- The clitoris is the only organ in the human body (either male or female) whose sole purpose is to transmit sexual sensation.
- It goes much deeper than you'd think (kind of like a Barbara Walters special): It's actually a complex organ that extends throughout a woman's genitals, and is therefore sometimes referred to as the clitoral network. Typically, the words clit or clitoris refer just to the clitoral glans, or head -- that sensitive little nubbin you all know and love as the clitoris.
- The nubbin sits in a little hood where the tops of the labia meet.
- It's analogous to the glans of the penis. And, just like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and swells when it's aroused.
- Most women need some kind of clitoral stimulation in order to climax.
- The clitoral head has more sensory nerve endings than any other structure in the body (again, female or male) -- somewhere between 6,000 and 8,000 thousand, four times as many as on the (much larger) head of the
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- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 21, 2009 4:55 PM EDT
The problem with sex toys is that they can leave you feeling a little cold. If there were a toy that kissed, cuddled, breathed on your neck, and wrapped its big manly arms around you, then we'd be selling it (for a very reasonable markup, honest!). That said, a super-sized, heavy-breathing, groping silicone phallus sounds like the stuff that B-movie horror flicks are made of. Attack of the 50-Foot Vibe, anyone? Not exactly the kind of intimacy women are looking for.
So you need to find a way to make sex with your vibrator feel a little more real (rather than Real Doll). Which means you're going to have to up the ante on your fantasy life. It's very easy -- especially with the super-powered vibrators available today -- to lie back and let your Hitachi Magic Wand do all the heavy lifting. After all, it's almost impossible not to have an orgasm with one of those babies -- even if your mind wanders and you start to think about what you could whip up for dinner using last night'sRead More »from 5 Ways to Make Self-Love Feel Less Lonely
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Aug 19, 2009 9:54 PM EDT
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, "What do men in general think about cougars?"
Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman):
"I am Cougar, hear me roar,
In years too big to ignore…"
If it isn't already, this should be the anthem for the beloved cougar. Prowl on, ladies! Honestly, what's the big deal? OK, so maybe it is a sexual desire fueled largely out of a denial that one is rapidly aging off this mortal coil. We're all headed there anyway, aren't we? Why not grab a little nubile ass on the way out? What the cougar phenomenon tells us is that (1) we like coming up with weird monikers for sexually-active women (see MILF); and (2) this country still has a problem with casual sex as it relates to women.
Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): The cougar is a bit of an anomaly to me. On the one hand, cougars have experience, confidence and generally pleasing physical attributes, all of which are very attractive characteristics. On theRead More »from Em & Lo's Wise Guys: What Do Men Think of Cougars?
Sometimes called the Wahl 7-in-1 or the Wahl Coil, the Wahl is second only to the Hitachi Magic Wand in the wink-wink, nudge-nudge, "no, really, it's a 'back massager" charade. The Wahl is coil operated, which means it's lighter, faster, and waaaay quieter than the Hitachi. Like the Hitachi, a Wahl can last for years if you treat it right.
Officially, according to Wahl (and if you talk to our lawyer, this is what you heard from us), it's not supposed to be used on the genitals -- it even says so in the manual (at least it did, in the manual we got with ours a few years ago). Unofficially, well, women have been using it on their happy place for years, and responsible stores like GoodVibes.com continue to stock it, so we feel pretty good about turning a blind eye. Carol Queen, Goodvibe's staff sexologist, told us a while back: "The Wahl Clipper corporation once had a Catholic priest on their board of directors, and the 'genitals' language is a sop to him. TheRead More »from The Hitachi Magic Wand's Rival
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. To ask her your own question, click here.
Dear Dr. Kate,
I'll just cut right to the chase: I have orgasms in my sleep, what can be called "wet dreams." When I dream something erotic (even if it's just my husband and I having sex), not only do I become aroused, but I have actual orgasms. I would say I have several wet dreams a month.
Now, I'm not complaining - it's kind of awesome, to be honest! - but I want to know how common this is amongst women? Because I've never heard of women having wet dreams. Men, yes…women, no. Although, my own husband hasn't ever had a wet dream. I find that strange, because I always thought that men are the only ones to have them.
So what's the deal?
- Sexy Sleeper
You're not alone. The 1950s sex researcher Alfred Kinsey estimated that 40% of women will experience an orgasm while asleep before the age of 45. And these unconsciousRead More »from Do Women Orgasm In Their Sleep, Too?
1. Infection: First of all, to be on the safe side, you should visit your gynecologist and get yourself checked out for any infections or STDs that might be affecting your vaginal taste/smell. Everything may feel just fine and dandy down there, but an infection could be secretly and subtly throwing things off.
2. Smoking: If you smoke, quit now! This is the single most important move you can make to help improve your health. We know it's hard - harder than kicking heroine! - but you've got to do it. Smoking makes your whole body stink. Plus, it stains your teeth and gives you premature wrinkles - things most people would consider decidedly unsexy. And it doesn't stop there: Nicotine restricts blood flow, which is essential to genital arousal. The chronic coughing you get from smoking can weaken your pelvic floor muscles, which can makeRead More »from How to Improve the Way You Smell and Taste
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Aug 12, 2009 8:15 PM EDT
Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: Should I pay more attention to my boyfriend's testicles?
Straight Single Guy (Mark): Well, at least don't forget about them. Getting past the generic notion that everyone's preferences are different, and thus communication with your partner is key - absolutely true of course - I'd imagine that some guys rather enjoy the attention there, others could take it or leave it, and still others might even be quite averse to any focus there. It could even vary from session to session depending on the mood. I'd probably most equate it to nipples for gals - certainly an erotic component of the sensual buffet that shouldn't be completely neglected by any means, but bottom line, they're not the feature attraction. Pay attention to them to the extent that they're a complementary ingredient to an exquisite main course, and accordingly, season to, um, taste.
Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): I'm sure it's not what you meant, but if you don't pay attention, you can accidentally hurt him. Which brings up the most important thing about paying attention to his balls: even if you're careful, he still might flinch until he's sure you won't hurt them. The great news is the skin covering balls is marvelously sensitive. And responsive! Most women have had partners who can't get enough of using a light touch to crinkle their nipples…and then to soften them again by cupping or mouthing to warm them back up again. You can do much the same thing to crinkle his balls and then relax them again. It won't hurt him, the combination of sensations will feel good to him, and you may find it just as fascinating. Final hint? It feels wonderful to have one's balls lightly tickled or scratched during orgasm.
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 7, 2009 9:21 PM EDT
There's been a lot of media drooling over the latest research which suggests that withdrawal may be a legitimate form of birth control. This is great news for couples in long-term, monogamous, committed relationships who have complete trust in one another, who have made an educated decision to be bodily-fluid bonded, and who would not be too bummed with an unintended pregnancy. But we're guessing the majority of sex going on in the world does not fall into this category of relationship. More often it's sex of a slightly more casual nature (think drunken Saturday night strangers, office workers after the holiday party, a friend consoling another needy friend, exes returning to the well, spouses cheating on each other, teenagers experimenting, online daters, etc., etc.) -- all situations where "pull and pray" is a very bad idea. So before you go throwing your condoms away, please consider this:
- Control -- Ladies, when you rely on the
Straight Single Guy (Max): Personally, I say bravo. The longer you make me work for it the better everything will be. This applies to both the sex and any possible relationship. Girls, who so often seem only interested in those who aren't available or interested, should know this. If you really like a guy, make him work for intercourse. Make him get creative. If he can't take it, then ditch the dude. It shouldn't be just about "sex right now." As a great man once said, "The best part of the affair is the walk up the stairs." Too many times I've gone all the way with a girl and then immediately lost interest. This is, believe it or not, frustrating for guys too. Mystery is good. So please, come on over and tease me. Don't be cold, and please let me try to pleasure you in other ways, but always feel free to sayRead More »from Do Men Like to Just Cuddle?
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Aug 5, 2009 4:37 PM EDT