By Jennifer Baumgardner
The other night, I met a girl who reminded me of you," my friend Elizabeth said. It was a steamy Saturday afternoon in May, and I was rushing down a narrow Greenwich Village street to buy flowers for my wedding. "This girl, she was smart and feminist and said she was bisexual," Elizabeth continued. "I said, 'I know how this works. You'll be married in 10 years.'" It's hard when your wedding day is used as evidence that your life is a sham. On a certain level, though, I understand the confusion. How can you be bisexual and married? If marriage isn't about picking a team, what is?
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My run-in with Elizabeth made me think. I never thought I'd marry, even before I fell in love with a female intern at my first job in New York. That relationship--surprising, shocking, and thrilling--jolted my identity.
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By Harper s Bazaar | Love + Sex – Fri, Mar 25, 2011 10:58 PM EDTThe $3 Hair Tool Used on the Fashion Week Runways
By Harper s Bazaar | Fashion – Fri, Mar 25, 2011 9:59 PM EDTBy Jessica Prince
We loved the lock look at Prada's fall 2011 show. Hairstylist Guido anchored the 1960s Catherine Deneuve-inspired ponytails with a simple, silver Goody barrette ($3.29 for a pack of 4) for a "very girly, very young, innocent sophistication," he explained. Goody Jenna Barrettes (pictured above right) are available at drugstores nationwide.
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By Harper s Bazaar | Spring Fashion – Thu, Mar 24, 2011 9:37 PM EDTNo need for a complete overhaul. It only takes a few tweaks to get your wardrobe spring-ready. Here, some fashion and beauty suggestions that will help you make it your chicest season yet! By Véronique Hyland
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#1: Tribal Print Maxidress For evenings, opt for a floor-sweeping gown in a bold ethnic print.
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#2: Neon Lips
Muster the courage to wear bold pink lipstick. (A long-wearing version stands up to the occasional straw.)
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#3: Friendship Bracelets
Relive your summer camp days with a grown-up take on the classic.
#4: Surf Details
Neon, zippers and neoprene give basics a sportif touch.
#5: Center-Part Your Hair
The simple style looks fresh again, as long as locks have plenty of volume.
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#6: Sleeveless Trench
Lop off the sleeves for a safari-inspired look that doubles as aStraight from the spring runways, here are five of the must-try-now hair and makeup tips from for any girl with the desire to start out the spring season on the right foot.
#1 Get a Gray Manicure
A tough slate shade on nails adds an edgy touch to spring's ladylike looks.
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#2 Wear a Center Part
The simple style looks fresh again, as long as hair has plenty of volume.
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#3 Don a Colorful Eyeshadow
Dare to try out a lush purple shade on your lids.
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#4 Chop It All Off
A choppy bob shows off strong cheekbones to their full advantage.
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#5 Wear Metallic Liner
Stun with shiny, metallic-tinged eyes.
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#1: Bright Bangles
Don't hesitate to pile on the colorful bracelets. The more, the merrier.
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#2: Wide-Brim Hat
Top things off with an urban take on the beach staple.
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#3: Dynasty-Style Jewelry
Bold gold pieces add some oomph.
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#4: The New Cover-Up
A loose, mesh-like weave keeps off the chill.
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#5: Mad Men Sunglasses
Get smart in early '60s frames.
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Read More »from 5 Easy Fashion Tips for SpringMichelle Obama Wears Marc by Marc Jacobs in Brazil
By Harper s Bazaar | Fashion – Tue, Mar 22, 2011 6:51 PM EDTIf there's anything Michelle Obama loves, it's a bright color and an affordable price.The First Lady stepped out in Marc by Marc Jacobs today in Brazil. The Simone dress she's sporting combines two of our favorite trends for spring: bright hues and bold stripes.
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Read More »from Michelle Obama Wears Marc by Marc Jacobs in BrazilSpring is all about eye-catching shoes, whether that means a tribal print or a neon shade. Best of all, a great shoe can freshen up your entire look for the season, without breaking the bank. Here are some of our favorite options.
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#1: These Aldo wedges have a fun tribal print that echoes some of the looks from the runways. $90 at aldo.com.
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#2: Try out spring's bold stripes with these Nine West sandals. $99 at macys.com.
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#3: Nervous about overloading on color? Try a neutral shoe with a few bright straps. Nine West shoes, $89, ninewest.com.
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#4: Cobalt blue is one of the season's top hues. Accentuate it with bronze hardware. Topshop shoes, $160, us.topshop.com.
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#5: A strappy red sandal is always a classic. Sergio Rossi shoes, $200, dsw.com.
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See more bright shoe7 Ways To Make Your Mani-Pedi Last Longer
By Harper s Bazaar | Work + Money – Tue, Mar 15, 2011 11:02 PM EDT
Spring's bright nails and toes look great - until they chip. And sometimes, that can be less than 24 hours after leaving the salon. Jane Park, CEO of Julep Nail Parlor in Seattle, shares the secrets to a 7-day nick-free manicure.
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1. Request a Fresh Bottle: Salons often add thinners to nail polish to extend the shelf life - good for them, bad for you. "Thinners compromise both the color and integrity of the polish," says Park. If a bottle is less than three-quarters full, ask your technician for a new one. "A fresh bottle of polish can make your pedicure last weeks longer than when using an older bottle," explains Park.
2. Carry Around Your Cuticle Oil: It not only protects against unsightly rough skin and painful hangnails, but it also keeps polish from chipping. We love Julep Essential Cuticle Oil ($8.95) because its roller-ball applicator is easy to apply throughout the day. Apply it on the cuticle and across the polish twice a day.
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Read More »from 7 Ways To Make Your Mani-Pedi Last LongerExperts reveal the dos and don'ts for an enviably clear, smooth complexion.
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#1: IF YOU'RE SENSITIVE
Your Biggest Mistake: Using too many products with harsh ingredients that cause your skin to become inflamed. "Test glycolic, vitamin-C, and vitamin-A products on a small patch of skin before using them all over your face," says Wexler. "Try only one at a time so if you develop a reaction, you know which product caused it." Once inflammation occurs (characterized as dry, flaky, scaly skin on your nose, cheeks, chin, or scalp), your epidermal barrier has been compromised, and any products you use, including heavy creams, will irritate your skin even more, explains Brandt. The solution? Desensitize with calming ingredients like zinc, green tea, and chamomile.
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Your Biggest Mistake: Waiting until your 40th birthday to make your first wrinkle-reducing purchase. Take action before lines and wrinkles make an appearance.After gaining some unwanted pounds, Rita Wilson knew it was time for a change. Here, she chronicles her weight-loss journey.
Have you ever thrown open your closet doors in anticipation of picking out a fabulous outfit only to find yourself reaching for elastic-waistband pants? Or when someone says, "You're hot," he isn't talking about sex but referring to the beads of perspiration that have taken over your entire body since you turned 50? For some of you, this piece may be irrelevant--right now. But soon enough, your day of waterfalls cascading down your chest will come and you will remember me. Due to my middle-aged, menopausal "hotness," I had put on the freshman 15 at 53. My class of 54 was going to have me graduating to a permanent wardrobe of sweats if I didn't do something about it. But my head felt weighted down. I felt mentally heavy. I didn't have the energy to add one more thing to my already full plate ... of nachos, guacamole, chips.
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