If you haven't guessed, it's wedding season here on Sugar. Earlier this week many of you agreed that skipping some common wedding traditions can help give your big day individual flavor. Plus, sometimes these customs just don't sit right with us. I've rounded up a bunch of traditions, including the
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- POPSUGAR Sex & Culture | Work + Money – Tue, Apr 27, 2010 8:55 PM EDT
Mothers have a bad rap for acting the most wedding-crazed of all. Yet every bride-to-be I've talked to recently says her mom is surprisingly hands-off. So maybe we're all headed to an age of couple-dictated weddings, but until we're there, here are six ways to keep moms in check and your relationship at its best. After all, there is a major, major present at stake!
- Get a head start: Include her early on, and she'll be more apt to trust details are under control later. Tell her your vision, and ask for input. Listen politely - she might have good advice - and try to incorporate at least one idea into your plans. If nothing entirely works, tell her the idea inspired X.
- Ask questions: Ask, in the beginning, if there's a part of the wedding she really wants to be included in. She'll be less likely to butt in on other areas later.
- Listen: No matter how much you disagree, listen to what she has to say. Let her finish. If you haven't been persuaded, tell her calmly
- POPSUGAR Sex & Culture | Love + Sex – Tue, Apr 27, 2010 8:50 PM EDT
You can only marry Edward Cullen in your fantasies, but now you can ask your real life lover to propose with the same ring the vamp gave Bella Swan. The ring, which author Stephenie Meyer and Infinite Jewelry Co. co-designed, made its big debut last Friday in the latest trailer for Eclipse. It matches the description from the book: "The face was a long oval, set with slanting rows of glittering round stones. The band was gold - delicate and narrow. The gold made a fragile web around the diamonds." Now you can get it for as low as $35, but the real diamond version sells for $1,979 - I suppose the makers hope some people will actually wear this as an engagement ring. Do you think it's fun that fans can buy Bella's ring or is this way too much? Take our poll here.Read More »from Buy Bella Swan's Engagement Ring â€” Cool Idea or Too Much?
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In the history of wedding traditions, save the dates are relatively new. But since invitations are typically mailed just six weeks before the big day and guests need to make travel arrangements, STDs (as they are unfortunately abbreviated) come in handy, mailed at least six months prior. Plus, they're a good excuse to do something clever and fun amid the sometimes boring, often stressful wedding hubbub. Here are eight clever ways to save the date.
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- POPSUGAR Sex & Culture | Love + Sex – Tue, Apr 20, 2010 8:57 PM EDT
The only way I will change my name for marriage is if the trade is up. I'm talking a better surname than my current one: three syllables and a regal ring required. Maybe something like Chenowith, Fitzgerald, Vanderbilt? But even now, as I consider those names, none sound right because none are mine.
Besides the sentimental value of a name you've had your whole life and the logistics of making a new name to stick, a study found a new problem with taking your husband's name. Name-changing women are not only perceived as less intelligent, competent, and ambitious, but they are also likely to earn less.
The study acknowledges its shortcomings - a small sample of students at a Dutch university - so it's impossible to say if this is true across the board and around the world. Yet I've known several women who go by their husband's name outside the office, but their maiden name inside it. So I wouldn't say the findings are entirely off base.
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- POPSUGAR Sex & Culture | Work + Money – Tue, Apr 13, 2010 8:14 PM EDT
At a wedding last year, my aunt asked me the dreaded question: When are you getting married? As she looked at me, I could tell she was full of seriousness, worry, and wine. I leaned back in my chair and whispered so nobody could hear "I already am." I, of course, wasn't. But it seems any woman over 25 confronts this question at family gatherings. And it only gets worse if you're happily attached. In which case, things can get really awkward if your unintended is nearby. Honestly, a polite answer to this fairly rude question is not easy! So here are five tongue-in-cheek comebacks and one polite one for the nosy wedding planners in your life.
- When his divorce is final.
- Well, we have pictures that seem to say we are but no papers.
- Hopefully, before I start showing!
- When gay marriage is legal here.
- When are you getting divorced?
- Shrug, and say "Not sure. How old were you when you got married?" Turn it around, and make it about them. Ask them how they knew it, how
Are we having more sex than our moms? Well, if your mom was sexually active before the 1960s, maybe. After that, the birth control pill arrived, and women no longer had to pray and men no longer had to pull.Read More »from You vs. Your Mom: Who Had More Casual Sex?
Writing in the London Times this weekend, five women of different generations open up about their sex lives. One woman, who turned 16 in 1960, explains how the sexual environment was very different than today's - abortion was illegal, women were expected to get a ring on their fingers before they had sex, and young women at her college actually shared one generous student's diaphragm. But once the pill came on the scene, everything changed. Women no longer risked unwanted pregnancy and the associated stigma.
Women enjoyed more sex during the post-pill era, but the mood of the sexual revolution didn't last long. Presumably once off the pill, the women of the '60s began to have children who would have the advantage of oral contraceptives, but also the fear of AIDS to shape their
If there's one thing the editor in chief of Self magazine, Lucy Danziger, knows, it's that there's always room for self-improvement. But sometimes the nagging feeling that you're not good enough is the biggest problem of all. She and Catherine Birndorf, MD, a women's mental-health specialist, interviewed hundreds of women about personal fulfillment. Now, they're ready to help us clean up the emotional messes in our lives in their book The Nine Rooms of Happiness. Of course, most people turn right to the bedroom chapter, which governs relationships and sex. So, we asked Lucy, "How do we know we're with the one, or at least a pretty good one?" Here are her four signs that your relationship is on the right track.
- There's conflict. This sounds like a downer, but the root of a relationship is to relate. If you can have conflict that leads to a resolution, then you'll be able to move forward when you hit a rough patch. It's not "either/or . . . it's both/and." This is a strategy in The
Women prefer men with feminine features, according to a new study. Men with square jaws, larger noses, and smaller eyes - aka masculine features - were seen by female participants as more dominant, less faithful, worse parents, and less warm. On the other hand, men with fuller lips, wide eyes, and thinner, more shapely eyebrows were judged as better long-term partners. But not all women had the same preferences - women from countries with poorer health preferred more masculine men. While I'm not going to assume that a man's feminine features actually say anything about his worthiness as a partner, I will weigh in on what I believe to be the more superficial pros and cons of dating less-manly men.Read More »from Pros and Cons of Dating Feminine Men
Pro: Full lips, defined by the study as a feminine feature, are fun to kiss!
Con: It can be confusing to date someone who's "prettier" than you are.
Pro: You can share a stylist. Remember when Gwen and Brad had matching highlights?
Con: He uses your pricey beauty products instead of his
- POPSUGAR Sex & Culture | Love + Sex – Tue, Mar 23, 2010 9:10 PM EDT
Here's the thing about bald men: they live longer (but with less hair). That's according to a new study that found men who go bald by 30 appear less likely to develop prostate cancer. Young men go bald thanks to a high level of testosterone - but the manly hormone also wards off tumors. When it comes to turnoffs, most of you agree that wearing pink is a no no and that being rude to the waitstaff on a first date is a deal breaker. But what about baldness? Do you prefer a man with a full-head of hair, or is baldness, and the newfound health benefits that come with it, a turn on for you?Read More »from Give Those Balding Boys a Second Look â€” They're Healthy!
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