Could Your Nanny Be Hazardous to Your MarriageThis is not the Nannygate story you may expect. I am not about to tell you that if you hire a live-in nanny, your lovely Normal Guy husband is going to morph into Jude Law, schtupping the sitter when you're not looking. I will, however, tell you that the nanny could drive a wedge in your marriage, simply by making it easy for one parent to take his foot off the gas.
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Moms often see the nanny as a stand-in - a valued, caring stand-in in the best of circumstances. Ideally, a live-in au pair or full-time, in-home daycare provider allows both spouses the freedom to focus on work, errands and other tasks, allowing quality family time in the off-hours. "My au pair makes bath time a game, whereas I see it as a chore," says Andrea, a pediatrician and mother of two in San Francisco. "So I delegate that. And if she's cooking, and my husband and I are playing with the kids, or vice versa, I see it as a win-win."
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