So today I got a Mothers Day email from my best friend. He said he loves me Very,Very much and I will always be his heart. This is not news to me, as I feel the same way. He is and always will be the love of my life,the father of the child I have and the father of the 2 children of my heart. Unfortunatly my son has a deadbeat Dad in real life and his have the same as a Mom. To complicate matters he went and married someone he doesnt love because he couldnt keep waiting for me.
We have been best friends for 15 years or so,because of timing. His girlfriend leaving him,me having my son,his girlfriend coming back,my ex coming back. Well typical story,at least for us.........
I always thought we would be together,whether it was 2 years or 10 or 20. That we had the love that would endure all else. I am starting to doubt that now, as we live on opposite ends of the country. Plus the fact that he is to stubborn to admit his mistakes in marrying "L" and my toes are dug in about staying in the
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So today I got a Mothers Day email from my best friend. He said he loves me Very,Very much and I will always be his heart. This is not news to me, as I feel the same way. He is and always will be the love of my life,the father of the child I have and the father of the 2 children of my heart. Unfortunatly my son has a deadbeat Dad in real life and his have the same as a Mom. To complicate matters he went and married someone he doesnt love because he couldnt keep waiting for me.Read More »from My Best Friend
Last week I was giving a friend a ride home,and as we turned on her street we saw cars stopped and a crowd of people on the side of the road. We felt like we should make sure someone had called 911 and see if there was anything we could do. Well the situation was an elderly man who had OD'd and wasnt breathing. When we approached we noticed CPR wasnt being done correctly so we offered to help. They resisted at first as this was their friend but I think they were tiring out, so did say yes. We took care off the things not done,his head tilted back at an angle for the airway to be open. The correct amount of compressions versus amount of breaths given. And the next thing you know he started coughing and then throwing up. We turned him on his side til he was done,cleared his passage way again and kept going, soon he started releasing more vomitus. By then the paramedics got there and started oygen and we got out of the way.Read More »from Life is shorter than some of us know.............
There are 2 reasons I write about this, One is that it was one
So lately I have worked on, letting go. Not just in the emotional aspect, but with physical objects. Whether it be a table, coffee mug, pair of jeans or just any inanimate object. Something that correlates to a memory, whether it be a good memory or a bad memory.Read More »from Letting go.........
In doing this I have found that the memory or whatever it is that makes me cling to, keep or feel connected to the object, goes away. It sounds to easy ? Like throwing out the trash, its gone.
But it is just that easy, and I feel so much better. Its like losing weight ! Only your losing the mental weight that has kept you down,even depressed or angry.
Now dont get me wrong, Im not throwing stuff in the trash. lol I give it to different charities, to my church, the battered womens shelter and of course goodwill. That too helps me feel better about it, in my mind the person who gets it doesnt get my bad memories, they get my HOPE.
I have learned that keeping some of these things not only make you keep the memory,because
$1300 for make-up,u got to be joking ! I can tell u about make-up for a $1.00 ? Yep it's true...........By Ali | Fashion – Sat, Mar 13, 2010 10:08 PM EST
I was talking to a new friend the other day and mentioned this place where I get SUPER cheap make-up, that is actually pretty decent. I was surprised she hadnt heard of the website, which made me think there might be alot more people out there that dont know about it.
Its called E.L.F make-up, which is an acronym for Eyes Lips Face. Supposedly its a company that used to sell for Nordstroms,but I cant guarantee the source on that as being correct. lol
What I do know is I get GREAT lipgloss, for a $1.00 !! Actually most of the products are a $1.00, I think the most I ever spent was $5.00 on mineral powder and $5.00 on a Kabuki brush to use it.
However a few things dont come in what you think of as "full size", like the compact was a bit smaller than normal. They do have a wide range of colors too, so any ethnic group can use it.
Plus after you order they always send you coupons and deals like $1.98 shipping specials.
I found out that my dog A) may have cancer B) has an enlarged heartRead More »from Fur Kids, or pets as some call them
And I am devastated to say the least...........
We are ruling things out one by one on the heart issue, no ringworm, no heart murmur or arrythmia. Which is all good news,dont get me wrong. But I am still totally stressed by this, I cant imagine how I would handle it if she passed away. Just knowing somethings wrong is wearing me down with worry. I pray and pray and then pray some more.
Going through this makes me think all the more about the people who have pets and abuse them, leave them in the yard 24/7, dump them at a pound knowing they will probably be euthinized, or worse move and just leave them in the yard tied to a tree !
Why get a pet if you think an animal deserves to be treated this way ? Do you treat your kids that way ? In my opinion, you probably do.
We have so many laws about caring for children, and laws to protect them. Why arent we doing the same for domesticated animals ?
I know in most states
- Ali | Love + Sex – Wed, Mar 3, 2010 7:21 AM EST
I have a friend, he is probably one of the greatest guys I have ever known. But half the time I cant tell if he even likes me, sometimes I almost wonder if he hates being around me. And yet we have been friends for 15 years ! I have gone as his "date" to stuff where he didnt wanna go alone. If I needed a hand moving he was always there,usually with an extra buddy to help. He listened to my problems when my ex turned out to be a loser and I listened to his when his ex turned out to be a gold digger.Read More »from Making sense of something that seems to make no sense at all, otherwise known as friendships.
We have been as close as friends can get, got drunk together, been each others wingman, played the BF or GF to scare off a loser who wouldnt leave the other one alone, he was there in court for my DUI (he got me drunk) I put fake snakes in his bed to freak him out (it did bigtime ) there really isnt much we havent been or done together. And I thought there was NOTHING we wouldnt do for each other. He is even the person I put in my will to have custody of my son if something should ever
For me it started with watching Survivor,then Surreal Life,Celebrity Apprentice & a few others. Now me personally, I was never a watcher of the Bachelor or other dating shows,just not my deal. lolRead More »from Reality shows, where is the realism ?
But now its gone on to so many reality shows you cant keep track !
From "Im a celebrity get me out of here!" to the "Celebrity Rehab" to "Keeping up with the Kardashians".
But what is real and what isnt ?
Is the name of the game ratings?
How famous can I get by airing my dirty laundry?
How much money can I make in my 15 minutes ?
How long can I extend my 15 min by acting like a total schmuck ?
Can I make my self seem better than other people ?
By being dumb do other people feel better & wanna watch me ?
Is it basically a sitcom with real people,they set-up the plots like "woman finds lost dog what does she do ?" and go from there ?
And why as a society are we buying into this crap ?
Jon & Kate plus 8,WHO CARES ? I have my own to take care of,is this supposed to make me
- Ali | Love + Sex – Tue, Nov 24, 2009 6:55 AM EST
So due to being laid off from my job, we moved in with a friend. A person I have known for 14 years and think of as family. I really thought I knew this person well, he is like a brother to me. But when my son said in regards to something my friend did, that he reminded him of his father. I about fell out,until I realized he was right. My son that is, he was totally right ! He noticed that the friend uses material things as a substitute for emotional commitment. Which when he said it I saw the pattern,all the way back to when we were first friends.Read More »from It takes a childs observation to point out the obvious
What made it even more disconcerting to me was not that I had chosen a friend who had qualities of my ex,or vise-versa. But that when I really put thought into it I realized they werent the first men in my life to be emotionally unavailable. They were replicas of my father,the same father that would give me a blank check over a hug. The same father that would watch me upset to the point of hyperventilating, and walk off declaring me overly
So I am at the doctor's office about anxiety attacks. And he says to me "so what do you think has been causing you to be so stressed at this time",and I wanna just say "ARE YOU CRAZY " ?Read More »from Stress, and more stress
This is the man who pretty much knows the most about my life and he ask's me "what do you think is causing you stress at this time ?"
Well lets see where to start:
1) Im in chemically induced menopause to shrink my fibroid tumors,so as to avoid surgery.
2) Im dealing with what they call a "frozen shoulder" and had to have a "Manipulation Procedure" and am now in my 4th week of 2-3 times a week Physical Therapy,plus doing Pt exercises at home.
3) I work full-time,which with driving and coming in saturdays to make up for the time missed due to medical. is now about 60 hours a week.
4) My ex hasnt paid child support in oh 3 months or so,and doesnt seem to have any plans on doing so. Same with his lack of exercising visitation.
5) School is/was starting and I have no money for uniforms,supplies or
Why is it black people want to claim Barack Obama as "their" president ? He isnt black,he is biracial. A fact that most black people try to ignore. They claim Hallie Berry,Alicia Keyes,Tiger Woods ect.........
If a biracial person is someone of accomplishment or is note worthy they want to claim them as "black" While a famous black man who dates a white woman is called a "sell-out" by these same people. Isnt that a bit hypocritical ?
As a mother of a biracial child I am thrilled to be able to tell my son he can be anything and have a president to show that it is true. But as a person who is has encountered so much negativity by black people about having a black man's child it annoy's me that they now "claim" Barack as the president for their "people".
I hope he is more than that,I hope he is truly a president for ALL the people. And that regardless of his race our country benefits from him being in office.