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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "Are most men romantics, or is romance something guys simply do to keep their partner happy?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): I think the majority of men are not inherently romantic. But, is it really that bad if they do it to keep their partner happy? If it's sincere, then it shouldn't matter if it's a core characteristic or not. Now, those of us who are romantic are going to be way better at it than those who aren't, because it's part of our personality, but that only means it's better for the woman we're romancing. Don't discount a guy just because he's not a romantic at heart. He's still doing it for you.

Married Straight Guy (Ben D.): I don't think that most guys are romantics. It's not that we don't love our wife/girlfriend, it's just something we don't think about. I've always thought that things like flowers and jewelry are fluff. I think

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Lelo's sex & career infographic (excerpt)Luxury sex toy maker LELO recently created this infographic (included below), which could be more simply titled "5 Reasons Why More Sex Helps Your LIFE." A few thoughts on each point:

1. Honestly, in this recession, we think most people would take the raise over the sex (including us).
2. Yes! Sex beats shopping every time. (Or at least it should.)
3. Wait: Married couples having sex a little more than once a week leads to more frustration, fights and tension because that's not enough? Seems kind of like a glass-is-half-empty analysis of the data, if you ask us.
4. Sex cleans your pores, prevents wrinkles and age spots, and gives your skin a healthy glow? Sounds like this came from the "semen is good for your skin" study out of Teanboi University. We do, however, agree wholeheartedly that if the average woman is spending $75 on facials per month (WTF?!), she could put that time and money to much better use (e.g. in some quality alone time with our Toy of the Month).
5. If

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "How do you define what constitutes sex? Is it penetration (with anything or just a penis)? Oral attention? Mutual orgasms? Mutual naked pleasure? etc." To ask the Wise Guys your own question,

click here .

angelo_nikolopoulos_100Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow): After being single for ____ months, lighting a scented candle before touching myself, as far as I'm concerned, qualifies as sex. So, clearly, you're asking the wrong gay. But in more prosperous times, anything that exposed me to the illogical possibility of contracting an STI qualified as sex. Call me a thrill-seeker if you want, but if there's no potential for a rash or sore, then I'm not interested.

chris_diclericoStraight Single Guy (Chris): I'm not sure my opinion on this represents the majority of people I know, but I actually think sex is a penis inside a vagina. It seems to me that other sex acts are far less serious and

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Obama campaign logo, in heart form
Just in case you need some more encouragement to register to vote (state-by-state deadlines start dropping in October!), to volunteer your time to the Obama campaign, and to actually vote on November 6th, 2012, here you go:

1. Romney represents the Republican Party, and the Republican Party Platform wants to control your body. It calls for a ban on abortion, without any exceptions, not even for rape, incest, or the life of the woman (not just the health of the woman, but the life!). It supports parents needing to consent to treatment for their children "involving pregnancy, contraceptives and abortion" -- because telling your father who knocked you up is going to go down real well. It supports mandatory waiting periods when it comes to abortions, which put an undue burden on women who have to travel far to receive medical help but can't afford to take off time from work. It supports abstinence-only education (the effectiveness of which has been so debunked) and opposes Read More »from Top 5 Reasons Your Heart (and Other Body Parts) Want You to Vote for Obama

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What would you do if your husband refused to even try to give you an orgasm? This was a situation a reader of our site found herself in recently. Our other readers jumped in to offer friendly advice, and this was our favorite solution, from a reader named Hannah:

If there was no child involved, I'd say DUMP HIM… I mean that is bad. Very seriously bad. And it's not as if you haven't tried to tell him. Most men would be mortified if someone told them they sucked in bed, and they'd make really sure they never did it again. But then again, most men care way too much about making women orgasm. If he doesn't care at all, well, then I wouldn't even see the point of having sex with him at all.
But keep in mind that training people is just like training a puppy:
• You need to be absolutely consistent and clear.
• You need to be overflowing with praise for good behavior.
• You should never ever reward bad behavior. Never.
Just think, if you pulled a slot machine 100 times, and then on the

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Elise 2 by LELODear Em & Lo,

I want to buy a sex toy but I am concerned that the size will affect how I will have sex with my boyfriend. I know that the intimacy of sex will never be replaced, but I would rather not jeopardize the physical satisfaction I get from sex now. I have never been with anyone else. He is on the small side of the world average, and all the products I see seem to be much larger. I currently have one that I made sure was not so much bigger than my boyfriend, and I am looking for one with a different shape. If I get a larger one (which are the majority on the market) will I be more aware of the places that my boyfriend can't hit when we have sex?

- Concerned Shopper

Dear Concerned Shopper,

You don't mention your boyfriend's feelings or ego at all, so we're assuming that you're using these toys in your free time, without him? But just in case you're using them with your boyfriend, too, here's a good rule of thumb: If he's just a bit below average, then he's

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We've always said that if you want to be in an open relationship, it helps if you're the kind of advanced human being who is missing the jealousy gene. (Neither of us comes even remotely close, for the record.) It just seems like, if you're going to be cool with your one-and-only kissing someone else or going down on someone else, then the Green-Eyed Monster is an unwelcome guest at the sex party.

So we were surprised to read a personal essay in the New York Timeslast weekend by a woman who claims that her open-ish relationship helps her husband handle his fears that she will cheat on him or leave him.

It may seem eccentric that my husband has translated the common fear of being cheated on into enthusiasm for the idea, but he's not alone. Type "cuckold" into a pornography search engine and you'll be greeted with countless scenes in which people play out that exact fantasy.

The writer, Ada Calhoun, explains how, of the two of them, she was the sexual adventurer

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Lelo's new line of revamped toys













Imagine if your partner was slacking in the bedroom and you could say to him, "Hey, I could really use about 100% more involvement from you?" And then imagine that he actually did it.

Yeah, two advice ladies can dream. But lucky for us, toy companies -- at least, one toy company in particular -- is very... responsive, shall we say?

LELO just relaunched three of their greatest-hit pleasure objects, revamped according to customer demand. The most important change to the three toys - INA 2, MONA 2, and ELISE 2 - is that they are now 100% more powerful.

No offense to lovers the world over - a toy can never replace you, of course - but we do love a toy company that listens to their customers and responds accordingly. (The toys' battery life had to be reduced from four hours to two in order to accommodate this extra boost - if your sessions typically last longer than four hours, then we suggest you buy two! Also, er, high-five?!) Oh, and all three toys are now fully

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