Blog Posts by MJ Acharya

Do any of you men and women watch Entourage? Well on this week's episode, Season 6, Episode 10 "Berried Alive," Eric broke up with his girlfriend, Ashley, just the way that you're supposed to break up with a person. Since a lot of you ask me how to break up with someone the right way, I think this episode is a good guide.

Eric met Ashely in a restaurant, ordered drinks and then told her exactly how he felt. He told her that she said that she wasn't crazy when they first met, even though she acted nuts, and he gave her the benefit of the doubt. However, she only calmed down for a short while and then funneled her "crazy" back into the relationship. He then gave specific examples as to why everything she does "points to crazy." Ashley totally blew up in the restaurant, but she only ended up making a fool of herself.

Eric was honest, up front and didn't leave the conversation with a, "Can we still be friends?" He basically said, "So long. See you around." He made a clean break

When you begin dating again after a break up, it's easy to fall into the same dating rut with a new person. This could be because the individual you're dating is a mirror image of your ex, or because you are acting out the same relationship that you had with your ex. For example, he may mirror your ex in looks, actions, personal beliefs and motivations. So if you used to date an alcoholic and your new boyfriend is an alcoholic, you may be attracted to someone you need to take care of. If you used to date a control freak and now you're dating another one, you may be attracted to men that are overbearing and insecure about your activities when he is not around.

Be careful Broken Hearted Girl. If things start going down a path that you're very familiar with (the same path you went down with your ex), use your head and not your heart. Here are some things you can do to beat relationship deja vu.

Pay attention to your friends' and family's reactions to your new beau. If they tell

A lot of people ask me, "why should I follow the 'no contact' rule? When do I decide to start it? What does it do for me? What can I hope for it to accomplish in the end?" And I'm all for helping you. So I'm going to try to answer this question as best as I can, given the knowledge I've gained from speaking with literally thousands of broken hearts all around the world.

(These rules apply to BOTH men and women, but since I'm a woman, I wrote it from a woman's POV).

When should I start "no contact"? Start it when you:

• Call, text or email him relentlessly after the breakup, only to receive no response.
• Drive by his house and/or work to confront him, or just to catch a glimpse of him.
• Call his friends and family members to talk about him, only to receive no response, or a cold reception.
• In addition to these points, begin "no contact" if you do anything in general that makes you feel like a complete fool.

What does following the "no contact" rule do for

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt began publicity dating immediately after Pitt's split from Jennifer Anniston was announced (probably even before then). And now, LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian were spotted recently out on the links in Valencia, CA. Both separated from their spouses about a month ago. Do you think it's too soon for them to be seen together? When is it appropriate to start publicly dating someone after a separation?




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So you and your partner have decided to separate. And now you have to chart this new territory. If your separation is mutual and you and your partner are both interested in working on the relationship, then here are some things to consider:

1) Set a period of time for the separation. Be it 1 month or 6 months, agree on the length of time.

2) Figure out your love lives. If you're really interested in working on the relationship, then agree to a NO DATING rule.

3) Go to counseling if you can both agree to it. If you're going to work on the relationship, then a counselor can be a great facilitator to reaching that common goal.

4) Set some contact rules. If you're going to be apart, then be apart. Only make phone calls when necessary. You'll see one another at counseling every week, so take this time alone to grow.

Feel better!

MJ

Dear BrokenHeartedGirl,

A lot of people ask me the complicated question that goes - "how do I get over my ex?" And I think everyone knows that you can't answer that question in one article. Everyone has a different situation, a different timeline and different values. It's unfair to lump everyone into one category, which is why I offer a book that tailors your breakup recovery exercises to your specific situation. But here's a tip that everyone can use:

You know how when you break up with your ex, he's (she's) the only thing you can think about? You stare at your computer and think about him, you watch television and every movie reminds you of him, you hang out with your girlfriends and every guy at the bar/restaurant/ice cream parlor looks like him? It's torture, right? But that's not the worst part. The worst part is when you're lying in bed at night and all you can think about are all of the intimate times you shared with him. Or you lie in bed and just replay every

So, we all heard earlier this week that Richard Jefferson dumped his wife before their wedding day. "Okay, that sucks," I thought, "but at least they figured it out before they were married."

Today I was at the party store and Inside Edition or something was on and I heard that Jefferson actually dumped his fiance, Kesha Ni'Cole via email. I couldn't believe it, so I went home and started searching the internet. Sure enough, it actually happened that way.

Now we all know how I feel about dumping a person electronically but it does happen. But I figured that was just for people who were dating and wanted to take the coward's way out. Ok, I have heard someone on my forum speak about how she was told she was getting divorced over email, but I figured that was a rare anomaly. I never thought (however naively) that someone in the public spotlight would be crude enough to dump his fiance via email the eve before their wedding - KNOWING that it would get out to the public and he'd look like

The National Enquirer reported that Morgan Freeman and his wife were filing divorce papers just about a year ago.

They then reported that Morgan Freeman and his wife were getting divorced because he was having an affair with his step-granddaughter.

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They are now reporting that Morgan Freeman is going to marry his step-granddaughter, a la Woody Allen.

Now, the Enquirer was the first to break news of the John Edwards affair, so I understand why some of the major blogs are picking up this story and citing it as fact. However, it is the National Enquirer. Lest you forget, some of their past headlines include: Town in panic over 2,000 UFO sightings' and `I'm a Cher wannabe in a man's body.'

All the sources cited in this disturbing Morgan Freeman story are "family friends." Nothing has been confirmed by a publicist, so basically this is all rumor and conjecture. So before you go posting the story on your blog as FACT, remember the source of the story.