any child, regardless of race, age, etc. So many people who complain about adoption red tape in the US are only looking for young kids.

If she wants to make the world better for children, and people in general, stop singing. That would be a start....

my wife and I adopted a child in the Philippines because of a glitch in the legal system NO VISA but if she adopted him i'll bet it would have gone thru

There is a lot of things that money CAN buy, but CLearLY there are more things that money CANNOT buy.

I think it's terrific that Madonna is adopting . . . but so many negative comments here . .. how sad . . . here's someone that is doing something good and for the most part all she gets is negative feedback. What's wrong with you people? Are you so perfect that you can judge her? Worry about your own life . . . if I did not know better, I would think the lot of you are simply jealous of a talented, kind, generous, beautiful, and wealthy gal! Get stuffed!

Adopting is not easy, all the people that comment on these articles why don't you just adopt or adopt American kids??
She went to Malawi despite age requirements almost everywhere that exclude her (as early as 35 or 40 for women with some countries) she could agree to donate loads of cash and get the children, very sad, that children have become commodities these days, also when you go overseas, much less likely the adoption will ever be contested unlike here.
I tried to adopt after my biological son died and it is extremely expensive and very difficult here, and no I was not trying for a white infant either. IVF is cheaper!
I have a friend that is trying who is single and much younger than Madonna was and is having door after door slammed in her face as too old...hmmm, not too old, just not rich enough.