Blog Posts by Dashing Darné

Your Silence Speaks Volumes....

There is talk about the "wrong way" or "worse way" to end a relationship.

Methods often brought up in this category include violent temper exchanges, dinner in a public place, email, text, voice mail, Facebook status change, word of mouth through a friend or acquaintance.

Timing is another issue that is often brought up such as being told it's over on a "special day" such as your birthday, Valentines Day, Christmas, New Year's Eve, anniversary, or right after something else awful has occurred in your life.

The method that's getting a lot of attention lately is the "Fade-way breakup".

Essentially the person you have been involved with quietly disappears. Suddenly you can't reach them and they make no attempt to reach you. There were no arguments or complaints raised. No breakup emails, no

Looking Out For #1 Is YOUR Responsibility...

The mindset of our nation these days is whenever something bad happens to us we look outward to place all the blame on the person that took advantage of us. If a neutral party even slightly suggests the victim may have unintentionally contributed to placing a bullseye on her/himself there is major uproar from the masses screaming, "Don't blame the victim!"

A Perfect World

In a perfect world we would lead a crime free existence.

A woman could accept a drink from a guy knowing it hasn't been tampered with.

A person could leave keys in their ignition with the car running for several hours without having someone steal their car.

You could go on vacation for a week leaving your front door wide open and expect everything to be as you left it.

One could openly count their money as they walk down any street or alley without worrying someone might rob them.

A man and woman could leave their purse and wallet on

Statistics & Reality Checks

For generations older women have posed the following question to young women with regard to getting a man to propose: "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?"

Back in those days this reference was primarily designed to discourage women from having premarital sex. Today it's used to discourage women from living with a man.

If we truly believe men and women are equal than one sex has no advantage over the other by cohabitating.
There is a presumption the woman wants to get married and the man doesn't.
Interestingly women initiate divorce 66% of the time!

According to Dr. John Curtis Ph.D. author of " Happily Un-Married: Living Together & Loving It!" stated women who only cohabited with their fiancée first divorced less than women who went straight into marriage.

Several articles have been written recently stating couples living together seldom get married. However they fail to mention most relationships rarely lead to marriage period.

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Making It Count!

Several years ago I was watching an episode of "Six Feet Under" on HBO.
In this particular episode there was a woman grieving over the loss of her mother.
At one point she asked the funeral director the following question.

"Why do we have to die?" He took a moment and then he said, "To make life important."

Whenever there is an unlimited supply of anything we tend to value it less.
A person in his/her early 20s may view a life span of 80 years as an eternity.
"Youth is wasted on the young" - George Bernard Shaw

The Most Precious Commodity

Time is the most precious commodity on earth.
We don't know how much of it we have and yet many of us live our lives as though we have 1000 years to go. The clock is always ticking.
In the back of our minds we know we're going to die but we continue to procrastinate with regard to doing things we say we want to do.

We're all believers in the "Church of

Don't Get Ready, Be Ready...

You Don't Know Who You Are….

It's almost a cliché to hear someone say, "We got married too young."

The truth is marriage and monogamy requires maturity not only age wise but also in personal development. Ideally when you join your life with another person you should have a handle on who you are, what you want, and what you need in a mate.

Keep in mind the answers to these questions are likely to change dramatically especially from the ages of
18-35. During your early youth it's very possible all you cared about was having a hot looking girl with a great sense of humor. As you mature you realize there are other traits needed as well to have a real shot at marital success. It takes a reasonable amount of time to formulate your own life philosophy.

In addition to doing some major introspective thinking it's also necessary for one to have a certain amount of general life experience that should include getting an education/training,

"Too much of a good thing is wonderful" - Mae West

Recently I was asked what makes a woman good in bed.
Like most things in the area of attraction and pleasure the answer will vary from man to man.
Whenever I've read articles dealing with (what makes a man) good in bed they normally start off with how he touches the woman, being gentle, kissing, foreplay, and his ability to hold back until she is ready to climax.
Certainly all of the above are important however I believe it's possible for two men to touch a woman, kiss, and fondle her in the exact same ways and yet she will have a different reaction to each.
The reason for the difference is sex is said to be 75-80% mental.

How a person feels about someone, the chemistry they have with them, and the physical attraction all come into play. This is especially true for couples in serious relationships.
None the less there are instances where one can have mind blowing sex with someone they just met.

"It Is De Smell Of Love My Little Pigeon..."

Even the Gods, who walk the sky, are amorous of thy scented sigh…

It seems from the dawn of mankind both sexes have been trying to find a secret way of attracting the opposite sex. There are numerous books written for men to teach them "The art of picking up women" as well as books written for women instructing them on "The art of flirting".
These subliminal "Jedi mind tricks" are designed to help us get what we want without directly asking.

One definition for the word "sexy" is anything that arouses sexual desire or interest.
Unfortunately there's one caveat, we don't all agree on what is sexy.
What is sexy to one person may be tacky or slutty to another person.
Another point to consider is people you don't want to attract will also take an interest in you.
There is no way of saying, "I wore this outfit to attract only him or her."

What makes flirting fun is it allows you to test the

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As I surf the web it seems like there are tons of articles and blogs being posted concerning dating. There are tips for women (How to know what he's thinking, How to get a second date, 10 Signs He's Into You, Why he didn't call you for a second Date….etc)
There are other posts that are geared towards men. (10 Things that turn women off, How soon should you call her after the first Date, 5 Ways to win over her girlfriends…etc)

It's Just A Date

There seems to be a sense of urgency in the air, sweaty palms, and nail biting tension.
Both women and men are caught up in trying to figure out a way to "impress" the other.
Some people actually become so "emotionally invested" in anticipation of the date as if one were already making plans for a wedding. They drive their friends crazy asking countless questions: "What should I wear?" "Where should I take her?" "Do you think I should wear my hair up or down?" "Should I go for a kiss?" and the all time classic "Does this