A healthy bowl of Grape Nuts can improve your sex life... seriously!Improving your sex life isn't always about switching positions or adding more lube (though those things can help, too). Here are ten everyday things you can do to improve your sex life.
1. Get a good night's sleep.
When you're tired or stressed you feel unsexy and irritable. And have you ever noticed how, after a bad night's sleep, you're always disappointed by your reflection in the mirror? Bad body image leads to bad or no sex. Plus, tired people tend to choose more sleep over sex. On the other hand, well-rested people have more energy and feel more positive toward the people around them. And yes, by "more positive" we mean "can't wait to jump their bones."
2. Go to the gym.
Endorphins and improved blood flow from exercise mimic sexual desire, which sneakily puts you in the mood. The improved body image you'll experience after a work-out doesn't hurt either.
3. Get an STD checkup.
Because knowledge is power and power is sexy and knowing about your own body is the sexiest power there
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- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Mar 26, 2013 12:01 PM EDT
A healthy bowl of Grape Nuts can improve your sex life... seriously!Improving your sex life isn't always about switching positions or adding more lube (though those things can help, too). Here are ten everyday things you can do to improve your sex life.Read More »from Top 10 Unsexy Things that Can Improve Your Sex Life
Marina & Ulay
Last week, we stumbled upon Zen Garage's post about a 2010 performance art piece by Marina Abramovic at her MoMa retrospective, in which she shared a minute of silence with each stranger who sat in front of her. Back in the 70s, she had an intense love affair with a fellow artist by the name of Ulay, but after a twelve year relationship they decided to part ways by walking towards each other from opposite ends of the Great Wall of China, meeting in the middle and saying goodbye, never to see each other again. During her performance at MoMa, Ulay showed up unexpectedly as just another museum goer, sitting across from her for one minute in silence, sharing an intense emotional connection, and then quietly walking away:
We tweeted last week that this video is a metaphor for Facebook. Here's why:
Facebook has gotten a lot of flack for being a marriage killer - exes get in touch, rekindle old flames, and leave their current partners in order to chase dreams of the past.Read More »from Lost Love, Performance Art & Facebook
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Mar 13, 2013 8:34 PM EDT
Look at me, I'm Sandra Dee!Hi Em & Lo,Read More »from Dear Em & Lo: I’m a College Freshman Who’s Never Been Kissed
So I'm a freshman in college and I have never dated before or even been kissed. Sometimes I really feel like I'm missing out. I'm pretty friendly, but is it bad that I still haven't had a relationship yet? What should I do? Help!
Never Been Kissed
Regular readers to EMandLO.com will know that we're pretty prudish when it comes to talking about our own sex lives. For one thing, we think it's a mistake to assume that what's true for us will be true for you. And for another, we're prudes! There are plenty of other sex columnists out there willing to bare it all (sometimes quite literally: We once saw Tristan Taormino insert a butt plug live on stage!), and more power to them. That's just not our bag.
That said, we'll make an exception today. This is from Em:
I didn't have my first kiss until the summer before I went off to college, so I had barely been kissed when I showed up as a college freshman. I never dated in high school, never kissed anyone,
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Mar 12, 2013 1:03 PM EDT
The Bachelor cast with Sean1. Never be a narc. It won't get you laid or married. Ever. (We're talking to you, Kacie.)Read More »from Top 10 Lessons Learned from the Bachelor, Season 17, “The Return of Sean’s Abs”
2. If you want your music career to go nowhere, get booked on The Bachelor (even more effective if the couple you're supposed to perform for breaks up before you strum your first note).
3. If you're going to an amusement park for a date, wear sensible shoes and an outfit with a sensible hemline, ESPECIALLY if your date is basically wearing gym shorts.
4. "Accidentally" pooping your pants might actually be an effective way to garner sympathy and attention from a man (or at least Sean). For example, after the faux stairway spill and the fabricated baby breakdown in the club hallway, we were surprised this wasn't one of Tierra's later tactics. Future Bachelor contestants take note.
5. The volleyball competition will now become the obligatory group date for every future season of The Bachelor. (Let us pray the same can be said for every future season of The Bachelorette.)
6. Missing an appendage
Bride and Groom Kissing - Wikimedia CommonsDriver's licenses expire. Professional licenses expire. Even dog licenses expire. But marriage licenses are for life! On the one hand, this is kind of the whole point of marriage, right? That you can't just walk away from each other, that you are committed, even when things get tough, even when your kids are keeping you up all night, even when you've been so busy at work that you've taken each other for granted for months at a time, even when you've aged beyond all recognition since the day you met and fell in love. There's a comfort to knowing that you don't have to decide to stay together: You are together. Period.
• My Husband Isn't Interested in Sex with Me •
But on the other hand... Would we be less likely to take each other for granted if we did have to decide to stay together? We're not talking annual renewal, a la Heidi Klum and Seal (because look how well that worked out for them), but rather every seven years. (Did you know that human cells renew every sevenRead More »from Should Marriage Vows Expire Every 7 Years?
The TalkWe get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.Read More »from How Do You Know when It's Time for "The Talk"?
I have been single for several years. I am a divorced forty year old woman with an almost 18-year-old son. I've been divorced for 7 years and have only been in one serious relationship and have had 2 short lived "flings" and now this. I've been seeing a 30 year old guy (single, never married, no kids) for about 4 months now.
Firstly, I don't know how to date. Early on I freaked out because I was developing feelings and got scared and had a meltdown. We talked it out and I put all my feelings out there and since then I have just tried to be honest about how I feel. I haven't played the game of playing hard to get or any of that. If I want to see him or talk to him I contact him and tell him.
He is a very reserved guy and likes a lot of
fish caught on hookFor anyone one feather tickler short of a 150 Shades of Play kit, the below is satire and not intended for actual use (kind of like edible underwear):
Still single, ladies? Well you can kiss your cat-lady status goodbye! Follow these five simple dating tips and you'll never be alone again! Because a loser guy is better than no guy at all. Amen to that!
- Dress to impress. If you've got it, flaunt it. You can't expect a man to go for what you've got without visually sampling some of the goods first. Besides, the more body conscious your outfit, the less you need to rely on your personality to do the heavy lifting on the date. And whatever you do, make sure you always wear high -- we're talking stiletto -- heels: the minuscule sliming effects they'll have on your legs is sooooo worth the corns, blisters, back and joint pain, and the inability to walk like a normal human that you might suffer. Anything for love!
- Always let him pay. We've come a long way, baby. But
Autumn in New YorkRead More »from I'm 22, Should I Pursue a 35-Year-Old Man?
Dear Em & Lo,
I have been acquaintances with this man for about 3 years, but recently (within the last few months), he started talking to me more and we've been talking regularly since then.
Because of his behavior and some things he has said to me, everyone thinks he has a thing for me and I get that impression from him too.
At first I chose to ignore it because he is around 35 years old (not sure of his exact age) and I'm only 22. However, lately I've been finding myself more and more attracted to him as we talk and joke around with each other.
I usually do date guys who are a little older than me, but I've never thought about dating someone a decade or more older. I know people get crushes all of the time and you don't have to act on every crush you have… I'll admit I'm not sure how I feel about the age difference. Is this something I should pursue or should I just let it go as a simple crush and nothing more?
- Miss May, Crushing on Mr. December
Go for it!
Wind turbineRead More »from How Can I Increase My Energy for Sex?
Dear Em & Lo,
Both me and my husband are worn out by the end off the day but weekends are great. What can we do for the energy during the week?
- School Night Blues
Dear School Night Blues,
Have morning sex! Some people prefer that kind of wake up - it can be better than coffee! You should also make sure you're going to bed early enough to get enough sleep to give you enough energy throughout the day.
And we can't stress enough how what kind of diet you have and how much you exercise you're doing (or not doing) can affect your sex life. If you're eating healthy, exercising and staying fit, your going to want sex more and your going to enjoy sex more. If you eat a lot of junk food and are a couch potato, then you probably wont have as much energy for sex, not to mention the limberness and body confidence to get into some of the more fun positions!
And don't forget about quickies. You may not have the energy for Tantric marathon seshes, but a lazy quickie at any time of day may be all
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Feb 21, 2013 11:03 AM EST
SkydivingDear Em & Lo,
How do you keep things new and exciting and not get into a routine?
--Same Old Same Old
One of the best ways to keeps things exciting in the bedroom is to keep things exciting outside of the bedroom. Couples who continue to experience new and novel things together find they can keep that romantic connection stronger (for example, take a ballroom dancing class together). Even better if those new activities are sometimes adreneline rushes, which can really bond a couple (think: skydiving!). You can even use going to the gym together as a form of foreplay: get the heart pounding, the blood flowing, the endorphins going so when you get home your ready to jump into the shower...together!
Em & Lo
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