A few new men have joined the ranks of our Wise Guys! They've all answered the following question: "What's the best way for a woman to ask a guy out?" Meet half of them below, then tune in next Tuesday to meet the rest!
Married Bisexual Guy (Bryan Sebeck): It's not as simple as it sounds, but be direct, confident, and unambiguous. First, guys are pretty terrible at reading subtext. Unless you're pretty blunt with us, we won't notice that you're actually asking us out because we're too busy trying to figure out the best way to ask you out. You don't need to hit us over the head with the obvious stick to get your point across, but you'll need to be a little more direct than you think you ought to be. Second: guys love confident women. The problem is that there is a fine line between confident and intimidating. The intimidating thing works with some guys (I have a thing for women who can beat me up), but stick with just confident unless you know him very well. Smile, make eye contact,
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Alyssa Perez, an intern over at EMandLO.com, has a confession to make:
1. No Constraints: Do a lunge! Kick your legs! Spin in a circle while swinging your arms! Feel that? Yeah, just air. No clothes rustling, no bra pinching, no underwear bunching, just air.
2. Transparency: I can see absolutely everything on my body, and you know what? That roll that I thought I had peeking out of the top of my jeans while I was bent over in a weird yoga position while trying to reach my pencil that rolled under the bed and between the wall/headboard/dresser… well, its not there at all! Yeah, I look pretty damn good without any waistbands pinching me!
3. BOOBIES!: Yes, although I have owned a pair for over a decade now, I am still amazed by how these babies jiggle, and wiggle, and squish, and feel. Look at them in all their glory! No wonder men love these. I love these!
6. Yes, Jiggling Is a Good Thing: I mentioned how fantastic jiggling boobs are, well, jiggling in general canRead More »from The Top 10 Reasons to Love Being Naked
Occasionally on EMandLO.com, we ask you guys an impertinent question and you can share your answer in the comments section below or in the debate already in progress here. Feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, sexuality, etc., if you feel that it's relevant to the answer. This week's burning (in a good way) question:
How do you define sex? (Intercourse only? Do you include oral? Anything that ends in an orgasm? Anything past third base?)
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- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Oct 6, 2011 8:39 PM EDT
We've said it before, we'll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that's more women than not!) don't climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? But make no mistake: it's not like you gentlemen out there can't enjoy the variety that comes from taking intercourse off its pedestal-hey, if the destination is orgasm, how could anyone complain about the journey there? (Indeed, how could anyone NOT call that "sex"?!) Here, some how-to tips for 5 sexual activities guaranteed to improve both of your non-intercourse sex lives.
1. TalkingRead More »from 5 Ways to Redefine Sex (Hint: It's Not Just Intercourse)
Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the best forms of foreplay out there-it can really get the mental side of things stirring, which is
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below, or join the debate already underway here.
My boyfriend just told me he was bisexual. He said in the past he has had sex with other men, but that it will never happen again. I want to believe him. I'm pregnant with his baby and he said he wants to get married. My problem is I don't know if I can handle knowing that and still stay with him. I know it's in his past, but how do I know it will stay there? As of right now I cant even look at him without feeling disgust, and I can't stop crying because he's still the love of my life. But I just dont know how to cope with what he's done, or what he might do. I really don't know how to feel ok with it, as bad as I want to, I still find it repulsive. Please help.
- Knocked Up andRead More »from How to Get Over Your Partner's Bisexuality
EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz - you can read her blog here - has a confession to make:
I think we can all agree now that plenty of women enjoy masturbation at least as much as men. But the way women enjoy masturbation can vary widely -- and many need a bit of extra help getting themselves in the mood. I like to think that my masturbation dates deserve just as much seduction as my partner explorations. So here are my 5 suggestions for fashioning an unforgettable night in with yourself:
- Mood Music. I have an iTunes playlist covertly entitled 'rr' for rabbit rock (named after my rabbit vibrator, naturally). Every time I find a song that would be a good romp session anthem, I add it to my self-loving rr soundtrack. This is also fun because later when you hear one of the songs -- at a party, say, or in the supermarket -- you are reminded of those same tingles you felt before and it becomes a private
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below or join the debate already in progress here.
I wrote to you about three years ago about how my upstairs neighbor was my ex-bf and that I needed to continue living there for school. Now, at 24, I find myself in a much stickier and more unsavory situation. Same boy and I got back together after that, fell in love, and after getting things to a very healthy and stable place, moved in together about 8 months ago. Now, we just broke up, as our jobs and lives are moving in different directions. I cannot move out until I've found myself an apartment. He can afford the entire rent on his own, once I'm gone. Any tips for weathering the storm? I really want to avoid spending nights at my parents' house or moving back in with them, as I feelRead More »from Your Call: Should She Live with Her Ex?
- EMandLO.com | Work + Money – Mon, Sep 26, 2011 10:24 PM EDT
We are running this poll over on EMandLO.com where currently the only candidate without any votes is Newt Gingrich. How will you Shine readers come down on the issue?
Of the MALE Republican presidential candidates, who is the sexiest?
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- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Fri, Sep 23, 2011 12:25 AM EDT
Dear Dr. Joe,
I've heard a penis can be broken during sex. How does it happen and what does it entail? And is it then broken forever, or can it be fully fixed?
- Ain't Broke
Dear A.B.,Read More »from Is It Possible for, Er, "Something" to Break During Sex?
Sometimes it's good to review the basics - you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it's been a while or you've gotten into a rut or you're simply not as confident as you'd like to be in the oral skills department. If you happen to fall into any of these categories, then check out the basic steps below to help get you over the hump, as it were. (For those of you with female partners, check out our oral tips for her!)
• Don't always wait for him to ask: surprise him with it when he least expects it (or when he's had a particularly bad day at work).Read More »from Oral Tips to Use on Him
• It's like The Little Engine Who Could: If you think you're great at oral sex, then you will be. Confidence is key.
• Tie your hair back (or have him gently hold it back for you) to keep any stray strands from getting in your way and to give him a better view.
• Having full disclosure about potential STDs and using a condom if necessary will help you better focus on the