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textingAdvice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "How do adult men feel about sexting? Juvenile phenomenon? Sexy way to break up a few hours apart? Words but no pics?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Sexting is pretty much the best use of smart phones that ever existed and I think Graham Bell would be mighty proud indeed to see the lengths to which mankind has taken his invention. Few things beat the rush of excitement when you get a naughty mid-day ping - be it pictures or words, it matters not. Sext away fair maiden! We can't get enough of it.

Straight Single Guy (Adam): As long as sexting maintains its taboo, it's going to be fun. That definitely won't change. Unfortunately, however, "fun" doesn't always equate to "wise" or even "worth the risk." Whether it's worth the risk to send a few naughty lines or (yikes!) a picture of your man-parts to someone is a personal decision; one that should be made after

stockingsWe get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice for this man in the comments section below.

Is my kink normal? About 12 years ago a woman I was seeing very casually at the time masturbated me with a pair of her tights wrapped around her hands. Apart from the feel of the soft nylon rubbing against me, the orgasm was the most intense I have ever had. Since then I have longed to have this done to me again. And I've fantasized about being masturbated by a woman's feet clad in tights or stockings.

However, having brought it up with my ex, she found it pervy and unnatural and this was one of the reasons she ditched me after threatening to expose this information on Facebook (I have since blocked her and cancelled my account). Still, it is the one thing I would love to experience again, the so-called nylon

couple's toyDear Em & Lo,

I can climax really easily during masturbation, but I have never climaxed with my boyfriend. I really want to try out a toy during sex, as I think it will help, but every time I bring up the topic with my boyfriend he gets defensive about it. He says things like it'll replace him and that I'll want the toy more than him, and whatnot. It's just that I really want to share an orgasm with him. What can I do?

--Unplugged

Dear Unplugged,

Um, how about you tell your boyfriend that you want him to give up orgasms for 2012. If he complains, tell him that his hesitation makes you think that he cares about his orgasms more than he cares about you. And whatnot. This might help bring your point home...

Or perhaps you want to take a kinder, gentler approach. In which case you could go toy-shopping with him so that he can help you pick out a toy that doesn't intimidate him so much. We can totally understand him not wanting to share the bed with a work-horse like

red handcuffsA female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make:

I think I might be kinky.

I know, I know: These days, who isn't? With Fifty Shades of Greyrefusing to budge from the bestseller list and Rihanna singing about how chains and whips excite her, it's practically de rigueur to own a pair of fuzzy handcuffs. But I know for me, this isn't some trendy game I'll play with a pink blindfold and a couple of scarves (though if those are your thing, more power to you!). I'm talking about real domination and submission, real pain.

I've always liked playing around with control in the bedroom. One boyfriend I had would pretend to be a bandit or a pirate and I would be the pretty maiden waiting to be ravished. Another would pin me down, yank my hair, bite harder than usual. (Unfortunately, most guys couldn't seem to understand that I actually wanted something that hurt and left a mark, not just a delicate, ticklish nip on the neck

Rejection love heartsWe get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can't answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.

Dear Em & Lo,

I am writing for a few reasons, and hoping to get some straight advice. First, I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years. I'm 23 and he's 29. It was kind of a crazy situation, but he swept me off my feet and we lived together pretty immediately. I was head over heels with him when we met and those first few months of love-making were amazing.

Now, we have settled into that old married couple state, where there is little excitement and lots of routine (you know, where you do nothing fun anymore and have tv shows you watch on certain days of the week).

Here is the problem. Where we used to have amazing, spontaneous sex several times a week, now it has dwindled to once a month, if that, and currently a

jealousyG'day mates (yep I'm Australian),

Okay, the scenario: Met a guy on a Friday at a shop. Swapped numbers and he asked me out. I couldn't that weekend cause I was busy with my bday party. He texted me Saturday night to ask how the party was going and mentioned he was close by. I was drunk partying with friends and I asked him to join us. He did.I party Aussie style, which can be a little wild. We ended up spending the night together.

He called or texted every day since and we went out again last night and he spent the night. I did tell him I wasn't looking for just a hook-up and I won't be a booty call. He assured me he thought we had chemistry and that it was more than that.

I'd like a relationship with him but have I blown it sleeping with him too quickly? Would he look at me as girlfriend material? We are both early 40′s so not kids and both educated successful people. I date a lot and sleep with guys if I want to but am clear I don't want relationship BUT this guy is

Lelo's Oden 2 couple's ring.
Last week we told you about LELO's new line of luxury sex toys called SenseMotion 2, which we deemed quite possibly the best sex toys ever invented (and we've written a book on sex toys, so we should know). Well, here's a an easy way to win one of their $150+ gems for nothing -- and who couldn't use a little free self love?:

Between now and end of the day Friday, June 28th, simply "Like" LELO's Facebook page and then write on their Wall which pleasure object of theirs you covet most. That's it!

And we just looked at the number of entries on their Wall. So far? The odds are pretty darn good!

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BrothersThe New York Observer reported recently that more and more married couples are taking in roommates, thanks to the economy (and the always tough real estate market in the city). More than one couple noted that having a roommate was actually good for their marriage - it forced them to have more interesting and deep dinner conversations; it helped them see each other through someone else's eyes (i.e. to not take their partner for granted), and they liked having someone besides their partner to turn to in times of stress or anxiety or strife… they felt it eased the pressure on their marriage.

But on the other hand… Do we even need to go there? The possible attraction, jealousy, insecurity. Taking sides. Fighting as a spectator sport. Quiet sex - and only quiet sex. Getting dressed to pee in the middle of the night….

So, what do you think? If you were living with a partner, would you take on a roommate? Have you? What can you report?

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