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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "Pop culture is filled with examples of how women deal with breakups. How do most guys deal with really bad breakups?" To ask the guys your own question,click here.
Straight Married Guy (Matt): It really depends on the guy and the breakup, but as a general rule, guys definitely try to go out and hook up as much as possible as quickly as possible. And that's pretty much it. No long talks, no ice cream, no sad movies, we just want to get out there and give our damaged ego a boost as soon as is humanly possible.
Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): This depends of course entirely on the man, and I think it's impossible to suggest how "most guys" deal with really bad breakups, when every man is different. Some will collect all their stuff and go out with someone new the next night, others will shutter themselves in their homes and weep away the days. It will all depend on the length, intensity and commitment
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Wooden HourglassRead More »from Wise Guys: What Would You Do as a Woman for a Day?
Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What would you do if you had one day to be and think like a woman?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Straight Married Guy (Ben): The very first thing I'd do is make out with my wife -- so hot when she kisses other women. And really, I hate to be so cliche, but I'm probably like 9 out of 10 guys in that, with just one day as a woman, I'd prolly focus in on the physical experience of being a woman. In other words, lots of sex -- lots of it with my wife and lots of it with whatever guys I could find (don't worry, all okayed by my wife should this ever occur, as long as I play safe, she says). I'd probably have to leave the house at some point for more supplies (food, condoms, men, etc.) and I imagine it'd be at that point that I'd find out all about things like objectification, sexism and just how terrible men are as a class. This, I figure would be completely overwhelming and depressing.
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Jan 26, 2012 4:18 PM EST
Top Secret FilesRead More »from Your Call: Where Should a Husband/Stepfather's Loyalties Lie when it Comes to Secrets?
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. And frankly, this one is a doozie. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below or joining the debate already in progress here. Dear Em & Lo, My stepdaughter just confided in me she had recently lost her virginity with her boyfriend. She's fifteen and doesn't want me to tell her mom. She said that I'm the only one she feels comfortable talking about sex with. I've always taught her to practice safe sex, choose her potential partners carefully, and to be discreet about her personal choices. What do you suggest about her request not to tell mom? I don't want to betray her trust, but I'd also like to avoid the scalding hot water I'll be in if it ever gets out I held onto this piece of info. -- The Secret Sharer What should T.S.S. do?
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Advice from three of Em and Lo's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What would you tell a guy who was intimidated by the idea of his partner bringing sex toys into the bedroom?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): Men take a certain amount of pride in their bedroom abilities, and despite the fact that we intellectually know most women can't orgasm from insertion alone, it bums us out. However, letting a guy know that his anatomy is acceptable (almost too acceptable, really) and that you just have different needs goes a long way towards soothing his ego. Throw in something about the mystery of female sexuality and that you'll let him hold the device in question, thus providing him additional "skin in the game," and it should be gravy. Unless he's a jerk or a baby head.
Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): The dead cliché answer would be to remind him that they're only called "toys" and "novelties" to get around puritanical blue
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We get a lot of advice questions, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader . Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below.
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Mon, Jan 9, 2012 4:58 PM EST
Our friend Amy K at a Target nurse-inRead More »from When, If Ever, is Nursing in Public Too In-Your-Face?
After a woman was recently asked to move to the changing rooms at a Texas Target to nurse her child, she and other breastfeeding advocates organized a national nurse-in at Target stores across the country last week on December 28th. A writer-friend of ours, Amy Keyishian, went to her local store and took a, shall we say, spirited picture of herself nursing her kid (above), which caused quite a, shall we say, stir. Her writer friend, Marjorie Ingall, jumped to her defense in what we would call a spot-on analysis of why so many people freak out whenever a boob gets whipped out in public to feed a baby. So, what do you think? Should nursing be a private thing between mother and child? Is public breastfeeding okay, so long as it's not in-your-face (i.e. not at a restaurant without a boob-burka or, say, while pushing your kid in a Target cart)? Or do we as a society need to accept the fact that breasts aren't just sexual objects to be ogled by men and all chill out?
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Dear Em & Lo ,
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm 21, he's 28. He's the only person to ever perform oral sex on me, so while I have no one to compare him too, I know that he is bad at it. He pushes his entire face on my lady region and just moves side to side, as if that is supposed to feel good. He hardly uses his tongue and I don't think he even understands he needs to focus on my little man in the boat. After 3 years, I have no idea how to tell him that he's not doing it right. Help!
-- Suffering in Silence
Oh dear. We're tempted to tell you to dump this guy and start over with a new one, because it's a million times harder to teach an old partner new tricks. This is in large part because there's no easy way to say, "You've been screwing up for three years and I just never got around to telling you." How would his ego ever recover from such a blow? How would he ever know to trust your sexual response in bed again? This is why we emphasize againRead More »from How Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Bad in Bed?
Gloria Steinem, a prominent feminist of the 20th centuryRead More »from Wise Guys: What Do Most Men Think About Feminism?
Advice from three of Em & Lo's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What do most guys think of feminism: a successful movement that's not needed any more, an eternal campaign of whiney man-haters, or a philosophy that makes the world a better place for both men and women?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Single Bisexual Guy (Jack): I grew up in a very matriarchal family, and I have always had female teachers, supervisors, even mentors. I directly credit one woman, in particular, for helping me to advance dramatically in my career. It's always been a non-issue for me - women are just as intelligent, talented and productive as men, and can be as successful if given the same opportunities. I can't speak for all guys, but I know for many guys my age and younger, it's a non-issue. We believe in equality and we get the whole feminist viewpoint, and we even get that we're going to continue to be blamed for being male just because men have been such morons for so