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    • The Dos and Don'ts of the First Phone Call

      By Punky Ohara | Love + Sex – Tue, Nov 13, 2012 9:19 PM EST

      Do Not CallDo Not Call1. DO NOT wait more than 3 days to call a woman you spent less than 5 minutes speaking with ("hitting on"). The reason you shouldn't wait to call is because you're going to sound pretty lame when you have to say, "I'm the guy with the shirt that said, 'I love cookies'", to remind her who you are. And you WILL have to remind her (whether she remembers you or not ) if she's a single woman that many men find attractive. You're probably not the only one she gave her number to that week or even that day.

      2. DO call her between the hours of 7-9pm. This should be about the time that she's winding down if it's a week day or just before she's about to get ready to go out with the girls, if it's a weekend. This is not a booty call nor is it a play date. This is the age of the text message; you can use that to your advantage and text her first. It breaks the ice and you won't have to hear her say, "I'll have to call you back," if it's a bad time.

      3. In the case that it's a good

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    • Say it NOW!

      By Punky Ohara | Love + Sex – Mon, Nov 12, 2012 1:41 PM EST

      I like to think that I'm a smart and rational person. I would never jump off of a building if I wasn't a 100% sure that the alternative outcome was worse than two broken legs. What's worst than two broken legs? Ending a loving relationship in the heat of an argument over a jacket. The jacket was NOT the issue, of course, but that didn't stop it from being mentioned over 10 times during that hour long blowup. A blowup that would have never ignited if I had said what needed to be said the second I became aware of what I needed to express to her.

      I knew a month or two prior that I was feeling as if she and I were intimately unraveling. We were losing that quiet passion we had developed over the years. A passion that hides like a cat waiting to pounce the second either of us walked through the door; and it wasn't a fast happening, but in fact, very slowly. Though, very noticeably, and that shook me. It didn't matter that I felt it in our everyday conversations or when we lay down for Read More »