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- Babble.com | Parenting – Wed, Nov 27, 2013 12:18 PM ESTFor a national holiday that encourages to take stock of our blessings, Thanksgiving can be fairly stressful…especially for parents. All the preparations and cooking and a more formal mealtime are not exactly kid-friendly. But gratitude isn't just for adults, and neither should Thanksgiving be an adult-only activity. That's why I like to get the kids involved as much as possible. Here are a few of the ways we suggest doing it, from helping prepare the table to giving a hand in the kitchen. - By Kristen Howerton Read More »from Little Helping Hands: 7 Easy Ways for Kids to Help with Thanksgiving
- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Nov 27, 2013 11:59 AM EST
The roles of husbands and dads is very important to men today. One of my main goals is to spend more meaningful time with my family, even if it means I have to take a different approach to my career. I recently finished my manifesto, called The Family Leader's Manifesto, which is a call and encouragement to men to be the best husbands and dads they can be. It is not enough to be a great leader at work, in the community, or in ministry. If we do that, but perform poorly at loving and leading our family at home, then we are out of balance. And in the eyes of many men, that means "unsuccessful." The survey results show that many men feel the same way. Check out the comparison for men and women when it comes to who is more family oriented! -By Jackie Bledsoe Jr.
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- Babble.com | Healthy Living – Wed, Nov 27, 2013 11:17 AM ESTMind over matterWhen the going gets tough in your workouts, the tough should get talking - to themselves. That's right - talking to yourself and giving yourself a pep talk during your workout may make you push yourself harder and longer than if you don't.
In a recent small study, participants who used positive self-talk significantly lengthened their time cycling on a bike compared to their first attempt. In the study, participants rode as long as they could at 80% of their peak power output. They were then split into two groups, one of which received coaching to use phrases like "feeling good" or "push through this" during their workouts.
Those who received that coaching to push themselves with positive talk did just that, and pushed through it about 18 percent longer than those who didn't use self-talk. They reported that they didn't feel like they were working as hard, either. The study concluded that self-talkRead More »from Improving Your Workouts with the Science of "Mind Over Matter"
- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Nov 27, 2013 11:09 AM ESTDrinking and DivorceLadies, I am a drinker. Blame my love for the sweet nectar on my Dominican genes, or on my love of feeling wobbly and extra friendly. Regardless, I'd have a hard time going cold turkey. I wouldn't get the shakes, now. I do not have a problem. But I would have a problem dating someone who doesn't drink at all.
I know this first hand. When I was in college, I began seeing a classmate who was straight-laced. He didn't drink or party at the Malcom X Center. Unless he was going to the DC (Dining Commons), class or the library, he rarely left his dorm. Enter Sujeiry - an 18-year-old freshman that was finally free from her mother's reign and discipline. I wanted to run wild like a horse. I wanted my mane to flow as I explored all things and all the men that college had to offer. So, you see how me and Mr. Straight Laced were doomed. He wanted to tame me and my party girl ways. And I (like Miley Cyrus) couldn't be tamed!
I rememberRead More »from Do You Drink More Alcohol Than Your Spouse? Beware of Divorce, Says Study
- Babble.com | Parenting – Tue, Nov 26, 2013 4:33 PM EST
Baby AdoptionMy [foster-to-almost-adopted] daughter, Clementine, will never hear me tell her that she was 'born in my heart.' A new adoption book by Berta Serrano is being published called Born from the Heart, and I was quite surprised that the title wasn't already taken. I've heard the term for years now, and it's always made me cringe. My first thought was, "I'm really glad my [adoptive] parents didn't pull that born-in-my-heart crap on me."
I was adopted at birth and was given the direct "You were in another lady's belly" line. It worked for me. It also worked for all of the other adopted kids I grew up with, none of whom have identity issues, drug abuse problems, or violent criminal records. My adopted peers are all boring, well-adjusted adults who look at me quizzically when I ask them about adoption themes such as this. They aren't reading about adoption; they are pursuing other endeavors.
I, however, am doing theRead More »from Why I’ll Never Tell My Adopted Daughter She was ‘Born from My Heart’
- Babble.com | Parenting – Tue, Nov 26, 2013 4:20 PM ESTLockdownThe first Friday of every month at my daughter's school, parents are invited into the classroom to see whatever project the kids have got going on in class. I go in to see my daughter's work, to chat with the other kids (most of whom know me pretty well), and sometimes to read for them as a group. Last week, there was a class "publishing party," where all the parents and students walk around silently reading the "books" the kids have written. (They're just two or three pages of story plus a hand-drawn cover, but still. Calling them books makes the kids feel proud. And in New York, part of your schooling is learning how to attend publishing parties and art openings - for the free food, if nothing else.) I walked in a few minutes after the party started - because I can't read much of anything without having a cup of coffee first - so in between dropping my daughter off at school and coming back for the party, I grabbed a latte from the joint down the street. Read More »from The School Lockdown I Didn't Know was Just a Drill
- Babble.com | Fashion – Tue, Nov 26, 2013 3:37 PM ESTSince I was old enough to walk, I've been head over heels (pun intended) in love with shoes, particularly high heels. In fact, my first real job was selling shoes at Nordstrom's. For a short time, the women's shoe department cured me of my insatiable appetite for more shoes. It was a hard job. Now, with the holidays at our feet (another pun intended), we are all getting dressed up for parties and festivities! Whether you've already found the dress, or you are looking for some inspiration for how to dress up, you are going to need a pair of gorgeous shoes. As much as we all would love to slip our feet into a pair of Jimmy Choos, it's likely not in our holiday budget with gifts, food, and trims on the list. So I found 7 pretty pairs for under $100! Whether you like silver and gold, traditional and classic, shiny and sparkly, or something a little more out of the box (sorry, I had too), I've got a pair for you!
-By Brooke White and Summer Bellessa
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- Babble.com | Beauty – Tue, Nov 26, 2013 3:22 PM ESTI have a lot of friends and clients that tell me they'd like to venture into the world of makeup, but they aren't sure where to start. I totally get it; it can seem overwhelming. When you ask for help at a makeup counter, you probably wind up with a makeover that has you looking like somebody else entirely. It's not the makeup artist's fault - sometimes we can't help ourselves - but baby steps are best when it comes to entering the world of makeup. No one wants to look all-natural one day and then wear a full face full of makeup the next. It's just too jarring. In this post, I'm offering some great starter options, including a splurge and a more affordable steal for each product type. There is a lot on this list, and I would not expect any newbie to go out and buy all of these items. Start by taking a look in the mirror and thinking about what you'd like to hide or accentuate. Do you have dark circles and pale lashes? Start with concealer and mascara. Uneven skin tone and nice lips? GoRead More »from Beauty Basics: 7 Awesome Picks for a Makeup-Shy Beginner
- Babble.com | Pets – Tue, Nov 26, 2013 3:18 PM ESTThere are some days where I just sit there and wonder what my cats are thinking. They always seem to be plotting something behind those gorgeous eyes of theirs and while I hope it's innocent - I have to wonder. We all know that cats have attitude that can't be stopped, and if your cats are like mine then they definitely have that air of superiority about them. I am convinced they think they're the most important creatures on the planet. They have us fooled into thinking that they're our pets, but if you're not careful - they may soon hatch their master plans. Before we know it, cats will take over the world - and here are some signs that it already may be in the works.
-By Devan McGuinness Read More »from It's the A-Paw-Calypse! 8 Signs Cats Are Taking Over the World
- Babble.com | Parenting – Tue, Nov 26, 2013 2:43 PM ESTWatching the cool kidsHe was part of the big-kid group.
Well "big" to my 4-year-old son, Noah, who often watched the boy walk home from the school bus with a herd of other "big kid" boys. All between 7 and 12 years old, all with backpacks bouncing behind them, all wearing puffy jackets and knit gloves that their parents probably laid out the night before.
The boy seemed like a good enough kid, along with the rest of the gang - rowdy at worst. They spent the summer riding two-wheeler bikes throughout our gated community, being told to settle down by the lifeguard (because CANNONBAAAALLLL!), and ending the nights with flash-tag and manhunt and other memories that'll cause pangs of nostalgia 20 years from now. They were never caught smoking cigarettes or accused of vandalizing property (not yet at at least), but they once got in trouble for running and playing outside of other neighbors' windows, which is the equivalent of a fist wag and a "Get off my property, ya hooligans."
That's the worst thingRead More »from A Boy's Last Sunset: What Happens when the Family Next Door Dies Tragically