Straight Married Guy (Ben): When it comes to sex, sexuality and attraction, men ARE hardwired for many things. We are hardwired to notice - men, women, whatever your sexual preference. We are hardwired to assess - breasts, ass, legs, face. We notice and then assess. Attractive? How so? What about these breasts is hot? What about those legs? How does the whole package work together? Men are also hardwired for sex - sex with a partner(s), sex with strangers, sex alone - and often times these three hardwires get crossed and that's where fantasies can come from. Or random pick-ups. Men are NOT, however, hardwired to cheat. Cheating = lying and deceit and no one is hardwired for that. Except for maybe pathological liars, but that's a mental illness.
Gay Committed Guy (Mark): I don't think we're hardwired for the kind of monogamy the question implies. There are too many places to look for answers - seahorses? Mormons? - but jokes are useful places:
Q: What does a lesbian bring on a second date?
A: A U-Haul.
Q: What does a gay guy bring on a second date?
A: Second date?
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