Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure. Plenty of times. Sometimes my wife isn't around and I don't really feel like waiting. Or sometimes she is around but really tired, or stressed, or pissed off at me. Sometimes, she wants to watch me do myself. Sometimes, I have a fantasy I've been working on and having another body with me would actually be a little, um, distracting. Sometimes, I just want to look at porn. Basically, I have lots of different moods and I find myself in all different types of situations and masturbation is just one tool I can use to be sexually expressive. It's a good tool. I like it.
Gay Committed Guy (Mark): Ever? Sure, nothing wrong with that, or with a woman making the same choice. It also depends on one's definition of "sex" - I don't think I need to remind anyone reading this column that there are plenty of ways to get off besides penetration. But given the opportunity, whatever form the sex might take, I'd say it's a rare guy who prefers to go it alone. So if we're talking mutual masturbation with a partner: cool. But if he's having a wank in the bathroom every night before hitting the hay, leaving his lady lacking: uncool.
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