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by Anya Kamenetz for HowAboutWe

If you paddle in the dating pool for any length of time past the high school prom, you're going to accumulate some exes. And if you're on a journey of personal growth (and who isn't? Onward and upward, sweetie!) then, chances are, those relationships ended for a reason and you are, as everyone likes to say, "in a better place now."

But what, then, to do when an ex-'s life is going in a so very different direction, somewhat publicly? You know they represent a part of your life and a piece of your past. But it's also a piece that you consciously chose to leave behind-so how do you have compassion for that cringeworthy person without, well, cringing and worrying how their woes are going to cast a shadow over your life?

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Take these celebrities as inspiration. We all have a few embarrassing exes in our closet-it doesn't mean you can't hold your head high and go on to

Did You Know Hallmark Has 'Troubled Relationship' Cards?By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

This is news to us, but apparently, Hallmark has been selling cards under the "Troubled Relationship" category since 2008. Sentiments include "It's Not Perfect, But It's Ours," and "I Wish I Could Go Back," - because nothing says "Sorry I cheated" better than Hallmark. If your marriage is in trouble, you might consider giving your wife an "Unexpected Turns" Anniversary Card. ("Though this anniversary may come at a time when things are uncertain, your love will give you strength and see you through.")


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Not to miss out on an opportunity for card-giving, the greeting card company is also selling cards geared towards long-distance relationships. (Wish I May, Wish I Might, Be Where You Are Tonight. Love, Chad.)

Plus: And the Single Most Confusing Text From a Man Is…

I'm not going to rail on this too much, because a cheesy mass-printed card is probably better than no card at all. But if

Don't Wait Till You're Perfect to Date (Because That Won't Happen)By Terri Trespicio for HowAboutWe

A woman named Jen recently wrote to ask me if she should stop dating until she lost weight. She was admittedly on the heavy side, but had never tried to mask it in her online profile. She'd gotten some messages and gone on a few dates, but several of the men she'd met would be more interested, they said, if she'd been a few pounds lighter.

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I'm sure that wasn't easy to hear. In fact, ouch. She was ready to quit dating entirely until she could wear a size 6. She was already taking strides to live healthier, and she figured she'd just…wait. Right?

"Not a chance," I told her. Here's why: Because if she waited to be the right weight before she went on another date, she'd likely come up with another excuse once she lost the weight - she needed the right hair or the right job. I reminded her that there is no set height and weight requirement. It's dating. Not the fucking Rockettes.

10 Hilarious Examples of Guys Not Realizing They're Being Hit OnBy Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

Reddit has a seriously entertaining thread going right now of stories of guys just com-plete-ly not getting the hint from girls who were, in retrospect, blatantly interested in them. It just goes to prove that even if you think you're being embarrassingly forward, like, if-this-were-any-clearer-I-could-get-arrested forward, guys still might not get the message.

Here are some of the best tales of guys all over the world who just. Didn't. Get it.

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1. "He had been keen on this one girl who had been flirting with him for weeks, and as we all lived on res at Uni, they were always bumping into one another. Anyway, after a function we all get home very drunk and he receives a text from her complaining that she is incredibly horny and upset because the batteries in her vibrator have run out and wanted to know if he could help her. So being the genius that he is, he takes two AA batteries out

With No Fleet Week, New York's Single Women MournBy Justin Rocket Silverman for HowAboutWe

Imagine 6,000 randy sailors set loose in New York City, with nothing to do but drink and hook up with locals. It's a sure-fire recipe for, well, lots and lots of hooking up. In fact, no other annual ritual (with the possible exception of New Year's Eve) brings as much opportunity for so much love with so little commitment.

Plus: 'Long Walks on the Beach': the Supercut

New York women are used to the yearly phenomenon - it's enough of an institution to have warranted its own "Sex and the City" episode, and there have even been guides written about how to snag a sailor for a night.

So when the Navy announced last month that federal budget cuts meant the cancellation of Fleet Week for the first time since the festival began in 1984, the sound of breaking hearts - or at least, foul tempers - echoed up and down the West Side of Manhattan. Now What Would Have Been Fleet Week is actually here (it would have officially begun this Thursday) the full

'Long Walks on the Beach': the Supercutby HowAboutWe
Make fun all you want, but there's just something about long walks - preferably on the beach - that have made movie characters swoon for decades. As we prepare for the onset of summer, here's a supercut of "long walks" to get you in the beach-going mood.

See how many you can identify (answers below).

Graduates, Here's What You Need to Know About Dating Post-CollegeBy Chiara Atik from HowAboutWe

Just graduated college? Oh, the places you'll go! And also: the people you'll date!

Dating in the real world is a bit - okay, WAY - different from dating in college. The rules change literally the moment you hand in the keys to your dorm room. To help you absorb the culture shock, here are the key tips you'll need to prepare you for this new reality:

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You're Going to Have to Put In a Bit More Effort.

Meeting people in college is as simple as going to class. That is literally all you have to do to meet people. If going to class isn't really your style, there are a myriad of other ways to meet potential love interests - walking across the quad, for example. Going to that party with your roommate. Studying in the library instead of your room. Not to depress you (or sound like the Princeton Mom), but never again will you be presented with so many single, available options of guys

Survey Finds Cheating Via Text is Worse Than Cheating in Real LifeBy Melissa Wall for HowAboutWe

When it comes to the definition of cheating, just about the only thing that all couples agree on is that if you have sex with someone else, that counts (and even then, it all depends on the kind of relationship you have). Still, in an era of digital personalities and cyber-encounters, there are myriad different ways to get into a cheating gray area. Like Facebook messaging exes. Or going into sexy chatrooms. Or sending R-rated texts.

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So what is "cheating," and what is not? The answer, of course, is purely subjective, and depends on the comfort level of each person in the relationship. Still, it's always good to know what everyone else thinks.
And thus the Huffington Post, in partnership with YouGov, set out to poll 1,000 U.S. adults about what they consider to be adulterous behavior. Here are some highlights of the findings:

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