I opened my in-flight magazine on a recent trip to find the crossword puzzle and cartoon page covered entirely by a list, with "Susan" on one side and "Les" on the other. Someone had obviously been weighing the pros and cons of two women - very thoroughly. Under Susan are such pros as "sex is damn good" and "good cook," while the Les side says the sex was just "adequate" but that she's an "excellent cook." However, Les's extensive cons - including "not ecological" and "tech disaster" - suggest that Susan wins. Too bad the answers to this puzzle aren't on page 100. I've weighed the pros and cons of a relationship before, but I don't think I've gone so far as to make a list - and it's certainly never been so urgent that I had to use the pages of an in-flight magazine! I've reproduced the list below for your voyeuristic pleasure, so check it out - it's quite entertaining. Meanwhile, tell me, have you ever made a pro vs. con list when choosing between two people or trying to decideRead More »from Puzzling Out a Relationship's Pros and Cons
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This wedding season, it's one thing to worry about how to respond when a proposal is in public or (cringe) on cupcakes, but what if you had to worry about doing the proposing yourself?While some women may find it a matrimonial tradition that can't be broken, others may see it as another "men only" duty that should be more inclusive. I wonder, if your dating relationship is one in which the guy calls all the shots, are you less likely to get down on one knee? And if you are planning on, or hoping to do the asking, is it because he's dragging his feet? Or is it something else? Fill me in!Read More »from Would You Propose?
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If you haven't guessed, it's wedding season here on Sugar. Earlier this week many of you agreed that skipping some common wedding traditions can help give your big day individual flavor. Plus, sometimes these customs just don't sit right with us. I've rounded up a bunch of traditions, including the
- POPSUGAR Love & Sex | Work + Money – Tue, Apr 27, 2010 8:55 PM EDT
Mothers have a bad rap for acting the most wedding-crazed of all. Yet every bride-to-be I've talked to recently says her mom is surprisingly hands-off. So maybe we're all headed to an age of couple-dictated weddings, but until we're there, here are six ways to keep moms in check and your relationship at its best. After all, there is a major, major present at stake!
- Get a head start: Include her early on, and she'll be more apt to trust details are under control later. Tell her your vision, and ask for input. Listen politely - she might have good advice - and try to incorporate at least one idea into your plans. If nothing entirely works, tell her the idea inspired X.
- Ask questions: Ask, in the beginning, if there's a part of the wedding she really wants to be included in. She'll be less likely to butt in on other areas later.
- Listen: No matter how much you disagree, listen to what she has to say. Let her finish. If you haven't been persuaded, tell her calmly
- POPSUGAR Love & Sex | Love + Sex – Tue, Apr 27, 2010 8:50 PM EDT
You can only marry Edward Cullen in your fantasies, but now you can ask your real life lover to propose with the same ring the vamp gave Bella Swan. The ring, which author Stephenie Meyer and Infinite Jewelry Co. co-designed, made its big debut last Friday in the latest trailer for Eclipse. It matches the description from the book: "The face was a long oval, set with slanting rows of glittering round stones. The band was gold - delicate and narrow. The gold made a fragile web around the diamonds." Now you can get it for as low as $35, but the real diamond version sells for $1,979 - I suppose the makers hope some people will actually wear this as an engagement ring. Do you think it's fun that fans can buy Bella's ring or is this way too much? Take our poll here.Read More »from Buy Bella Swan's Engagement Ring â€” Cool Idea or Too Much?
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In the history of wedding traditions, save the dates are relatively new. But since invitations are typically mailed just six weeks before the big day and guests need to make travel arrangements, STDs (as they are unfortunately abbreviated) come in handy, mailed at least six months prior. Plus, they're a good excuse to do something clever and fun amid the sometimes boring, often stressful wedding hubbub. Here are eight clever ways to save the date.
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- POPSUGAR Love & Sex | Love + Sex – Tue, Apr 20, 2010 8:57 PM EDT
The only way I will change my name for marriage is if the trade is up. I'm talking a better surname than my current one: three syllables and a regal ring required. Maybe something like Chenowith, Fitzgerald, Vanderbilt? But even now, as I consider those names, none sound right because none are mine.
Besides the sentimental value of a name you've had your whole life and the logistics of making a new name to stick, a study found a new problem with taking your husband's name. Name-changing women are not only perceived as less intelligent, competent, and ambitious, but they are also likely to earn less.
The study acknowledges its shortcomings - a small sample of students at a Dutch university - so it's impossible to say if this is true across the board and around the world. Yet I've known several women who go by their husband's name outside the office, but their maiden name inside it. So I wouldn't say the findings are entirely off base.
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At a wedding last year, my aunt asked me the dreaded question: When are you getting married? As she looked at me, I could tell she was full of seriousness, worry, and wine. I leaned back in my chair and whispered so nobody could hear "I already am." I, of course, wasn't. But it seems any woman over 25 confronts this question at family gatherings. And it only gets worse if you're happily attached. In which case, things can get really awkward if your unintended is nearby. Honestly, a polite answer to this fairly rude question is not easy! So here are five tongue-in-cheek comebacks and one polite one for the nosy wedding planners in your life.
- When his divorce is final.
- Well, we have pictures that seem to say we are but no papers.
- Hopefully, before I start showing!
- When gay marriage is legal here.
- When are you getting divorced?
- Shrug, and say "Not sure. How old were you when you got married?" Turn it around, and make it about them. Ask them how they knew it, how
Are we having more sex than our moms? Well, if your mom was sexually active before the 1960s, maybe. After that, the birth control pill arrived, and women no longer had to pray and men no longer had to pull.Read More »from You vs. Your Mom: Who Had More Casual Sex?
Writing in the London Times this weekend, five women of different generations open up about their sex lives. One woman, who turned 16 in 1960, explains how the sexual environment was very different than today's - abortion was illegal, women were expected to get a ring on their fingers before they had sex, and young women at her college actually shared one generous student's diaphragm. But once the pill came on the scene, everything changed. Women no longer risked unwanted pregnancy and the associated stigma.
Women enjoyed more sex during the post-pill era, but the mood of the sexual revolution didn't last long. Presumably once off the pill, the women of the '60s began to have children who would have the advantage of oral contraceptives, but also the fear of AIDS to shape their
If there's one thing the editor in chief of Self magazine, Lucy Danziger, knows, it's that there's always room for self-improvement. But sometimes the nagging feeling that you're not good enough is the biggest problem of all. She and Catherine Birndorf, MD, a women's mental-health specialist, interviewed hundreds of women about personal fulfillment. Now, they're ready to help us clean up the emotional messes in our lives in their book The Nine Rooms of Happiness. Of course, most people turn right to the bedroom chapter, which governs relationships and sex. So, we asked Lucy, "How do we know we're with the one, or at least a pretty good one?" Here are her four signs that your relationship is on the right track.
- There's conflict. This sounds like a downer, but the root of a relationship is to relate. If you can have conflict that leads to a resolution, then you'll be able to move forward when you hit a rough patch. It's not "either/or . . . it's both/and." This is a strategy in The