The individual, who vehemently expresses hate for a selected group of people based on their gender or race, while pretending they like them, is being dishonest with themselves.
I met such an individual, the experience was not pleasant. We both were very uncomfortable. Upon meeting this lady, I greeted her with Hello, how are you?
She said "Hi." Then after a long pause, while staring into space, she said " I hate white people." After a brief pause, she further stated, while continuing to stare into space, "I can't stand them."
Who would make such a stupid statement to a stranger?
Neither of us said anything else.
When the "White People" arrived, this woman who had just said she hate the whole race, started talking friendly with them and calling them honey, and turned on such a charm, that appeared to be love.
My thoughts were, don't ever trust this woman, and leave anything you are going to eat or drink in her presence.
The thing that troubled me about this woman was the venomous way she said, those words that were filled with hate. The tone was one that has to be taken serious.
Such people have to be carefully observed. If you engage them, you lose something that might be helpful in dealing with this kind of behavior that is seen in the workplace, as well as throughout society.
This type of individual, when confronted, will deny that they said such a thing. And will have the people convinced that they would never have said such hateful things about any one. The charm they show entices people with the attractive words they use to convince them to trust them. This is hypocrisy in its worst form.
Ellen J. Barrier
Barrier's Books & Associates