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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,"Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they're over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?"

Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of talking myself out of an advice column, men and women are essentially the same and act/think identically in 95% of all situations. So any reason you can think of for getting in touch with an old flame, the same goes for guys and their exes. I've never stayed in contact with anyone past the break-up, because I can't imagine getting past the bitterness and resentment, or the leftover love and lust, and being Just Friends. As such, I've only ever been the get-in-touchee not the, um, -toucher. But in my limited experience, guys -- and girls -- never get in touch with former lovers "just to say hi."

For instance, I recently accepted a Facebook friend request from an ex. We were together

Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, "How can I get a guy to cuddle more?"

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, " wiseguy_benStraight Married Guy (Ben): Two ways really. One -- I find I'm at my cuddliest immediately post-orgasm, especially if it's a really big one that comes from an especially intense build-up - like a long ----- , or really slow and deliberate sex (dare I say, "love making?" No. I don't.) The risk here is that I'm just as likely to be cuddly as I am to fall asleep. So unless you're interested in zombie cuddles, best to take this route when your guy's wide, wide awake. The other way to more cuddles - date him for over a year. At that point, he'll lose interest in sex altogether and only want to cuddle. Risks there too, I guess.

jonathan_balthaserGay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I think affinity toward cuddling is something hard-wired into the brain (or not) of individuals: some guys are just not into it and some could cuddle

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions on EMandLO.com every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here.

Dear Dr. Kate,

My girlfriend's vaginal fluids sometimes smell and taste funny (not a good funny). I read online somewhere that there are drops you can place on a woman' vagina to make it taste and smell good. Are these real and are they safe? I know my girlfriend would allow me to use these on her as long as they're safe.

-- Nose

Dear Nose,

I don't know what drops you're specifically referring to; my quick search for remedies turned up tea tree oil, neem bark extract and garlic. To the best of my knowledge there's been no published studies of these products, taken either orally or topically, to gauge their effectiveness. But I do know that the application of any product to the vulva or vagina that wasn't meant to be there increases the risk of irritation, discharge and yes, infection. So I

EMandLO.com contributor Katherine Chen, who is a junior English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called "The Virgin Diaries." Here's her eighth installment:

Around two years ago, just when I was about to go to college for the first time, my father had an operation to remove the colostomy bag he had been using and restore what remained of his colon. My parents and I were generally unconcerned about the operation: we had been assured on nearly every visit to the clinic that this was an easy, straightforward procedure that would be done by an experienced surgeon. I went to work that day while my mother accompanied my father to the hospital. Hours passed, and I began checking my phone every ten minutes or so for an update -- but no one called. Finally, my mother rang, and the news was not good: the operation was unsuccessful.The doctor had emerged from the operating room shaking his head -- he

Each week Em & Lo bring you predictions and suggestions for your love and sex life via their Weekly Horoscopes:

aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
Observe the person you're interested in, because the more you know about them the easier it will be to seduce them. A calculated approach will work wonders for you. Note to sick b------ s: The preceding is not permission to eavesdrop, read private emails or diaries, spy with binoculars, sneak into apartments, rifle through underwear drawers, or otherwise stalk.

taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
How can anyone resist you when you have so many interesting things to share? An antique vibrator collection, the ability to turn your tongue upside down, an encyclopedic knowledge of Britney Spears' career. Take a look around - okay, take a really good, close look (in hobby message boards if you have to) - and you'll soon discover that you already have a number of potential partners with similar interests and like-minds to choose from.

If You've Just Gotten Lucky...

A good cuddle after a vigorous mating ritual is what separates us from the animals. To suggest that you have personal space issues or are sensitive to over-stimulation after you've had your orifices intimately explored is downright rude. A minimum of fifteen minutes of quality embracing/back tickling/hair tousling is in order, no matter how tired or full of remorse you are. If you're on the other side of the fence and could happily cuddle all night, you should never expect or demand that the snuggling last for longer than an hour.

If the hook-up takes place after dark, it's only polite for the cuddling to automatically progress into the sleepover phase. Don't stress about the implications - there are none. Sharing unconsciousness is not necessarily a symbol of commitment or love, it's simply a nice thing to do. It's the hot monkey lovin' that has the messy implications.

If You're the Host...

If the sun has already set, you may ask your date to vacate

Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "If a guy doesn't respond in kind to the admission "I love you", does that automatically mean the relationship is doomed and going nowhere? Or is there ever hope?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.





david_felsenStraight Married Guy (David Felsen): Let's first assume that you're dropping the I.L.Y. bomb after you've known the guy for at least a dirty weekend in Vegas, and that this isn't happening after a chance meeting in the canned goods section (he was looking for pork shoulder, you were looking for love). If it's the latter, I see many cats in your future. "I can has kat pewp?"

If it's the former, and the guy doesn't respond in kind to your admission, he's either unsure, a playa, or deaf. I wouldn't completely give up on him, but you might want to ask him why he didn't respond to the most important thing you've told him since you lied about loving football. This confrontation may cause him to

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below or joining the debate already in progress on EMandLO.com:

Dear Em & Lo,

I'm in a bit of a tricky situation. I dated a girl for about 2 years, but then broke it off. Long story short, the relationship soon stopped functioning at all. We weren't communicating with one another at all, we were both immature, and while we did care about one another, we couldn't help each other through the emotional issues we were both having at the time. So, while it was heartbreaking, I broke it off.

We spent the next year as, more-or-less, friends with benefits. Now she's with a new exclusive guy. I'm really jealous, and I'm tempted to try and win her back, to try and get a better relationship working. However, I'm incredibly adverse to mucking up a