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- Babble.com | Parenting – Mon, Jan 27, 2014 5:10 PM EST7 Seemingly Harmless Things We Should Stop Saying to KidsThere's this episode of Louie where Louie C.K. describes bending over his small daughter and yelling with his finger wagging in her face. And suddenly he realizes, "I'm her first [a-hole]." Haven't we all been there? When we realize that we're acting a little jerky to our kids? Maybe you never think about it -- maybe you assume that admitting something like that undercuts your authority. But c'mon. There have to be times when words tumble out of your mouth as a result of exhaustion or stress or distraction. Or times when you say something, because it was always said to you as a kid, and you don't even think about the message behind your words. But maybe we should think about those messages a little more. I don't pretend to be a perfect parent -- not even in the slightest -- but I try and be mindful and thoughtful about the lessons I'm teaching my son. And in that spirit, here are seven things I'm trying to stop saying to kids:
- Babble.com | Work + Money – Mon, Jan 27, 2014 4:20 PM ESTHarry Potter Attraction Maybe you shout "CRUCIO!" in your sleep to your alarm clock, perhaps you wish "Accio, peanut butter sandwich!" actually worked, or maybe you're just a regular old muggle with an appreciation for J.K. Rowling's series about 'the boy who lived.' Even though the last movie came out several years ago, Potter fandom has not died down one bit -- nor do I believe it ever will with new generations being constantly introduced to the books that started it all. Just like any fan, there are times when you want to be surrounded by people who get you, people who won't wonder why you mutter unforgivable curses under your breath at the guy who just cut you off, or wonder what you mean when you say "I could sure use a butterbeer right now." Don't worry little wizards and witches, there are lots of people out there who understand and gather together several times a year to revel in all the wizarding world has to offer. From a fan run getaway in Texas to an all out academic battle based on the criminal Read More »from Attention Harry Potter Fans! 9 Magical Places and Events You Won't Want to Miss
- Babble.com | Parenting – Mon, Jan 27, 2014 3:34 PM ESTHey America, Let's Not Leave Our Gifted Kids Behind!It's like a scholastic Sophie's Choice. Teachers today are forced to pick between the struggling student and the gifted student, with those stuck in the middle just going along for the ride. And you know who is getting the shaft? The smarty-pants students. Instead of shepherding these bright minds down the road to greatness, teachers are - incorrectly - labeling them self-sufficient.
With the implementation of the controversial No Child Left Behind Act of 2001, teachers are now giving low-performing students more attention and energy than those who consistently excel. This isn't just a problem for high-performing students and their parents, it is concerning for our country as a whole.
Newsweek posted an article with the attention-grabbing headline, "America Hates Its Gifted Kids." Hate is a strong word, so I would rephrase the title to say: "America Doesn't Think Gifted Kids Need Help," but you know, they do. I would even say that they need as much help, if not more, thanRead More »from Hey America, Let's Not Leave Our Gifted Kids Behind!
- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Mon, Jan 27, 2014 3:21 PM ESTWhat Marco Rubio Accidentally Taught Us All About LoveDuring the past couple of weeks, there has been a flurry of columns and blog posts written in response to a speech U.S. Senator Marco Rubio gave on the 50th anniversary of the War on Poverty. Every day for the past few weeks, I've read stories written by people who are arguing for or against Rubio's point of view.
For instance, a headline in The Week reads: "Why Rubio's plan to end poverty by promoting marriage is theologically bankrupt." A headline for Think Progress: "No, Marriage is Not a Good Way to Fight Poverty." The Washington Post had something to say about it, too.
In support of Rubio, nationally syndicated columnist Kathleen Parker wrote: "In the absence of marriage, single parents (usually mothers) are left holding the baby and all the commensurate challenges and financial burdens. As a practical matter, how is a woman supposed to care for little ones and/or pay for child care, while working for a minimum wage that is significantly less than what most fair-minded,Read More »from What Marco Rubio Accidentally Taught Us All About Love
- Babble.com | Parenting – Mon, Jan 27, 2014 3:00 PM ESTIs it other moms who are most hurt by the elite ones, or does it affect the kids, too?I empathize with Debra Monroe. To a point, anyway.
She wrote in The New York Times parenting blog the Motherlode about how she lacked "cash or social sway" when she was a child. Her dad was an alcoholic and her family was not well-off. Fortunately, she broke the pattern of her parents' misfortunes, went off to college, and then earned a Ph.D. When she eventually had the opportunity to volunteer for her daughter's school, she seized it, at which time she noticed, "Parents who worked for an hourly wage and chose between volunteering or earning money were unrepresented. Parents who lived in big, new houses ran the show."
Monroe explains how kids with less, like her, could easily feel left out by moms with more.
I get it. Kind of. I didn't grow up like she did - not at all. But I grew up in a diverse area. I live in a less diverse area now, with lots of families in the top 10 percent of the 1 percent, as well as families who are working class, hourly wage folks.
My husband and IRead More »from "Elite" Parents Who Volunteer in School Aren't Hurting Anyone
- Babble.com | Work + Money – Mon, Jan 27, 2014 2:55 PM ESTEffective Ways to Get Rid of TechThe holidays have come and gone, and since shiny new technology has probably replaced older models, there are many effective ways to get rid of outdated tech and devices that clutter your home. Not all methods are the same, though. When it's time to unload a once loved gaming system, camera, laptop, computer monitor or television that is no longer needed, I always try to evaluate the item, and my goal. Whether you want to get top dollar for the device, have it out of your home quickly or simply donate it for a tax write-off, here are the pros and cons of the various ways you can get rid of your outdated tech so it doesn't become dreaded e-waste.
Related: 7 items you already own that are just waiting to be sold
1. Sell it on Craigslist
Craigslist is great for: Large or heavy items that might cost a lot to ship such as TV's or hard drives.
Pros: Listing through Craigslist is free, easy and preserves your anonymity while getting cash for your item. Items that are priced fairly and
There are quite a few rare and not readily known dog breeds. Some are not fully recognized by the AKC, while others are. My favorite among the rare breeds is the Swedish Vallhund, because it looks a lot like a rogue corgi! With names like the Xoloitzcuintli and Kooikerhondje, these breeds often seem quite exotic, but many have roots similar to the common breeds that you see today. Don't ask me how to pronounce some of the names, because I don't know! Here are 7 of my favorite rare dog breeds. -By Carleen Coulter
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I Feared My Parents — and I Think That's a Good ThingWhen I learned recently that Jon Gosselin plans to sue Kate Gosselin for sole custody of their 9-year-old sextuplets because they "fear their mother," I paused. I don't know what kind of fear Jon is implying, but all this fear-talk left me wondering, is there a place for healthy fear in parenting?
I believe there is.
I grew up fearing my kind and loving parents for one very simple reason: they meant business.
While my parents gave me all the affection and support I could wish for, I guess you could classify my upbringing as old school. I wasn't given many choices when it came to things like meals, bedtimes, or chores. I wasn't able to negotiate my way into or out of anything they didn't approve of. "Kids don't get a vote," my dad would always say, "This isn't a democracy." And it wasn't.
You bet I stated my case, caused a scene, and bucked their boundaries as I was growing. You can also bet that I faced theRead More »from Why Fearing Your Parents Might Be a Good Thing
- Babble.com | Healthy Living – Fri, Jan 24, 2014 5:28 PM ESTLetting Go The year I moved to Somaliland from the Midwest, I began the painful process of letting go. I let go all of a sudden, the immediate abandonment of everything comfortable and familiar within the space of a 30-hour airplane flight. I am still letting go, more of a slipping and grasping, as over the last 11 years the full impact of that initial release sinks deeper. I knew this drastic of a move would require changing many surface things -- the way I dressed and spoke and spent my holidays. But I didn't realize how those things are rooted deep, connected to my sense of identity, the way I viewed people in the developing world, my values, even my sense of humor. I didn't realize that letting go of what I knew, to embrace mystery, would happen every single day, and that it would change me to the core.
In our first apartment in Minneapolis, my husband and I were surrounded by Somali neighbors. We heard stories and rumors, met broken people and healing people. We both came from middle classRead More »from When Letting Go Means Moving Your Family to Africa
- Babble.com | Parenting – Fri, Jan 24, 2014 5:25 PM ESTWhy We Did a 180 with Our Fertility PlanIt's been two months and 11 days since my last negative pregnancy test. It was my final attempt at pregnancy with the fertility center I'd been with for nearly two years, because I was moving the week after I got my results. It was also our last chance to conceive with the donor sperm that got me pregnant with our twins -- whom we lost during my 2nd-trimester miscarriage.
I came to love this fertility center and the amazing staff. And I know they did everything they possibly could. To say I was disappointed when I learned that I -- once again -- was not pregnant, is an understatement.
But my disappointment was quickly replaced with a huge sense of being overwhelmed.
We were back to Square One.
After almost two years of trying, after numerous IVF cycles, FET cycles, an IUI, countless injections, bruises, pills, vaginal suppositories, hormone side effects that included hot flashes, weight gain, headaches, dizziness, cramping, outrageous mood swings, fatigue, loss ofRead More »from Why We're Giving Up on IVF and Trying At-Home Insemination