Dear Em & Lo,
Both me and my husband are worn out by the end off the day but weekends are great. What can we do for the energy during the week?
- School Night Blues
Dear School Night Blues,
Have morning sex! Some people prefer that kind of wake up - it can be better than coffee! You should also make sure you're going to bed early enough to get enough sleep to give you enough energy throughout the day.
And we can't stress enough how what kind of diet you have and how much you exercise you're doing (or not doing) can affect your sex life. If you're eating healthy, exercising and staying fit, your going to want sex more and your going to enjoy sex more. If you eat a lot of junk food and are a couch potato, then you probably wont have as much energy for sex, not to mention the limberness and body confidence to get into some of the more fun positions!
And don't forget about quickies. You may not have the energy for Tantric marathon seshes, but a lazy quickie at any time of day may be all
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- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Feb 21, 2013 11:03 AM EST
SkydivingDear Em & Lo,
How do you keep things new and exciting and not get into a routine?
--Same Old Same Old
One of the best ways to keeps things exciting in the bedroom is to keep things exciting outside of the bedroom. Couples who continue to experience new and novel things together find they can keep that romantic connection stronger (for example, take a ballroom dancing class together). Even better if those new activities are sometimes adreneline rushes, which can really bond a couple (think: skydiving!). You can even use going to the gym together as a form of foreplay: get the heart pounding, the blood flowing, the endorphins going so when you get home your ready to jump into the shower...together!
Em & Lo
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Dear Em & Lo,
I would like to feel sexier while pregnant...any ideas?
Dear Big Mama,
Have your baby and then send them off to kindergarten. By then you should be finally feeling sexier.
Seriously, some women feel great when they're pregnant, and others feel awful. If you're more in the latter category, you've just got to try to embrace the crazy miracle of it all: revel in having new curves, appreciate all the extra blood flow in your nether regions that can actually increase your libido during pregnancy, and feel the power and beauty of the amazing life-giving force within you!
And definitely do pregnancy appropriate exercises -- that's going to keep you feeling much better throughout the pregnancy, and the better you feel the more likely you are to keep wanting sex.
Em & Lo
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Chalk heartEach week, we at EMandLO.com predict the course of your love life for the week with our own version of irreverent horoscopes - ignore our advice at your own peril! (Hyperbole intended for dramatic effect.)Read More »from Valentine's Day Horoscopes for Your Love Life
aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
Act like a bimbo/himbo this week. That means no heated debates about the economic crisis, no pontificating about Picasso's Blue Period, no deep philosophizing about existential angst and who would win a naked mud-wrestling match, Camus or Sartre. Dumb it down, lest your attempts at sounding impressive just come across as depressive. Think light, airy and breezy - kind of like an old Summer's Eve commercial. Don't ask any tough, probing questions either; just the simple ones written on those heart-shaped, pastel candies: "Will you be my Valentine?" and "Wanna get laid?"
taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
If relationships are like Hallmark greeting cards, then your latest fling is a tricked-out, ten-dollar, love-ditty playing, oversized monstrosity of a thing. And
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Mon, Feb 11, 2013 12:26 PM EST
Ellen gawks at Katy PerryWhen we began watching the Grammys last night, we had not gotten the memo - the email that CBS had sent out to participants advising them to adhere to the Network's wardrobe policy:Read More »from Top 4 Reasons Why the Grammys Are Infinitely Better Without T&A
Please be sure that buttocks and female breasts are adequately covered. Thong type costumes are problematic. Please avoid exposing bare fleshy under curves of the buttocks and buttock crack. Bare sides or under curvature of the breasts is also problematic. Please avoid sheer see-through clothing that could possibly expose female breast nipples. Please be sure the genital region is adequately covered so that there is no visible "puffy" bare skin exposure …. OBSCENITY OR PARTIALLY SEEN OBSCENITY ON WARDROBE IS UNACCEPTABLE FOR BROADCAST.
We had no idea! As we watched the show, we began thinking: Wow, there's something different about this Grammy's show. It's actually good. The music is amazing. The performances are compelling. Everyone looks so cool (except for Katy Perry, who looks like she was supposed to
It wouldn't be the Super Bowl without a bunch of sex-filled commercials to excite, offend or turn off. Kissing is still the sex act of choice for advertisers (thankfully), so here's a round up all the big, bold and (only sometimes) beautiful Super Bowl ad kisses.*
GoDaddy.com's "Perfect Match"
If you've seen or heard about any Super Bowl commercial, it's this one from reliably tasteless GoDaddy, created by their female(!) chief marketing officer and starring their female spokesperson Danica Patrick. In previous years, they've relied on women with careers (police officers, TV interviewers) suddenly becoming strippers or on the stereotypical "bimbo" having a wardrobe malfunction. None of that this year (thank heavens for small mercies). No, this year GoDaddy decided to offend with the suggestion that people can't be both sexy and smart, that all beautiful women are dumb and need a smart man to get by. Then they added gorily juicy horror movie sound effects to the kissing, just to makeRead More »from The Super Bowl 2013 Commercial Kisses
Taylor Swift performing live.Taylor Swift cannot write a bad pop song. She apparently can't write a song about anything other than breakups, either. While we are shameless Swifties, we'd definitely like to see her branch out more - if not to different subject matter, then at least to some more honest, less PG-13 tales of heartbreak. Here are some examples of the kind of breakup songs we'd love to see on her next platinum album:
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Golden GlobesIn honor of the Golden Globes last night, we - the Tina Fey and Amy Poehler of the sex writing world - decided to give out our own awards for the evening:Read More »from Our Golden Globies
Most Sensual Congratulatory Kiss
Sally Field to Daniel Day Lewis (Best Actor for Lincoln). Her hands cradling his face and their slow gentle lip-on-lip action put his wife's lifeless kiss two seconds before to shame.
Best Feminist Moment
A tie between:
In her acceptance speech for Best Actress for Zero Dark Thirty, Jessica Chastain thanked director Kathryn Bigelow, saying "You've said that filmmaking for you is not about breaking gender roles, but when you make a film that allows your character to disobey the conventions of Hollywood, you've done more for women in cinema than you take credit for."
After President Bill Clinton introduced Lincoln, Amy Poehler said, "What an exciting special guest! That was just Hillary Clinton's husband! Oh my god!"
Most Awkward Moment
Cecil B. DeMille Lifetime Achievement recipient Jodie Foster, in a
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Jan 10, 2013 10:15 AM EST
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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "I want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn't want to open up the relationship. I don't want to break up, what should I do?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Gay Single Guy (Justin Huang): First off, you're
- EMandLO.com | Book Club – Thu, Jan 10, 2013 10:07 AM EST
Fifty Shades of GreyThe biggest selling book of 2012 was Fifty Shades of Grey. Not only has it introduced many people to the world of kink, it's given them a lesson in how not to write. And if a lack of literary merit isn't going to slow down sales, well, at least people can learn about the elements of style while being turned on by the elements of sadomasochism.Read More »from The Top 5 Writing Lessons of "Fifty Shades of Grey"
1. Avoid repetition of words and phrases. When Ana first meets Christian Grey, she thinks she spots a "ghost of a smile" in his expression. That's a nice, descriptive way of putting it -- it's easy for the reader to imagine. The problem is, James uses the same exact phrasing only a few pages later, for the same character. And that's not the last we hear the term "ghost of a smile," either -- it pops up a few more times in the first book. Using something so specific again and again just comes across as lazy.
2. Use adverbs sparingly. Anastasia Steele never met an adverb she didn't like, especially when it's modifying the way she or another