I'm deep into Before and After, my book about habit-formation. One of the sixteen strategies that I've identified is the Strategy of Treats (which will probably be the favorite strategy of many people). By "treat," I mean something that you give yourself as a…well, treat.
I've been thinking a lot about treats, and of course, I continued to be obsessed by the four Rubin Tendencies. In a nutshell:
The Rubin Tendencies describe how people tend to respond to expectations: outer expectations (a deadline, a "request" from a sweetheart) and inner expectations (write a novel in your free time, keep a New Year's resolution).
Your response to expectations may sound slightly obscure, but it turns out to be very, very important.
In a nutshell:
- Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations (I'm an Upholder, 100%)
- Questioners question all expectations; they'll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense (my husband is a Questioner)
- Rebels resist all