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Our friend Amy K at a Target nurse-in

After a woman was recently asked to move to the changing rooms at a Texas Target to nurse her child, she and other breastfeeding advocates organized a national nurse-in at Target stores across the country last week on December 28th. A writer-friend of ours, Amy Keyishian, went to her local store and took a, shall we say, spirited picture of herself nursing her kid (above), which caused quite a, shall we say, stir. Her writer friend, Marjorie Ingall, jumped to her defense in what we would call a spot-on analysis of why so many people freak out whenever a boob gets whipped out in public to feed a baby. So, what do you think? Should nursing be a private thing between mother and child? Is public breastfeeding okay, so long as it's not in-your-face (i.e. not at a restaurant without a boob-burka or, say, while pushing your kid in a Target cart)? Or do we as a society need to accept the fact that breasts aren't just sexual objects to be ogled by men and all chill out?

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A bed to sleep in.

Dear Em & Lo ,
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm 21, he's 28. He's the only person to ever perform oral sex on me, so while I have no one to compare him too, I know that he is bad at it. He pushes his entire face on my lady region and just moves side to side, as if that is supposed to feel good. He hardly uses his tongue and I don't think he even understands he needs to focus on my little man in the boat. After 3 years, I have no idea how to tell him that he's not doing it right. Help!
-- Suffering in Silence

Dear SiS,

Oh dear. We're tempted to tell you to dump this guy and start over with a new one, because it's a million times harder to teach an old partner new tricks. This is in large part because there's no easy way to say, "You've been screwing up for three years and I just never got around to telling you." How would his ego ever recover from such a blow? How would he ever know to trust your sexual response in bed again? This is why we emphasize again

Gloria Steinem, a prominent feminist of the 20th century
Advice from three of Em & Lo's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What do most guys think of feminism: a successful movement that's not needed any more, an eternal campaign of whiney man-haters, or a philosophy that makes the world a better place for both men and women?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Single Bisexual Guy (Jack): I grew up in a very matriarchal family, and I have always had female teachers, supervisors, even mentors. I directly credit one woman, in particular, for helping me to advance dramatically in my career. It's always been a non-issue for me - women are just as intelligent, talented and productive as men, and can be as successful if given the same opportunities. I can't speak for all guys, but I know for many guys my age and younger, it's a non-issue. We believe in equality and we get the whole feminist viewpoint, and we even get that we're going to continue to be blamed for being male just because men have been such morons for so

Each week Em & Lo bring you predictions and suggestions for your love and sex life via their Weekly Horoscopes:

aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
You know how sometimes you go all out to impress someone - candle-lit meal, "seductive" music, fine wine, edible underwear - and they show up all drunk and could care less? Sucks, doesn't it? Fortunately, this week your efforts will be appreciated. Though you might want to rethink the underwear.

taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
Trust your intuition: If someone feels good to be around, then they're probably good for you. Either that or they're wearing a great cashmere sweater and you keep rubbing up against it. In which case, second-guess your intuition until you've spent time with them in a less luxurious fabric.

gemini (May 21st-June 21st)
Stop making excuses and join in the fun. Get out and take part in some damn social activities. Don't waste time sitting at home alone watching reruns of Top Chef on Tivo, not when this is

This time is for ME

Feeling down in the dumps because you're going to be single for Christmas and New Year's?

You're not alone. Well, sure, you're alone in the sense that you don't have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you're not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of trailers for overly sentimental flicks featuring inspirational sports teams/family reunions/elf costumes, all those extra Kay Jewelers commercials (that actually make us pine for the Coors twins), and the music about love and joy that's piped into every pharmacy - despite all that, love is not, actually, all around. There's war and infidelity and existential crises and depression and recession and people in those pharmacies fighting and pushing to get to the front of the line with their gift wrap, emergency box of tampons, and prescription meds. It only feels like love's all around because single people don't spend as much money on holiday gifts and activities, so as far as

Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "Do most guys still fantasize about other people when they're in a relationship? During masturbation or during sex with their partner, or both?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.
what's your fantasy?
Married Straight Guy (Irad Eyal ofSexdegrees.net): Fantasize? What does that mean "fantasize"? If by fantasize you mean think about with a desire to replace the person you're with, then no, absolutely not. That's crazy talk. But if by fantasize you mean day dream about in a sexy alternate universe where people you know do wonderful unexplainable things to you, then of course. I'm pretty in-the-moment during couples activities and I don't possess the buddhist-power to clear the intercourse-monkey-chatter and replace it with fantasies, but during alone time, why not. When you're in a relationship, your thoughts are one of the few things you have complete control over! If I can't decide the color of my bath towels,

via flickr
Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What's a good holiday present for 1) a guy you've just started dating (sleeping with), 2) a guy you've been exclusive with for a year or so, 3) a husband? To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Married Straight Guy (Jake):
Sexy gift idea / Normal, but awesome gift idea:
1) A bottle of bourbon / A bottle of bourbon
2) A surprise night in a nice hotel / A turntable and some vinyl
3) Erotica / A classy silver pocket watch

Single Straight Guy (Megan): One of the best presents I have ever received was a bouquet of flowers. I think that would be acceptable in all three of these circumstances, especially if you just started sleeping with the guy. Of course, this would be an admission that you are genuinely interested in him so if you don't want to take the risk that he may not reciprocate the sentiment, do something manly/boyish. Go to a game with him or a concert or whatever it is you know he likes

birth control pills
If a male birth control pill hit the market today, would you rely on it? Would it be a relief to let the guy take responsibility for a change, or would you find it hard to trust a guy to take the pill correctly and consistently?