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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,"I know that often a sexy attitude is sexier than a great body, but I can't help feeling self conscious all the same. I'm 20 years old and though the general silhouette of my body is good (enough to get whistles and even car honks directed at me, which I honestly find insulting), I don't like my body. I hate the cellulite, the stretch marks, the spider veins, wobbly bits, and moles I see in it. Would these bother a man as much as they bother me? Can a sexy attitude make them overlook those defects? How bad is too bad? Am I being paranoid?"
Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): First off…wobbly bits? Bits can be wobbly? Who knew? Second, there is nothing worse than someone hung up on their physical appearance. Staying in shape is great, wearing flattering clothes is smart and staying healthy is a must. But otherwise, here's a simple trick to feeling better (or at least not feeling bad anymore). Every morning look

http://www.emandlo.com/2010/08/wise-guys-whats-up-with-the-sex-sports-connection/Unfortunately we can't answer every advice question we receive at EMandLO.com -- but fortunately you guys tend to be very smart at giving answers, too! So here's one for you. Share your advice in the comments section below, or join the discussion already in progress at EMandLO.com.

Dear Em & Lo.

I'm a 48-year-old female and I can't seem to achieve an orgasm during oral sex. It all seems too intense. However, I don't have any problems when masturbating. I feel it is like… someone else scratching your feet… it tickles. If I do it myself, it doesn't tickle. Is there anything I can do so that my man can achieve this wonderful thing for me?

- Don't Tickle Me Elmo

What should D.T.M.E. do? Share your advice and experience below…

MORE FROM EM & LO:

• How to Affect the Sex of Your Baby During Conception
• What's Up with the Sex-Sports Connection and Men?
• Do You

When trying to conceive, are there things you can do to try to tip the scales in the direction of one sex or the other, i.e. so if you wanted a baby girl you could increase your odds and vice versa?

-- Gender Bender

Dear GB,

There are some theories about trying for a girl or a boy, famously laid out in Dr. Shettles' book, How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby. These ideas haven't been tested in large-scale studies (though that would be interesting!), so I'd file this advice in your doesn't-hurt-to-try-it folder.

Male sperm are thought to be faster but weaker swimmers, so to try for a boy, you want to have sex as close to the time of ovulation as possible. Have sex the day before and the day of ovulation, if you can. And the best positions are ones that get the deepest

Advice from three of Em & Lo's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What is the connection between sports and sex with guys? For instance, why were certain World Cup teams prevented from having sex while others are given the green light? Is there a connection between testosterone and the thrill of sports?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.

tom_miller_100Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I was probably 13 the last time I participated in a sporting event of any importance and my parents really frowned upon prepubescent sex, but I'm a huge fan of sports, so here goes. Some old school coaches and trainers maintain a Samsonian belief that a guy takes his eyes off the prize when sex is involved. Seeking any kind of edge, they think that a "backed up" athlete will play with a chip on his shoulder. There's actually a football player who puts Tiger Balm on his junk to get angry before games. The irony is that a guy gets a jolt of testosterone after he B's his L

Each week Em & Lo bring you predictions and suggestions for your love and sex life via their Weekly Horoscopes:

aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
It's like you're on your own episode of "The Love Boat" this week, except without that annoying Julie McCoy getting in the way. Set a course for adventure; put your mind on a new romance. It won't hurt any more, we promise (at least not until next week).

taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
Don't settle for second best when it comes to a relationship. But don't be like those psycho parents who coach their kid's softball team and put so much pressure on them that it takes all the fun out of the game and they just end up crying or wetting their pants. Find a happy medium.

gemini (May 21st-June 21st)
This week, you'll be putting the rico back in suave. You'll be more sought after than the hottest counselor at summer camp, except this time, all your adoring fans are well past (or, at least, just past) the age of consent. Go nuts! Stay

If you're planning on having a new guest over to "look at your etchings" for the first time, follow these 10 rules to ensure there's a next time:

1. Only invite a guest over when you won't have to rush out the door the next morning.
2. Warn any roommates that you will be entertaining that evening.
3. Remove all dirty laundry & dishes, any evidence of prior partners, and anything age-inappropriate (like dolls or teddy bears) from your bedroom and hide them. In fact, we'd recommend selling all but your most favorite cuddly toy on eBay.
4. Turn off your cell phone and your land-line answering machine - especially if you expect your recent ex to call at 4am asking to be taken back for the 25th time.
5. Take a tip from Hollywood movies and use dramatic, flattering lighting wherever you think you might end up doing it. Kill all fluorescents and any overhead lamps that have harsh, bright bulbs. Instead, use low-wattage bulbs in lamps tucked away in corners. Install dimmer

Please welcome Dr. Joe! Once a month, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, will be answering your questions on male sexual health at EMandLO.com. To ask him your own question, click here..

Dear Dr. Joe,

To circumcise or not to circumcise - what's your medical take on the matter?

- Parent-to-Be

Dear PTB,

To snip or not to snip? That is the question. And, oh, what a question it is. While this is not the most difficult topic to discuss with a parent, it is one heck of a controversial topic to debate on the internet. There is an overwhelming abundance of information on the web, and like all information on the net, it's confusing and difficult to navigate. Just googling circumcision returns over 11 million results. Is there a right answer? Well, I guess that depends on your point of view.

Circumcision started as a religious practice, well-known today in Jewish and Muslim culture, but it also occurred ritually in ancient Egypt and in many other cultures all over the world. In the

Advice from three of Em & Lo's guy friends. This week they answer the following: " What's the best way to turn down a guy who you've been on a date or two with, but don't want to go on any others?"

Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner): Tell him you and your ex-boyfriend have decided to get back together. This way you'll get rid of him without making him feel bad about himself.

Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): Be honest, open, and direct, for the love of god. Girls are always afraid of hurting guys' feelings, so instead they torture us with hints and clues. Ladies: we won't get the message unless you come right out and say it. Don't be subtle, don't send signals, and don't leave the door open a crack. You don't have to be insulting or degrading, just be clear. What does a man say when his doctor returns with bad test results? "Just give it to me straight, doc."

Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): The most gracious way is also maybe the most practical. You want to say some variation on "I