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Other people's dreams are never interesting…except when they're about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a straight woman asks Lauri:

So I was about 6 months pregnant and I started having sex dreams of other women. In the latest one I was making out with an old friend whom I haven't been around in 3 years and I was touching her boobs and I was getting really turned on and then I started to masturbate myself and I had an amazing orgasm. I have been racking my brain about these sex dreams about women and I keep thinking that I'm attracted to everything and everyone! I have been in a relationship with my fiancé for 4 years and we have an awesome son who is 1 and I was hoping you could help me out here. Thanks a lot!More...

Lauri: Let me assure you that you need to rack your brain no more because those girl-on-girl dreams are sooooo very common for pregnant women. The reason is because you are very excited

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions on EMandLO.com once a week. To ask her your own question, click here.

Hi Dr. Kate,

Recently I discovered that my nipples have been leaking some sort of substance. At first it didn't occur to me that it came from my breasts, but I've noticed the evidence in my bra cups. It isn't a lot, but it's enough to make me slightly nervous. Is this normal?

Thanks!
Freak-a-Leak

Dear F.A.L.,

Nipple discharge can be scary, but isn't always a sign of something dangerous. There are a couple of things that gynos look at to try to tell why the girls are leaking:More...

• Is it from one side or both? Leakage from both breasts is often a sign of a hormonal imbalance, while leakage from just one side may be a cyst or papilloma (think a skin tag in a milk duct) in that breast.
• When does it happen? If it's only when you press on the breast or with stimulation

Dear Em & Lo,

I am a college student, and have been with this guy for six months. The sex is absolutely amazing, we do it about four times a day average, but he has never made me orgasm through intercourse. My best conclusion is that I can only climax through clitoral stimulation. I have been faking my orgasms with him ever since the beginning and I get thoroughly frustrated with him at times but never mention anything. I just let it build up inside of me and sometimes put the tension into a stupid matter that turns into a fight.

I don't know what to do! I wish I could just climax during sex. I feel like I can't just come out and tell him that he never makes me orgasm, because I often tell him that my orgasms are earth shattering. I don't want him to know that I have been lying. This guy means a lot to me. I have a feeling that we'll be together for a very long time so I just want to fix this problem.

I often masturbate without him so it's not like I'm completely orgasm

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, "How can I can convince two hetero dudes to have a threeway with me?"

Straight Single Guy (Max): Barring the possibility that you could trick these "hetero" dudes into your lair (using beer, snacks or Ahnold movies) I'd say that your best bet is to try and wiggle your way into the arms of two friends or, even better, the bromance. Face it: a lot of guys go by the super homophobic rule of "as long as the balls don't touch," so you're much better off finding two guys that are as comfortable with one another's body as they are with their joint egos. After that, your best policy is honesty. You can't be coy about getting two guys at the same time, so I'd say be up front: "If you boys want me, you're going to have to share. I'll be in that room. Come find me?" Oh, and please end any threeway with a lot of high fives. They're free, and you deserve it.

Straight Married Guy (Ben): What you really need to do is

On a dinner date, always be courteous to the waitstaff. Never snap, clap, cry "Waiter," or worse, "Garcon!" to get your attendant's attention; wait until you catch your server's eye, then simply nod, gently raise your eyebrows, or, as a last resort, raise your hand. Say please and thank you -- never say "Give me the steak frites..." If the food's taking a long time, consider it an opportunity to get to know your date without worrying whether you have spinach in your teeth. And if you must complain about something -- perhaps you're vegan and the waiter brings you steak tartare, or perhaps there really is a fly in your soup -- then do it nicely. It's probably not the waiter's fault, after all. Finally, if you're responsible for the tip, make it 20%. We don't care if your standard policy is 10% (or "whatever change is in my pocket"); on a date, you make it 20, you cheap b------ . Why? Well, if human decency isn't enough to compel you, then consider this: If you are in any way rude and

I'm a student activist/organizer at my university, and I'm involved with a student peer-education group (Sexual Health Awareness Peer Educators), as well as Students for Choice. While I enjoy talking about sex, and many aspects of it, especially on a political basis (e.g. how can we support HR 398 and get our congresswoman to sign onto it?), many people seem to get the wrong idea about what I do -- especially my roommate's boyfriend, who makes loud, inappropriate comments constantly, especially in public. People seem to equate being knowledgeable about sex and related issues to having sex more often and with fewer standard than a porn star. I don't appreciate people making idiotic jokes ("So, how are you using those 1000 condoms you got in the mail last week this weekend?"). It's one thing for people to go "Oh, I know you, you're always handing out condoms!" (said at a party a few weeks ago, and pretty true). But "you talk about sex thus you must always be having big orgies and

Back when we watched the original 90210, all we remember learning about sex was that if you didn't sleep with your boyfriend on prom night, he might end up addicted to crystal meth. Oh, how times have changed. Here's the Gossip Girl guide to sex…

1. Never make a list of all the people you've ever slept with. And if you do, burn it before your boyfriend finds it in your purse while digging for tip money for the delivery guy.
2. The lonely boy with his head stuck in a book is much more "attentive" in bed than the jock. And you better snag him now, because once he gets to college, everyone else will figure this out too.
3. If he seems too good to be true then he's probably sleeping with his stepmom.
4. That bad boy that you think you can "rescue" from himself? He'll just keep on breaking your heart until the story becomes so boring that even you can't stand to hear it anymore.

Here's a quick science lesson for you: Scented and colored candles often contain plasticizers, which make them burn much hotter, i.e., way too hot for your sweetie's fleshy parts. Black candles and beeswax candles burn the hottest of all. (Besides, what are you doing with black candles anyway? That's so Trenchcoat Brigade.) You're better off with the plain white paraffin candles sold at grocery and hardware stores for "emergencies" - but buy extra, please; no filching from your actual emergency supply kit! Better still are soy candles, which burn cleaner and at an even lower temperature than paraffin. (Even better, the soy candles sold at GoodVibes or Babeland turn into massage oil when the melt onto your skin. We recommend avoiding the sweeter scents.) The stop, drop, and rolls of hot-wax play: Blow the candle out before dripping the wax; test the wax on the back of your hand first; once the wax hits your partner's skin, rub it in to disperse the heat; do not drip the wax on your