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    • User Post: 5 Ways to Stay Motivated and Reach Your Goals

      By Nelly L. | Working It – Thu, Jun 16, 2011 3:25 AM EDT



      I read somewhere that it takes three weeks to form a habit and that most people quit on their goals in the third or fourth week. If you're anything like me you know that this is unfortunately more than a little bit true at times. It would take all my fingers, toes and probably shoes to count how many times in the past I have set out to accomplish something and then after a few weeks got bored, procrastinated or just moved on to something else conveniently convinced that whatever it was that I was going so hard for all of a sudden wasn't actually that important.

      I am happy to say however that thus far this year, I have turned a complete 180 in terms of staying motivated to follow through even on the days I just wasn't feeling it. I would like to share a few of the techniques that have helped me move from talking the talk to walking the walk and sticking to my goals in 2011.

      1. Write it down and back step it

      If your goal is to lose 20 lbs in 60 days, set an actual goal date and Read More »

    • User Post: Are You Raising Ungrateful Kids?

      By Nelly L. | Parenting – Fri, Apr 22, 2011 8:52 PM EDT

      Whatever happened to saying thank you?

      As a child there were two things that my parents burned into my head. Always say please and always say thank you.

      Birthday gifts, Christmas gifts or whatever gifts ALWAYS warranted a thank you in person, on the phone or through the mail.

      ALWAYS.


      When an out of state relative - even if I hadn't seen them since I was in diapers did something thoughtful like take time out of their busy schedules to shop for me or write a little check, purchase postage and stick it in the mail for me, guess what?

      My mother made sure that I then in turn, took time out of my day to sit down, fill out a thank you note, purchase postage and stick it in the mail to thank them.

      It was sweet, courteous and my mother always taught me that just that little gesture on my part probably made some sort of impact on the recipients day.

      Nowadays if you want to demonstrate appreciation or at the very least, some home training to those who are

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    • User Post: The "Disempowerment" Banks Show

      By Nelly L. | Work + Money – Wed, Apr 6, 2011 10:03 PM EDT

      I am not a fan of Tyra Banks, but I've always respected her as an entrepreneur, business woman and celebrity, who seemingly has good intentions to make a difference in the lives of young girls. In addition, I am most definitely not a fan of her talk show. However, I recently caught an episode of The Tyra Banks show and tuned in just in time for the most disempowering advice I've ever heard delivered to a group of young woman since Two Live Crew asked women everywhere to "pop that"…ahem…thing.

      On this particular episode, which Tyra called a "social experiment" on trading popularity, a group of unpopular teen girls and a group of popular teen girls from the same high school apparently swapped social status in a mock setting to gain insight into what the other side experiences on an average day.

      At the end of the episode both groups of girls participated as a panel to share their hearts and in some brave cases apologize to each other.

      Here's where Tyra totally destroys any

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