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If a male birth control pill hit the market today, would you rely on it? Would it be a relief to let the guy take responsibility for a change, or would you find it hard to trust a guy to take the pill correctly and consistently?

When in a relationship do you start to leave the bathroom door open - after the first sleepover? First sex? First anal sex? After you've met the parents? Never? And yes, we know it depends on what's happening in said bathroom… feel free to make a distinction in your answers! (By the way, it turns out that readers of EMandLO.com require UTMOST privacy when it comes to tooth-brushing. Who knew?!)
MORE FROM EM & LO:

• How Women Should Ask Men Out
• Who Works Harder During Sex, Men or Women?
• Your Sex and Love Dreams Interpreted

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions every few weeks on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own question, click here.

Dear Dr. Kate,

Why does it hurt to stimulate my clitoris and what can I do about it?

- Mrs. C

Dear Mrs. C.,

The clitoris is the biggest concentration of nerve endings in the body. And like teenagers at an emo concert, they can be extremely sensitive. Many women can't bear direct touch to the clitoris - like looking directly at the sun, it causes more pain than pleasure. Try touching your clitoris through the clitoral hood-approach it from the side-or even through your underwear. Experiment with gentle touch as well, and you'll figure out how much pressure is perfect to make you feel great.

- Dr. Kate
Gynotalk

• How Women Should Ask Men Out
• Who Works Harder During Sex, Men or Women?
• Your Sex and Love Dreams Interpreted

Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What do you wish you had known about relationships when you were younger?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Married Straight Guy (Irad Eyal of Sexdegrees.net): I'm going to take this way back and interpret "younger" to mean 13. I rode the (big) yellow bus to junior high and every day I would sit behind Nicole, the most beautiful girl in school. Or at least on the bus. And I had a huge crush on her (awww). And somehow I wrangled a situation where we held hands on the ride, me leaning forward against the back of her bench with my arm wrenched over the top and our sweaty palms engaged (ewww). It was exquisite torture. We did this for weeks. And yet, it never occurred to me that she might actually like me, and that I could take this to the next level… getting laid or trading friendship bracelets or whatever comes after handholding. And then it was over (ohhh). I was an idiot. But what I've

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz - you can read her blog here - has a confession to make:
I love to travel with my boyfriend, mostly because getting a hotel room together is so much fun. A change of scenery not only helps clear my mind, but it inspires me in bed. Here are seven excuses to book your next reservation.

1. Freedom of expression. You get to be as loud as you want. There are no worries about bothering your roommate, your 'rents or your neighbors. Even if someone in the hotel overhears, it's exciting to show off all the fun you're having! (And chances are, they'll be too embarrassed to complain to the front desk anyway.)
2. New sensations. There are new sensations when you're in a different bed. The mattress and sheets not only look different, they feel different. Use those differences to help you live out an alternate reality: Pretend you're having a secret affair or you snuck into a

The answer is simple: Velcro wrist restraints! Here are ten reasons to love them.

1. Regular handcuffs can be mighty uncomfortable after a few minutes-in fact, the police-issue kind can actually cause nerve damage. But Velcro cuffs are built for comfort.

2. Sure, there's something sexy about undoing your own or your man's tie and co-opting it for your own kinky purposes, but the harder you pull on D.I.Y. cuffs like this, the tighter the knots get. And nothing spoils a good bondage sesh like having to take a pair of scissors to a $100 silk tie.

3. If your nosy aunt goes poking around in your bedroom next time she comes over for tea, she might just think you're into arts and crafts when she finds a pile of Velcro in your nightstand.

4. Industrial-strength Velcro is surprisingly hard to escape from.

5. …That said, your captor can release you in a second, if need be.

6. Velcro has cool retro appeal, like a pair of '80s sneakers.

7. Then there's that sexy Velcro

A few new men have joined the ranks of our Wise Guys! They've all answered the following question: "What's the best way for a woman to ask a guy out?" Meet half of them below, then tune in next Tuesday to meet the rest!
Married Bisexual Guy (Bryan Sebeck): It's not as simple as it sounds, but be direct, confident, and unambiguous. First, guys are pretty terrible at reading subtext. Unless you're pretty blunt with us, we won't notice that you're actually asking us out because we're too busy trying to figure out the best way to ask you out. You don't need to hit us over the head with the obvious stick to get your point across, but you'll need to be a little more direct than you think you ought to be. Second: guys love confident women. The problem is that there is a fine line between confident and intimidating. The intimidating thing works with some guys (I have a thing for women who can beat me up), but stick with just confident unless you know him very well. Smile, make eye contact,

Alyssa Perez, an intern over at EMandLO.com, has a confession to make:

1. No Constraints: Do a lunge! Kick your legs! Spin in a circle while swinging your arms! Feel that? Yeah, just air. No clothes rustling, no bra pinching, no underwear bunching, just air.

2. Transparency: I can see absolutely everything on my body, and you know what? That roll that I thought I had peeking out of the top of my jeans while I was bent over in a weird yoga position while trying to reach my pencil that rolled under the bed and between the wall/headboard/dresser… well, its not there at all! Yeah, I look pretty damn good without any waistbands pinching me!

3. BOOBIES!: Yes, although I have owned a pair for over a decade now, I am still amazed by how these babies jiggle, and wiggle, and squish, and feel. Look at them in all their glory! No wonder men love these. I love these!

6. Yes, Jiggling Is a Good Thing: I mentioned how fantastic jiggling boobs are, well, jiggling in general can