Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

When you do hang out, discuss (a) your cat or (b) pooping.Anna Breslaw, Glamour magazine

We've all been in that situation where a guy who's a friend wants to be more, but you're just not feeling it. And yet, his friendship is an important one that you don't want to lose by having an actual "talk." Here are a few sly ways (both serious and definitely not) to Vulcan mind meld him out of crushing on you.

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Spend a bit of time apart. If you hang out all the time, it's probably a good call to take a little break. Don't make a thing of it--just say you're busy a few times.

When you do hang out, discuss (a) your cat or (b) pooping. It's been established that, as dumb as it may be, cat ownership is a turn-off for many a dude. Go nuts! I'm talking videos, pictures, whatever you have. This works best if your cat has a name like Mr. Mistoffelees or Don't Eat My Face Off When I Die Alone.

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And pooping! I love talking about pooping with my

Gena Kaufman, Glamour magazine

Pop culture belief seems to be that your sex life is over when you get married, but I'm sure plenty of you married women out there would disagree. A new survey indicates that women in relationships actually initiate sex more than their single counterparts.

In a new study commissioned by Penguin, women feel more confident in instigating sex once they've settled into a relationship, but single gals are more adventurous in bed once they've made it there.

A few tidbits of comparison:

• How are single girls more adventurous? They watch porn, act out fantasies and use toys. (Hey couples, you can use toys too--did you see this one Ariane suggested yesterday?)
• Single ladies are more into having sex outdoors, in the garden, or in the car.
• Evidently, almost half of single women have sex at least once a week and 1/10 will use five different positions in each session. This single girls says: Wait, really?? I am not in the cool single girl

Photo: Courtesy of Columbia PicturesGena Kaufman, Glamour magazine

Oh man, will we ever stop tiring of hearing about the sex lives of others? Survey says: doubtful.

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OK, the real survey I'm talking about, released yesterday by Trojan, says that while 2/3 of Americans of satisfied with their sex life, 50% still feel it could use a jump start. Evidently Americans are having more sex this year than last year (151 times, up from 120), and 81% of us are looking for ways to make their sex life more exciting (conveniently, Trojan has some ideas for you).

Most interesting to me were the stats comparing sex lives by region--you know I'm always trying to figure out the differences in life in the Midwest versus life in New York. Looks like the Midwest might not be so bad after all. See how your area measures up:

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• Midwesterners are the most sexually adventurous, with 60% classifying themselves as such.
• 44% of Southerners have

Anna Breslaw, Glamour magazine

In all the hubbub surrounding Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise's divorce, there's been no solid advice for Katie when she decides it's time to move on with a new guy. I asked another A-list celeb's ex-wife for her tips. Sheree Fletcher, who stars on VH1's Hollywood Exes, was married to Will Smith--yes, that one--from 1992 to 1995. She is now married to football-player-turned-pastor Terrell Fletcher and gave us some good advice for how one might go about introducing her former and current flames in the most innocuous way possible--especially if kids are involved (Will and Sheree have an 18-year-old son, Trey, together). Katie, are you listening? Here's what Sheree had to say:

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There's no need to introduce the new man to an ex unless he is high on the "prospect chart" and you're considering making a life with him and the children that you and your "ex" share. (Otherwise, in my opinion, unless there

Lexi Petronis, Glamour magazine

Or, as a new study states, "If a woman has sex with a man, he might not only buy the cow but love the cow, as well." Ummm, moo, I guess?

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Wonder of wonders, science is now suggesting that my best friend Julie's definition of sexlove has been proven! The way to a man's heart is through his peen! Maybe you already knew that, or maybe you didn't and this is terrible advice because you're going to start sleeping with a dude purely in the hopes of making him fall in love with you, but don't try this at home, friends.

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After studying love and libido for over a decade, a professor of psychology at Concordia University in Montreal has come to the conclusion that sex can indeed lead to love thanks to the goings-on of the brain's insular cortex (a.k.a. insula) and the striatum, which is located in the forebrain and receives signals from

Ariane Marder, Glamour magazine

Remember my post on dating mistakes to avoid? Well, there are sex blunders, too. And I'm not just talking about screaming the wrong name in bed. Though, in case you're wondering, that's a major don't.

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Sex Mistake 1. Faking it
This is way more about you than it is about him. Sure, if you're so tired you can barely keep your eyes open, it won't hurt to put on a one-time show. But don't make it a habit. If you do, you're just cheating yourself. I say make him work for it. You know what they say, "Guys love a challenge."

Sex Mistake 2. Not ever initiating
Men have needs (duh), and they want to know that you desire them as badly as they desire you. No need to make it a serious discussion. In fact, subtle hints work wonders.

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Sex Mistake 3. Being lazy
Although Anna gave some good tips for the lackadasical lover, the girl who just lies there may seem

Anna Breslaw, Glamour magazine

Does being into a certain part (and size) of your anatomy say something about the guy you're dating? I think it might, but proving it requires your help.

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Let's be real: There are women who favor men's chests, women who like men's butts the most, and those who like... I mean, you know. And these women, generally speaking, are very different kinds of people. Obviously you can enjoy all three, but usually one body part juuuust barely wins out over the other. I'm into broad shoulders, myself. And so, while there's no concrete evidence on the subject, a guy's choice anatomical favorite on a lady has gotta say something about his personality.

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Say, for instance, you're dating a guy who's really into legs. I would assume that it meant he was somewhat old-fashioned, since long gams are one of the classical, glamour-girls-in-'40s-movies indicators of female

India-Jewel Jackson, Glamour magazine

Le sigh-TomKat has gone splat. I certainly didn't see this one coming, but we've all been there. (Maybe not divorce per se, but a terrible breakup-yes.) Now that Holmes is set to join the illustrious 'Hollywood Exes' club, I think the best thing for her to do is to get back up, dust herself off, and keep it moving-all while looking utterly fabulous, of course! Here, a few of my favorite products that help you look fiercely fabulous in a post-breakup flash!

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Tarte EmphasEYES Inner Rim Brightener, $18 at Sephora.com
Anytime you need to make your eyes pop in an instant, simply swipe this brightening eyeliner along your waterline and in the inner corners to mask any signs of physical or emotional fatigue. (It's a fleshy nude, so it's much more natural-looking and less obvious than stark white would be.)

Visine Eye Drops Advanced Redness Relief, $1.99 at Drugstore.com
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