Appreciate each other.
Do you feel like your relationship isn't quite what it used to be? To help you revive your relationship, we've reviewed a serious body of research to bring you the 10 most powerful, scientifically proven ways to improve virtually any relationship. These tips also happen to be the key ingredients that go into making a good relationship work, so even if you think everything's great, you can use this list as a diagnostic tool to make sure you and your partner are on the road to relationship bliss.
5. Solidify your friendship
How satisfied you feel in your relationship has to do with how connected you feel to your partner. Research suggests that our ability to connect with others (our attachment style) is influenced by our childhood experiences. According to Prior and Glasser (2006), 65% of children can be classified as having a secure attachment style, with the remaining 35% having an insecure attachment style.
As an adult, an insecure attachment style is associated with a slew
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Appreciate each other.Read More »from 5 Proven Ways to Improve Your Relationship
- AskMen | Love + Sex – Mon, Sep 9, 2013 5:50 PM EDT
10 organization tips that will help you build your relationship.Read More »from 10 Organization Secrets that Make Successful Couples Successful
Relationships are driven by organization. Yet what could be less sexy than filing and label makers? We hear you. Organization -- both for an individual and a couple -- isn't the most thrilling thing we can do. Having a hook near the door where you put your keys isn't "exciting," but it does prevent you tearing the house apart trying to find the keys when you're late for work. The same holds true for couples. Using these 10 organizing principles isn't particularly fun or stimulating, but the payoff is huge.
These benefits are indirect but very real: the less time and energy you spend hunting for things, maintaining your system or taking a second trip to the grocery store because you forgot something, the more time and energy you have for the things you want to do. Organized people don't love organization for its own sake (well, maybe the creepy ones do), but because being disorganized is a pain. Spending a little time developing a system that makes sense for you will save you all sorts
Despite the sexual revolution and the reduction of theRead More »from 6 Signs He Might Cheat
While the story of former California governor Arnold Schwarzenegger's love child shocked many, others are wondering how wife Maria Shriver hadn't known about his love affair with a household employee. The fact is, though, that partners simply trust the words and promises of their husbands and wives. And why shouldn't they? But for some men, even the most honest intentions aren't good enough. Some husbands may just be destined to cheat.
The statistics on how husbands cheat are wide and varied -- mainly because people lie about sex on self-report studies -- but The Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy reports that about 60% of men cheat on their spouses.
Cheating husbands are not a new trend. After all, we are a primate society with what anthropologists like to call "perceived monogamy," meaning that while our cultures celebrate monogamy, we are sometimes polygamous. And despite the sexual revolution and the reduction of the "double standard," more men still cheat than
- AskMen | Love + Sex – Tue, Jun 25, 2013 4:05 PM EDT
Read More »from Why People in Relationships Really Are Happier Than Single People
One of the best things about romantic love is that it feels so good. Falling in love is one of the best natural drugs we have. It's a more powerful emotion than sexual attraction. It's also good for your health. People in happy, loving relationships live longer and are better able to survive medical crises.
But did you know that romantic love doesn't exist in some cultures? The factor that determines whether romantic love exists and is valued is women's sexual freedom.
Let me break it down for you. Cultures that allow premarital sex and female choice in partner selection (rather than the sexual double standard and arranged marriages) place a high value on the importance of romantic love. So say the authors of a recent study in the journal Cross-Cultural Research.
In the study, the authors used a well-known scale to measure romantic love and then compared it to various cultures. The scale looks at love as a system of factors that include the idealization of the potential spouse,
All The Single Ladies!
Of course we all love being in a relationship. We have all been searching for the right person and maybe that person already came into our life to fulfill our wish. Now life should be totally blissful, right? There are probably going to be moments when you wistfully remember what it was like to be single. As happy as you are in your relationship, there are likely things you miss about your single life too. Learn what you or the other might be pining for and how you can deal with it. If you can both be a little more accommodating in these areas it will ultimately strengthen your couple.
Before being in a relationship, both of you had grown accustomed to flirting with, say, the guy or girl behind the counter at the coffee shop every morning, the coworker two cubicles down and the single members in your social circles. Now you want to be conscious of every time the other bats their eyelashes or tosses their hair. You both may occasionally slip up - it'sRead More »from 8 Things We All Miss About Being Single
What She Misses About The Younger You
People in long-term relationships and marriages, this one's for you. Take a moment to look back at those long-ago days when you first got together with your husband or wife. You were both younger, maybe you weighed less, maybe you had less grey hair. "He was hot back then!" you think to yourself, with satisfaction. "He's still hot," you remind yourself, acknowledging that he might not necessarily be hot in the same way, but still. What was it like back then? "We went out more," you recall. "We used to go out big! Remember that one birthday of mine? Holy sh*t, that was crazy. We ended up walking all the way home at dawn 'cause we couldn't find a cab. And I was barefoot because I got tired of walking in heels. SO MANY Jägerbombs that night, good God."
Ah, memories.Read More »from What Your Lover Misses About the Younger You
He has memories, too. Ever wonder what they're like? He remembers the same events as you do, but he probably remembers them a little differently. Sure, you've both changed. But there are things about the old you
Why men cheat
Ah, infidelity. Ain't it grand? Ha, just kidding -- anyone who's done it before knows it sucks. At best, you keep your mouth shut about a one-time slip and carry on for the duration of the relationship knowing that you're a grade-A dickbag. At worst, you're having a full-blown affair and one day you wake up and three-quarters of everyone you know hates you because they found out. Not a good look, as they say.Read More »from 6 Reasons Why Men Cheat
And yet, we persist. Well, "we" as in men, not "we" including me, but I've been there before. I've done it. But why? Why have so many of us at some point in our lives done what we all know to be the cardinal no-no in relationships? Some blame biology and our predilection to spread our genes as far and wide as possible. Technically, it's true. Reproductively speaking, indiscriminate lady boning is the most efficient way to ensure that the species flourishes. The problem is that it's been about 50,000 years since our survival was ever in question. After all, it was humans
- AskMen | Author Blog Posts – Fri, May 24, 2013 4:23 PM EDT
Rachel and Ross from Friends
Joey and Pacey, Rachel and Ross, and Carrie and Mr. Big all had relationships in which they broke up and eventually got back together. While it looks romantic on TV, a new study suggests that these types of on-again, off-again cyclical relationships don't have Disney endings.Read More »from Why On-Again, Off-Again Relationships Are Destined to Fail
A 2012 study from Kansas State University discovered that couples in cyclical relationships have weaker bonds than those who have stayed together (noncyclical). Couples were shown to be far more impulsive once they got back together -- especially on big decisions like moving in together or having kids.
Overall, cyclical couples were less satisfied with each other, had worse communication, lower levels of self-esteem, and more doubt as to the lasting power of their relationship.
Surely, some couples break up and through a healthy process, realize that they lost something great and get back together. But what's likely closer to reality is that couples break up for a good reason, hate returning
Start your day right.
One of the biggest problems that physically active women experience on a daily basis is maintaining high enough energy levels to be able to excel at work, exercise and socializing. If you find that, after work, your thoughts tend to run more toward getting home as quickly as possible to pass out on the couch for the night rather than hitting the gym for a high-intensity workout, you're in need of a diet makeover and some fatigue-fighting foods.
What you eat during the day will have a significant impact on your energy levels, so it's vital to eat the right foods at the right times.
Here are the best fatigue-fighting foods to concentrate on.
Steel-cut oatmeal with egg whites
You need some fatigue-fighting food to start your day off and to make sure you have enough energy to carry you through the morning, and you really can't go wrong with some steel-cut oats and egg whites. The steel-cut oats slowly digest in the body, so they will break down over time rather thanRead More »from 7 Foods that Will Fight the Morning Blahs
- AskMen | Healthy Living – Fri, May 10, 2013 1:08 PM EDT
The filthiest places in the office include keyboards, fridge handles and the break room sink.
Yesterday, you may have taken judgmental note that your colleague Steve didn't wash his hands on his way out of the bathroom, but it turns out the bathroom's not even the filthiest place at the office. Yes, indeed, a new study has found that there are far worse bacteria-infested areas in the workplace.Read More »from The Filthiest Place in Your Office is Not Where You Think
Research led by Dr. Charles Gerba, professor of microbiology at the University of Arizona, swabbed 4,800 different workplace surfaces while testing for adenosine triphosphate (ATP), which is a common molecule found in bacteria and mold cells. An ATP score of 100 or less was considered clean, but if it reached 300 or more, it was considered porno casting-couch dirty.
So what were the filthiest spots? The break room sink faucet was at the top of the list, with 75% of them being deemed bacteria-covered. And that sponge you use to wipe down your plates and forks before using it? Most are chock full of E. coli.
Not far behind were microwave door handles -- 48% had scores