We are running this poll over on EMandLO.com where currently the only candidate without any votes is Newt Gingrich. How will you Shine readers come down on the issue?
Of the MALE Republican presidential candidates, who is the sexiest?
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Every few weeks, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, tackles questions about male sexuality on EMandLO.com. To ask Dr. Joe your own question, click here.
Dear Dr. Joe,
I've heard a penis can be broken during sex. How does it happen and what does it entail? And is it then broken forever, or can it be fully fixed?
- Ain't Broke
Dear A.B.,
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Sometimes it's good to review the basics - you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it's been a while or you've gotten into a rut or you're simply not as confident as you'd like to be in the oral skills department. If you happen to fall into any of these categories, then check out the basic steps below to help get you over the hump, as it were. (For those of you with female partners, check out our oral tips for her!)
• Don't always wait for him to ask: surprise him with it when he least expects it (or when he's had a particularly bad day at work).
• It's like The Little Engine Who Could: If you think you're great at oral sex, then you will be. Confidence is key.
• Tie your hair back (or have him gently hold it back for you) to keep any stray strands from getting in your way and to give him a better view.
• Having full disclosure about potential STDs and using a condom if necessary will help you better focus on the
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below, or join the debate already underway here.
I hate my boobs. I'm really self-conscious about them. So I really like keeping a bra on during sex. How much of a bummer is that for guys? And do you think it's at all possible to find a guy who'd be okay with me keeping that part of my bod covered up during sex a majority of the time?
- Breast Intentions
What should B.I. do? Leave your advice below, or join the debate already underway here.
EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz - you can read her blog here - has a confessionto make:
I am a total believer in water as a form of therapy. It relaxes me like nothing else, which is why I decided to make the shower the first place I ever masturbated, way back when. So I think, why not bring my partner into that space every now and then too? Being in my partner's arms under the hot shower head is one of the warmest and most intimate moments I know. And so, for all the shower sex haters out there (ahem, including right on EMandLO.com ), here are my top 10 reasons why shower sex is affectionate, practical, and hot. No, really.
Hey, hey, it's a brand new feature on EMandLO.com that we thought we'd share on Shine! Occasionally, we'll ask you guys an impertinent question, and you can share your answer in the comments section below or on our home site. Feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, sexuality, etc., if you feel that it's relevant to the answer. So, this week's question:
How long should intercourse last for, ideally? Forget foreplay, forget oral, forget all the other stuff that makes sex sex -- we just want to know what your personal preference is for the old in-out.
("None" is a perfectly acceptable answer, by the way!) Oh, and please do explain your answer, list exceptions, blah blah blah.
Okay... dish!
The following is an email exchange that occurred over the past few months with an EMandLO.com reader about how hating her imperfect body was keeping her from having sex with a smoking hot guy:
Butter Body: Hey, Em & Lo! So, I think that I just might (fingers, eyes, everything but legs crossed) get cozy with a guy I've been crushing on forever. We're friends, but frequently get a bit romantic when we hang out and naughty-text once in a while. I would love to have a relationship with him. He's funny, adorable, and we get along so well. Then there's the problem. He's HOT. I'm talking smoke show. Super muscular and athletic, cute face, perfect teeth - the whole shebang. All of my friends think he's a babe. However, I am not physically perfect. Far from it. Don't get me wrong, I think I'm quite pretty, but I have lost 140 pounds, and had a baby. So basically my body is WRECKED. I really need a tummy tuck (or three), but I can't afford it and insurance doesn't cover it. And no, it's not like
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions on EMandLO.com every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here.
Dear Dr. Kate,
I've read your post "Why Does My Vagina Taste Bitter Sometimes?" Okay, so I do smoke and drink. If I stop drinking and smoking right now, how long will it take for that "bitter taste" to go away?
- Little Miss Vice
Dear L.M.V.,
That's a great question, to which I only have a lame answer. I don't know for sure. It's difficult to predict how quickly your body would respond to getting rid of the toxins in cigarettes - it may take a week, and it may take a whole menstrual cycle. But it should work at some point, and I enthusiastically applaud any efforts to quit smoking in particular. So know that you're doing the best thing for your health, and a great thing for your vagina.
- Dr. Kate
Gynotalk
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below or join the debate already in progress here:
Dear Em & Lo,
I have a younger lover and am trying to keep up with his more liberal sex choices, one of them being that he likes to hear "dirty talk." I took a test and it said that I am a more conventional type that likes touch and tactile stimulation, but he says he can only get off with conversation. I tried but he just laughed at my attempts. What's a girl to do?
-- Tongue Tied
What should TT do? Read Em & Lo's advice on how to talk dirty without being dirty.
Sometimes the questions we get asked at EMandLO.com don't require a long complex essay to answer -- to us, they seem pretty cut and dry. But a three-word advice post could read a little cold. And yet we hate to leave people hanging. So we've upped the word count by putting a few of these types of questions into one single article. Behold: The Lightening Round!
What do I do if my boyfriend won't use a condom & expects me to "trust" him?
You break up with him.
I'm a sophomore in college. I wanted to get your advice about how I know if I'm ready to lose my virginity.
We're inclined to say "You'll just know" but that's a terrible answer. You'll know you're ready when you've found a guy you trust who you want to have sex with -- not because you feel you're old enough or because all your friends are doing it or because you just want to get it over with, but because you actually want to exchange physical naked pleasure with this person and that sober* impulse is driving you crazy. (But not
