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Have you ever experienced a bad break-up? We've all been there. The tears, arguments, silence, and regret. Even if the break-up isn't particularly "bad," it can still feel awful to part ways with someone who has been close to your heart.
And how many of us have watched friends endure painful break-ups? For them it might feel like the world is falling apart. You just want to grab them, open their eyes, and say, "Look! The sun is still shining! Life goes on!" But only the passing of time brings this truth to light.
Justin poses this predicament to Deepak Chopra in this week's episode of Spiritual Solutions (a series on The Chopra Well YouTube channel). Compounding his post-break-up depression is the fact that Justin also just graduated from school. He is navigating new territory and feels alone in his struggle. Justin asks, how do you find happiness in a negative situation when it feels like there is no one at your side? Deepak responds with compassion and a dose of realism.
Although our emotions are largely an internal experience, they paint themselves on our demeanor, as well. Deepak wagers that, by his body language, Justin isn't as depressed as he says. He may feel alone, but that is probably not the case. Cosmically speaking, there is a bigger picture to take into consideration: 70% of the Universe is dark energy; 25% is dark matter; and the whole visible universe is .01%. Everyone alive now will be gone in 100 years, so we're looking at odds that don't speak highly in our favor.
On the other hand, this information can convey a sense of hope. We are a part of a vast, complex Universe. Something that seems dramatically important now, like a break-up, may pale in comparison to our future experiences and sensations. This too shall pass. In the meantime, Justin can take this opportunity to "incubate," Deepak advises. If you or one of your friends are suffering from the loss of a meaningful relationship, join Justin in asking yourself the following questions:
What do I want in my life?
What is the purpose of my existence?
How can I improve my relationships?
What was the reason for that break-up?
How did I participate in the break-up?
How can I create a new situation in my next relationship, where I won't repeat that cycle?
It's because of this opportunity for incubation, a time for decompression and renewal, that Justin may look back on this time fondly. There is something romantic about being depressed after a break-up. It's the inspiration for great literature, music, and art. Think of it as an initiation into the world of love.
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If you're still feeling down, here are some more resources to help you heal:
"Depression: Shedding Light On The Darkness" by Deepak Chopra
Meditate to help ground yourself and find peace
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