Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. Today they answer the following: Okay, so how different is intercourse with a condom? What does it feel like? Do different kinds of condoms make a difference?
Straight Married Guy (Fred): It's different. It's not as good. Think pancakes without the syrup. Scratching an itch with the palm of your hand. A foot massage while wearing slippers. "American Idol" without Adam Lambert. It's still okay, just not great. It can be frustrating for guys because everything else about the experience is vivid but where it really counts it is dull. And we know what it feels like au natural. Different types of condoms definitely make a difference. Anything that says super-thin, ultra-thin, sensitive, etc., are usually waaaay better than your regular, cheap, vending-machine rubbers. Sometimes you have to use them. If you're dating, it's obviously a must. Ladies, if you're buying, do him the favor of getting the thin, high quality ones. And remember, the more excited he is, the less he'll be distracted by the lack of feeling, so getting a little naughtier than usual can really help.
Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I'm an exclusive bottom, so I had to e-mail hundreds of - er, a few past sexual partners to ask them. The general consensus was that it's different but not by a whole lot. With a condom you have less sensation ("33% less," said one when I asked) but you last longer (I didn't ask, but the obsessive-compulsive in me has decided that it's 33% longer), so it's kind of a trade-off. Thin condoms are better, apparently, and polyurethane condoms are by far the best (though they're more expensive). All the men surveyed said that condoms felt better when they were having sex with me than with other partners.
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