Dear Em & Lo,
When my boyfriend and I first got together and started having sex he asked me how I thought it was. I told him it was alright. Well, he took it as a negative thing and now he doesn't want to have sex with me because he thinks I don't enjoy it. I have told him a lot of times that I really do enjoy it, but he still doesn't believe me. What should I do now?
-- Foot in Mouth
First of all, let this be a lesson to all the luvvers out there: no one ever wants to be told that they're "all right" in bed. Three-day old pizza is all right, one of Julia Roberts' lesser movies is all right, and so is flying coach. But sex? Of course your boyfriend took "all right" as a negative thing, we don't blame him! You may as well have shrugged your shoulders and said, "Eh."
We're guessing that an argument of semantics ("I meant all right as in, 'Aw-right!!! Yeah!!'") isn't going to work here, so all you can do is lead by example.
- Initiate sex...a lot. The