Let's just gush for a minute about Bethenny Frankel. As a passionate living expert, she's my girl crush and mogul role model; and I know that she's yours too, right? When we first met Beth back on "Real Housewives of New York City" I must admit that I was not a fan. I found her to be tense, angry and uptight. Enter Jason Hoppy and we were pleased to re-meet a new and improved Ms. Frankel.
Jason and Bethenny together look like the perfect couple. They're both gorgeous, like a brunette Ken and Barbie made to match, and with lil daughter Brynn in the picture we're on a fabulosity overload. Jason is a successful businessman in his own right. When Bethenny landed on the cover of Forbes Magazine aspiring "Skinny Girls" everywhere felt proud.
On this season of "Bethenny Ever After" the reality star continues to break new emotional ground as she lets us in on her struggles. We see that the second year of marriage is not all balloons and popcorn. Bethenny and Jason are struggling to connect and communicate as her star rises ever higher. On the last episode BF's small town boy admits to feeling a tiny tinge of jealousy of her success.
Oprah Winfrey says all the time that it takes a strong man to be with a successful woman. I watched her have the conversation with Whitney Houston about Bobby Brown and again with Barbara Walters. The queen of talk even adds, "Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you need is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
So what's a mogul millionairess or power diva-to-be to do?
1. Choose an equally yoked partner.
You don't have to be religious to respect the Biblical passage that says partners should be equally yoked. Choosing a man who is your equal does not necessarily mean that you have the same income or educational background. It means that you are matched in terms of how you envision your life unfolding together. If you've got caviar wishes and champagne dreams and he doesn't, you will face serious challenges.
2. Never play small.
It can be very tempting for our inner people pleaser to play small to make others feel comfortable around us. Please resist this temptation. Anyone who truly loves you wants you to rise to your full magnificence in the same way that we see Jason supporting Bethenny through her ventures. As guru Marianne Williamson says, "As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
3. Make your man your king.
You run this town. You're the boss at work and it feels great. When you come home, however, let go of some of that wonderfully aggressive, masculine yang energy and practice surrendering into your yin, feminine energy. Just as we enjoy the strong energy of a man, men love the soft receptive energy of a woman. Leave the do-it-all chick at the door and practice learning how to communicate to your partner that you love and respect him as the king to your queen.
So what does the future hold for Bethenny and Jason? It's really none of our business, but we're sure she'll keep us in the loop. Meanwhile, take these lessons and apply them to your own life and I will see you at the top.
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