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SkydivingDear Em & Lo,

How do you keep things new and exciting and not get into a routine?

--Same Old Same Old


Dear SOSO,

One of the best ways to keeps things exciting in the bedroom is to keep things exciting outside of the bedroom. Couples who continue to experience new and novel things together find they can keep that romantic connection stronger (for example, take a ballroom dancing class together). Even better if those new activities are sometimes adreneline rushes, which can really bond a couple (think: skydiving!). You can even use going to the gym together as a form of foreplay: get the heart pounding, the blood flowing, the endorphins going so when you get home your ready to jump into the shower...together!

Novelists,
Em & Lo

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Dear Em & Lo,

I would like to feel sexier while pregnant...any ideas?

--Big Mama


Dear Big Mama,

Have your baby and then send them off to kindergarten. By then you should be finally feeling sexier.

Seriously, some women feel great when they're pregnant, and others feel awful. If you're more in the latter category, you've just got to try to embrace the crazy miracle of it all: revel in having new curves, appreciate all the extra blood flow in your nether regions that can actually increase your libido during pregnancy, and feel the power and beauty of the amazing life-giving force within you!

And definitely do pregnancy appropriate exercises -- that's going to keep you feeling much better throughout the pregnancy, and the better you feel the more likely you are to keep wanting sex.

Baby Mamas,

Em & Lo

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Chalk heartEach week, we at EMandLO.com predict the course of your love life for the week with our own version of irreverent horoscopes - ignore our advice at your own peril! (Hyperbole intended for dramatic effect.)

aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
Act like a bimbo/himbo this week. That means no heated debates about the economic crisis, no pontificating about Picasso's Blue Period, no deep philosophizing about existential angst and who would win a naked mud-wrestling match, Camus or Sartre. Dumb it down, lest your attempts at sounding impressive just come across as depressive. Think light, airy and breezy - kind of like an old Summer's Eve commercial. Don't ask any tough, probing questions either; just the simple ones written on those heart-shaped, pastel candies: "Will you be my Valentine?" and "Wanna get laid?"

taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
If relationships are like Hallmark greeting cards, then your latest fling is a tricked-out, ten-dollar, love-ditty playing, oversized monstrosity of a thing. And

Ellen gawks at Katy PerryWhen we began watching the Grammys last night, we had not gotten the memo - the email that CBS had sent out to participants advising them to adhere to the Network's wardrobe policy:

Please be sure that buttocks and female breasts are adequately covered. Thong type costumes are problematic. Please avoid exposing bare fleshy under curves of the buttocks and buttock crack. Bare sides or under curvature of the breasts is also problematic. Please avoid sheer see-through clothing that could possibly expose female breast nipples. Please be sure the genital region is adequately covered so that there is no visible "puffy" bare skin exposure …. OBSCENITY OR PARTIALLY SEEN OBSCENITY ON WARDROBE IS UNACCEPTABLE FOR BROADCAST.

We had no idea! As we watched the show, we began thinking: Wow, there's something different about this Grammy's show. It's actually good. The music is amazing. The performances are compelling. Everyone looks so cool (except for Katy Perry, who looks like she was supposed to

It wouldn't be the Super Bowl without a bunch of sex-filled commercials to excite, offend or turn off. Kissing is still the sex act of choice for advertisers (thankfully), so here's a round up all the big, bold and (only sometimes) beautiful Super Bowl ad kisses.*

GoDaddy.com's "Perfect Match"

If you've seen or heard about any Super Bowl commercial, it's this one from reliably tasteless GoDaddy, created by their female(!) chief marketing officer and starring their female spokesperson Danica Patrick. In previous years, they've relied on women with careers (police officers, TV interviewers) suddenly becoming strippers or on the stereotypical "bimbo" having a wardrobe malfunction. None of that this year (thank heavens for small mercies). No, this year GoDaddy decided to offend with the suggestion that people can't be both sexy and smart, that all beautiful women are dumb and need a smart man to get by. Then they added gorily juicy horror movie sound effects to the kissing, just to make

Taylor Swift performing live.Taylor Swift cannot write a bad pop song. She apparently can't write a song about anything other than breakups, either. While we are shameless Swifties, we'd definitely like to see her branch out more - if not to different subject matter, then at least to some more honest, less PG-13 tales of heartbreak. Here are some examples of the kind of breakup songs we'd love to see on her next platinum album:

1. "Should Have Said the Safeword"
2. "I May Miss You But My Cervix Won't (Jackhammer)"
3. "Pee on Me? Shame on You"
4. "GGG, OMG"
5. "You're Vanilla, I'm Kinky, I Love You, Farewell"
6. "Don't Leave Me Breathless (The Erotic Asphyxiation Song)"
7. "My Ears Are Not a Steering Wheel"
8. "I Didn't Wet the Bed, Der (Get Some Sex Ed, Sir)"
9. "Faked It Every Time"
10. "Size Doesn't Matter (But That Don't Mean I Won't Sing About It)"

• Top 100 Breakup Songs of All Time
• Top 15 Kinky Celebrities
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Golden GlobesIn honor of the Golden Globes last night, we - the Tina Fey and Amy Poehler of the sex writing world - decided to give out our own awards for the evening:

Most Sensual Congratulatory Kiss
Sally Field to Daniel Day Lewis (Best Actor for Lincoln). Her hands cradling his face and their slow gentle lip-on-lip action put his wife's lifeless kiss two seconds before to shame.

Best Feminist Moment
A tie between:
In her acceptance speech for Best Actress for Zero Dark Thirty, Jessica Chastain thanked director Kathryn Bigelow, saying "You've said that filmmaking for you is not about breaking gender roles, but when you make a film that allows your character to disobey the conventions of Hollywood, you've done more for women in cinema than you take credit for."
AND
After President Bill Clinton introduced Lincoln, Amy Poehler said, "What an exciting special guest! That was just Hillary Clinton's husband! Oh my god!"

Most Awkward Moment
Cecil B. DeMille Lifetime Achievement recipient Jodie Foster, in a

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "I want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn't want to open up the relationship. I don't want to break up, what should I do?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.


Straight Married Guy (Ben): Easy answer - if you don't want to break up, then you can't have an open relationship. But really it sounds like it's time for you and your boyfriend to do a yes / no / maybe list - a kind of sexual proclivities inventory where you see what each of you definitely are up for, what you might want to do if conditions are right and what things are total out of bounds. You each fill out the list on your own and then compare your answers. Whatever you both answer Yes to, go for it. Maybes mean it's up for negotiation. And No from either of you means No for both of you. There's a pretty great Yes / No / Maybe list on my Adult Parlour Games site.


Gay Single Guy (Justin Huang): First off, you're