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Excerpted from "The New Marital Boundaries" on HarpersBAZAAR.com.
In an era when anything goes, Kate Christensen explores the rules of remaining faithful. When do flirty e-mails and late-night drinks cross the line?
In my late 20s and early 30s, I had a male best friend I'll call Peter. We were both straight and sometimes even single at the same time, but the friendship was truly platonic on both sides.
With Peter acting as matchmaker, I fell in love with his best friend from high school. My friendship with Peter was unaffected; the three of us hung out in bars together, went to Coney Island, met for dinner. But then Peter and his lawyer fell in love. And our friendship was... over. She couldn't tolerate my close friendship with Peter, so she engineered its demise by bad-mouthing me to him. As soon as I heard this, irrational as it may have been, I no longer trusted Peter. I was heartbroken. They came to our wedding, just as we went to theirs, but there was no longerRead More »from Is Your Spouse Really Cheating?