Let's say my son Felix does something inappropriate, like eating his pasta with his hands. Or, as he did yesterday, throwing the remote control when I tell him to turn off the TV.
Not every time, but often, he will lash out when I reprimand him, either by sticking out his tongue, or screaming, or giving me a light slap. Oh, little boys! They can be beasts in cute clothing.
In the face of his outbursts, I'm presented with two options. Accept that his reaction indicates he's embarrassed, or feels bad about his behavior, and let it go without remark. Or else tell him that his reaction is inappropriate, and perhaps punish him for it.
I make the call based on the extremity of his response. Hitting me - or throwing the remote control - means I'm going to say something, because that's wrong. The other stuff, like the spitting, while gross or annoying, I might ignore.
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