Overview
A new member of your family or social group has a lot to teach you. They've been through what you are going through, and have some interesting advice for you. They're not going to come up to you, tap you on the shoulder and say 'let's talk' -- so if you want to get some clarity on things, you need to approach them about it. They might be surprised at your request, but not because they don't want to help. They do want to help, and will be pleased that you are reaching out!