By GalTime Relationship Diva Jane Greer, Ph.D.
QUESTION: My fiance and I love each other very much. He makes me so happy and confident about my life decisions. However I can't go one day without hearing him call me stupid or dumb and sometimes when he is really mad he says the most hurtful things. He never hits me or anything. Is it normal for couples to insult each other and, if so, do they even realize how much it hurts? I can dish out a lot to him but when he says one thing about me, I get furious and cry at the same time. How can we put each other in our shoes to try and see the other person's point of view?
ANSWER: Depending on what your fiance experienced growing up in his family, name calling and insulting one another when angry or upset may indeed be his family norm because it may have been the way everyone treated each other. Additionally, since you are throwing the bull back in his face, then you are also giving him the message that it's OK to fight dirty with one anotherRead More »from Are Insults Normal in a Relationship?