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- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Oct 18, 2012 11:10 PM EDT
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Oct 16, 2012 10:29 AM EDT
Vintage phoneRead More »from Can Long-Distance Relationships Ever Work? and for How Long?
Each week, three of EMandLO.com's guy friends share their advice. This week they answer the following: " Can long-distance relationships ever work? If so, how, and for how long? " Click here to ask the guys your own question.
Single Straight Guy (Colin Adamo): Some people like the structured aspect of a relationship: getting off from work, heading home, cooking dinner, and talking to their sweetheart to find out what s/he did today. And this can all be achieved with distance. For some people, this isn't boring at all. It's like the missionary position of relationships - many of us would sigh at its boredom, but for some couples it really does the trick. If you need a few more metaphorical positions in your romantic interactions, this set up just isn't sustainable. If you know it's going to be less than a year or that you can commute back and forth every other weekend, you can probably bring enough energy to the relationship to make it last. Otherwise you might need to switch
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Fri, Oct 12, 2012 4:10 PM EDT
Olivia Wilde is one of those actresses we are completely familiar with (thanks Us Weekly!) without having a clue about her career. We're assuming she plays exotic queens in far off lands from long, long ago whose beauty knights kill for? And apparently she was in some TV show? Suffice it to say, she's no Meryl Streep-or Lena Dunham, for that matter. So we were surprised to hear that she dished some seriously deep thoughts about her vagina in a recent appearance. The event was "These Girls," a night of monologues hosted by Glamour magazine at Joe's Pub in New York City earlier this week. She told the audience (which included her current boyfriend, SNL's Jason Sudeikis) that when her previous marriage ended, "I felt like my vagina died. Turned off. Lights out. ... And you can lie to your relatives at Christmas dinner and tell them everything on the home front is just peachy. But you cannot lie to your vagina."
In an interview with NY mag's Vulture after the show, she elaborated,Read More »from Deconstructing Olivia Wilde's Deep Thoughts About Her Nether Regions
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Oct 10, 2012 5:30 PM EDT
I'm not sure if I'm going to word this correctly, but here it goes. I'm 20 years old and am engaged to a wonderful man who has blessed me with a son. Before I met him I had a bad life and I had been raped 3 times. Lately during sex we have talked about what we could experiment with but rape fantasies are all I can think about. I've looked up on Google to see if anyone else has a similar question but no one has. I'm concerned that these "fantasies" aren't normal for a rape victim. I know studies show that women like to be dominated but for a rape victim it should be different. In your opinion, should I seek mental help? Or do you think this is normal for me?
-- Confused & Conflicted
First, let us start out by saying we are not professional therapists or medical professionals. But as writers on the topic of sexuality for the past 15 years, everything we've read and heard about rape fantasies -- or, as we prefer to call them, ravishmentRead More »from Are My Rape Fantasies Normal...If I'm a Rape Survivor?
In honor of the 40th anniversary of the Joy of Sex (1972), the Guardian's Observer just chose the top 10 best sex guides ever. A friend of ours on Facebook gave us a heads up about the list, saying they saved the best for last. Yes, we're honored to say our illustrated guide SEX: How to Everything is #10! And we feel so privileged to be included alongside the likes of The Kama Sutra, Ovid's The Art of Love and the late 60s classic Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex (But Were Afraid to Ask). Here's what they had to say about why you should really check out SEX: How to Everything -- we couldn't agree more!: SEX: How to Everything: A sex guide for the Agent Provocateur generation, this handsome 2008 coffee-table volume was written by sex columnists Emma Taylor and Lorelei Sharkey and explicitly shot by A-list photographer Rankin. New Yorkers "Em & Lo" were described in this newspaper as "real-life Carrie Bradshaws, the Trinny and Susannah of blow jobs". Their unisex but especiallyRead More »from The Guardian Picks the Best 10 Sex Guides EVER
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Oct 3, 2012 10:59 AM EDT
Teddy with flowersRead More »from Are Men Really Romantic or Do They Just Fake It?
Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "Are most men romantics, or is romance something guys simply do to keep their partner happy?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): I think the majority of men are not inherently romantic. But, is it really that bad if they do it to keep their partner happy? If it's sincere, then it shouldn't matter if it's a core characteristic or not. Now, those of us who are romantic are going to be way better at it than those who aren't, because it's part of our personality, but that only means it's better for the woman we're romancing. Don't discount a guy just because he's not a romantic at heart. He's still doing it for you.
Married Straight Guy (Ben D.): I don't think that most guys are romantics. It's not that we don't love our wife/girlfriend, it's just something we don't think about. I've always thought that things like flowers and jewelry are fluff. I think
Lelo's sex & career infographic (excerpt)Luxury sex toy maker LELO recently created this infographic (included below), which could be more simply titled "5 Reasons Why More Sex Helps Your LIFE." A few thoughts on each point:
- Honestly, in this recession, we think most people would take the raise over the sex (including us).
- Yes! Sex beats shopping every time. (Or at least it should.)
- Wait: Married couples having sex a little more than once a week leads to more frustration, fights and tension because that's not enough? Seems kind of like a glass-is-half-empty analysis of the data, if you ask us.
- Sex cleans your pores, prevents wrinkles and age spots, and gives your skin a healthy glow? Sounds like this came from the "semen is good for your skin" study out of Teanboi University. We do, however, agree wholeheartedly that if the average woman is spending $75 on facials per month (WTF?!), she could put that time and money to much better use (e.g. in some quality alone time with our Toy of the Month).
Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "How do you define what constitutes sex? Is it penetration (with anything or just a penis)? Oral attention? Mutual orgasms? Mutual naked pleasure? etc." To ask the Wise Guys your own question,
angelo_nikolopoulos_100Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow): After being single for ____ months, lighting a scented candle before touching myself, as far as I'm concerned, qualifies as sex. So, clearly, you're asking the wrong gay. But in more prosperous times, anything that exposed me to the illogical possibility of contracting an STI qualified as sex. Call me a thrill-seeker if you want, but if there's no potential for a rash or sore, then I'm not interested.
chris_diclericoStraight Single Guy (Chris): I'm not sure my opinion on this represents the majority of people I know, but I actually think sex is a penis inside a vagina. It seems to me that other sex acts are far less serious andRead More »from How Do Most Men Define "Sex?