You know the relationship is serious when you're spending any major holiday with your significant other's family. Sure, you may have met them briefly once or twice before, but something like Thanksgiving is the battleground where approval can be won or lost forever. So follow these ten simple rules to ensure your partner's parental units will be glad to call you family (even if you're not sure you want them as in-laws).
- Bring some sort of contribution to the festivities. A bottle of wine is good - even better if you pair it with a nice dessert or some flowers.
- Do not make your hosts do all the drudge work in the conversation - ask questions, be interested, fake it if you have to.
- Always ask the family members preparing the meal if there is anything, anything at all, you can do to help, even if the game is on.
- The occasional hand-holding and peck on the cheek is fine, but resist any further physical displays of affection. To be safe, you should engage in no more PDA than your partner's parents do.
- When you sit down to eat, listen to your own mother's voice in your head: put your napkin in your lap; wait for everyone to be seated and served before eating; chew with your mouth closed; don't gesture with your silverware; don't use your fingers or fork to dislodge food stuck between your teeth; and never reach across someone at the table - just say "Would you please pass the [blank]?"