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We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below, or join the debate already underway here.

My boyfriend just told me he was bisexual. He said in the past he has had sex with other men, but that it will never happen again. I want to believe him. I'm pregnant with his baby and he said he wants to get married. My problem is I don't know if I can handle knowing that and still stay with him. I know it's in his past, but how do I know it will stay there? As of right now I cant even look at him without feeling disgust, and I can't stop crying because he's still the love of my life. But I just dont know how to cope with what he's done, or what he might do. I really don't know how to feel ok with it, as bad as I want to, I still find it repulsive. Please help.

- Knocked Up and

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz - you can read her blog here - has a confession to make:
I think we can all agree now that plenty of women enjoy masturbation at least as much as men. But the way women enjoy masturbation can vary widely -- and many need a bit of extra help getting themselves in the mood. I like to think that my masturbation dates deserve just as much seduction as my partner explorations. So here are my 5 suggestions for fashioning an unforgettable night in with yourself:

1. Mood Music. I have an iTunes playlist covertly entitled 'rr' for rabbit rock (named after my rabbit vibrator, naturally). Every time I find a song that would be a good romp session anthem, I add it to my self-loving rr soundtrack. This is also fun because later when you hear one of the songs -- at a party, say, or in the supermarket -- you are reminded of those same tingles you felt before and it becomes a private

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below or join the debate already in progress here.

I wrote to you about three years ago about how my upstairs neighbor was my ex-bf and that I needed to continue living there for school. Now, at 24, I find myself in a much stickier and more unsavory situation. Same boy and I got back together after that, fell in love, and after getting things to a very healthy and stable place, moved in together about 8 months ago. Now, we just broke up, as our jobs and lives are moving in different directions. I cannot move out until I've found myself an apartment. He can afford the entire rent on his own, once I'm gone. Any tips for weathering the storm? I really want to avoid spending nights at my parents' house or moving back in with them, as I feel

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Every few weeks, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, tackles questions about male sexuality on EMandLO.com. To ask Dr. Joe your own question, click here.

Dear Dr. Joe,

I've heard a penis can be broken during sex. How does it happen and what does it entail? And is it then broken forever, or can it be fully fixed?

- Ain't Broke

Dear A.B.,

Sometimes it's good to review the basics - you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it's been a while or you've gotten into a rut or you're simply not as confident as you'd like to be in the oral skills department. If you happen to fall into any of these categories, then check out the basic steps below to help get you over the hump, as it were. (For those of you with female partners, check out our oral tips for her!)

• Don't always wait for him to ask: surprise him with it when he least expects it (or when he's had a particularly bad day at work).
• It's like The Little Engine Who Could: If you think you're great at oral sex, then you will be. Confidence is key.
• Tie your hair back (or have him gently hold it back for you) to keep any stray strands from getting in your way and to give him a better view.
• Having full disclosure about potential STDs and using a condom if necessary will help you better focus on the

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below, or join the debate already underway here.

I hate my boobs. I'm really self-conscious about them. So I really like keeping a bra on during sex. How much of a bummer is that for guys? And do you think it's at all possible to find a guy who'd be okay with me keeping that part of my bod covered up during sex a majority of the time?

- Breast Intentions

What should B.I. do? Leave your advice below, or join the debate already underway here.

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• Who Works Harder During Sex, Men or Women?
• 10 Reasons to Love Shower Sex
• Study Shows Active Parenting Reduces Testosterone in Men

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz - you can read her blog here - has a confessionto make:

I am a total believer in water as a form of therapy. It relaxes me like nothing else, which is why I decided to make the shower the first place I ever masturbated, way back when. So I think, why not bring my partner into that space every now and then too? Being in my partner's arms under the hot shower head is one of the warmest and most intimate moments I know. And so, for all the shower sex haters out there (ahem, including right on EMandLO.com ), here are my top 10 reasons why shower sex is affectionate, practical, and hot. No, really.

1. The shower is the only place where you can use the shower head as a sex toy.
2. It's good to mix things up -- the shower is a new place to do it, and, unlike a hotel room, it's free.
3. Got roommates? The running water of the shower disguises your glory moans.
4. Even