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Since the launch of the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy by E.L. James last April, the sale of LUNA Beads - LELO's modern version of the Ben Wa balls that Christian Grey uses on Anastasia Steele - has increased over 400%! LUNA Beads are now regularly appearing as the number one sexual wellness product sold on Amazon in the U.S, and always around the top five. Before April LELO had 40,500 Google searches on average per month for LUNA Beads; in June and July, they saw close to 100,000 Google searches each month!Luna-Noir_model_100

Thanks to Fifty, there is obviously quite a demand now for new, beautiful, luxurious playthings to help people to live out their Ana & Christian fantasies. Our friends at LELO have answered the call, creating LUNA Beads Noir - a more sleek, sophisticated and sexy version of their original Kegel weights for women (which came in more delicate pastel shades). Perfect for dark nights and dangerous liaisons.

Just like the originals, LUNA Beads Noir offer the following:LUNA-beads_Noir_product-on_white_100

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "If we're talking about guys making a move on a stranger, what makes someone approachable?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Single Straight Guy (Nick): There are a lot of things that are fairly universal in this area: smiling, laughing, being energetic, talking to other people who are around, making eye contact. Most dating and courtship studies show that men will typically only approach a woman if there is a moment where the two make lingering eye contact. On the other side of that, when men DO approach a woman when no eye contact has been made, or if the eye contact is fleeting, he will usually be shot down.
If there is a specific guy that you want to approach you, let him catch you looking. When he does catch you looking, don't look away, allow your eyes to lock for a moment. Chances are he'll come over and say hi.

Married Guy (Bryan): As somebody who's spent a decent amount of

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In an interview on Fresh Air last week, Sherry Turkle, author of the new book Alone Together: Why We Expect More From Technology and Less from Each Other, discussed people's emotional dependence on digital devices. Her theory is that people are not making the important emotional connections with people that they need, meaning that it is possible to be in constant digital communication and yet still feel very much alone. One piece of advice she shared was for families who want to set a tone of togetherness: she suggested placing a basket near where you eat, and making everyone turn off their phone and place it in the basket during all meals - breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

We think that advice works just as well for couples who probably check their iPhones or Blackberries way more than they realize during their time together. Sure, you probably turn off the ringer when you're in a restaurant, but what about when you're just hanging out eating cereal together? Do you really need

a vampire1. Get your blood work done beforehand and make sure you bring condoms: while the undead can't give you any STDs, infections you might have (especially blood-borne infections) can make for an unpleasant experience for your vampire.

2. Don't eat any garlic for at least 72 hours beforehand.

3. Don't give blood for at least a month beforehand: you'll need all your reserves.

4. Remove any cross necklaces.

5. Avoid aggressive French kissing, lest you nick your tongue on their teeth (if you've ever bitten your own tongue, you'll understand how painful this can be).

6. Request that your biting coincide with an orgasm -- the rush of endorphins will help ease any pain, plus your increased heart rate will feel extra nice to your vampire.

7. Audible moaning to show you're enjoying this pleasure-pain is always appreciated by a vampire.

8. Make sure you pack a snack (like a juice box and cookies) to eat immediately afterward to help with any wooziness.

9. Expect to be kicked out before sun

Tina Fey, San Diego Comic Con, 2010We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.
Dear Em & Lo,

About five months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of two years and have met someone new. The other day the new girl and I were talking about various things, ideas, etc., which led me to discover that this new girl is significantly dumber (like really stupid) compared to my previous girlfriend. My problem is that I'm really worried about having a relationship with her, because my ex was extremely intelligent. I go to a top school, I have a high IQ, and I value intelligence. I like to make fun of dumb girls. I feel really disappointed (since the new girl is hot, like a 9 or a 10, which I also value) and I know that my ex set a really high standard. Am I bad person for only liking girls who are extremely smart?

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What's the best Halloween costume you've ever seen a woman wear?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Straight Single Guy (Chris): I once saw a nerdy Lisa Loeb-looking girl dressed in a full R2-D2 costume. It was elaborately constructed, included a drink holder, a bench to sit down, electronic beeping noises, and a glory hole. A GLORY HOLE. Absolutely amazingly nerd-sexy.

Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow): By far, little Edie (aka Edith Bouvier Beale from Grey Gardens), complete with a sweater-wig, gold brooch, and crazy eyes. Which is to say, no straight man will go near you. BUT: all the gays will lose it over you on 7th avenue (so recluse chic!).

Straight Committed Guy (Johnny): Slutty Dorothy! On second thought, Slutty Native American! No, Slutty Tinkerbell! Actually, Slutty Zombie! Anything sexually provocative. Let your freak flag fly. Wear something you never

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Want to take part in Breast Cancer Awareness Month and win a high-end Lelo pleasure object? (And yes, we realize that's like asking if you approve of both world peace and chocolate.) Well, here's a super-easy way to to do it: Between now and the end of October, if you do any of the things in the list below, you will be entered into a contest to win one of the following Lelo pleasure objects (you pick!): the Ina 2, Mona 2, Elise 2 (all pictured above), or something from the soon-to-be-announced November line of products. That's up to $169 in value! Here's what you've got to do - just doing any one of these things will enter you into the contest! And the more you do, the more you'll be entered, and the better your chances!

• 1. BUY: Buy a LILY personal massager, in pink. When you do this, Lelo will donate 50% of the proceeds to BreastCancer.org! (Worth it even if there was no chance of a prize.)
• 2. TWEET: Tweet or retweet the following: 50% of @Lelo_Sweden Pink Lily

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Dear Em & Lo,

I'm having trouble reaching an orgasm while intimate with my partner. I'm 20 years old, I had a kid 8 months ago, and then became a single parent, so started using a vibrator. I now have a new partner and while having sex, I've found that no matter what I do, I can't reach an orgasm. But when I masturbate alone, usually I can - though sometimes it really takes a lot of work. Is there anything I can do to show him that he is pleasing me? Or even a way to reverse this and make my orgasms with humans and not toys come back?

- Looking for the On-Off Switch

Dear L.F.T.O.O.S,

The most important thing to note is that you can climax without a vibrator when you're alone - so we know your orgasm hasn't gone into hiding like Salman Rushdie on the run. Sure, you have to work a little harder right now - but it's not like you need to "reverse" anything. Your body isn't broken, it's just changed.

And we would guess this has as much to do with (a) having a kid,