Have you seen Revolutionary Road? It's a PSA on how NOT to fight as a couple. For those of you who'd rather not submit to two hours of cinematic depression, here are the five hateful argument tactics you should avoid for the sake of love:
- Fighting dirty. Avoid the temptation to say something unforgivably mean and petty as a defense mechanism: "My ex's penis was way bigger than yours," or "You remind me of my/your mother," or "I lied: Your butt does so look big in those jeans" or - and this is the mother 0f all fighting-dirty lines - "I'm not sure we're right for each other if you think that." It doesn't matter whether the mean thing you say is the cold harsh truth or just some stupid lie you made up to hurt your partner - once it's out there, you can never take it back. It takes on a life of its own. Even if you get back together after a fight like this, that mean thing will haunt your relationship forever.
- Playing tit for tat. You know how you're not supposed to