by Melissa Melms, Glamour
Conde Nast Archive You get the invite from work: "Please come to this year's holiday bash…and bring a friend!" Are you more likely to RSVP +1 or hit the party up solo?
Back in the day (you know, in like 2010), I was all for bringing J to my work holiday parties. Right out of college I worked with mainly guys at this lifestyle magazine in Hoboken, NJ, but I wanted my guy by my side while they brought their girlfriends and wives. Since it was such a small office, inviting an extra 5 people (our significant others) wasn't a huge deal. We were all friends so it truly was a big party.
But now I'm all for flying solo at the office bash. Glamour is pretty big and pretty much all ladies, so I like to enjoy a sort of girls' night out with my coworkers. And since J's office is big, too, he goes to his holiday party by himself and enjoys a night out with his buds. Maybe it's because we're living together (or because our jobs require a little extra networking), but we don't invite each
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It's really funny how things can change in a year's time. You can move in with a guy, have the time of your life figuring out the whole cohabitation thing and maybe even get engaged. Hey, it happened to me!
Yeap, in October 2011, J moved into my one bedroom apartment in Hoboken. We had been dating for two years at the time and were both ready to take the next step in our relationship--a step neither of us had taken with anyone else before. And here I am, a little over a year later, engaged this past October and now I'm planning our wedding.
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by GlamourRead More »from The Best and Worst Guy Gifts (According to James Van Der Beek!)
James Van Der Beek, the actor formerly known as Dawson, plays a jerky version of himself on Don't Trust the B---- in Apt. 23 and posts silly memes online--but here he gets serious about what guys want this time of year.
1. Skydiving lessons. Ask, "Have you ever wanted to jump out of an airplane?" and then change the subject. A month later you can give him skydiving lessons, and he won't remember having said it.
2. Socks. It's the worst present when we're eight; now that we're 28, it's a relief not to have to buy them ourselves. And socks can add a little rebelliousness to our buttoned-up wardrobe.
3. Tools. But only if you've heard something like, "Man, that new Makita 12-volt drill really looks great." If we're that specific, we mean "Go get it."
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4. Steak of the month, beer of the month… Food is great. I'm always happy with flavored popcorn.
5. A personalized barbecue branding iron. That's cool. That's fun. [They actually exist!
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The typical urban legend is that sex on a first date won't lead to a relationship, period. That's debatable, so a new study has examined what effects, if any, a couple may experience in their relationship as a result of hooking up right away.
And well, it isn't great. In a study of 11,000 unmarried people in serious relationships, those who engaged in sex before or within the first few weeks of dating had lower levels of relationship satisfaction, communication and stability than those who waited longer. In case you're feeling doubtful about those results, it's in line with earlier research showing that couples who wait longer to have sex have higher marital satisfaction, and the researchers also accounted for other factors that could have affected the findings, such as religion, education, race and number of sexual partners. The results still held.
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by Gena Kaufman, Glamour
Attention all Santa Baby-style gift givers! If you're the type that likes to get your sexy on as a Christmas gift to your man, hey, do your thang! (Did I just say "thang"?) It's not my style, but I can see how some silky red lingerie and a Santa hat, or a strategically placed bow might make for a hot present.
To help you out, I could have rounded up a selection of sexy, holiday-appropriate lingerie sets, orrrrrr I could show you guys the most utterly ridiculous "sexy" Christmas* get-ups I could find. Guess which I chose?
You know me well, readers. Let's go for the totally bizarre, who-in-the-world-thought-this-would-be-a-sexy-idea ensembles! (NSFW warning: I didn't show the most racy options, but some of these are straight-up lingerie, so beware in a conservative environment. Though even the more costumey options should probably not be worn publicly. Or privately, unless you're a couple with a great sense of humor and some extra cash to burn.)
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Because girl, surviving a breakup is a marathon, not a sprint.
After a devastating split, it's hard to get your groove back. What's even worse is that getting over it doesn't happen all at once. Just when you think you're over it, you get hit with another wave of sadness.
It's taken me about a year to feel fully like myself after my big, life-changing breakup. Along the way, I spent a lot of time beating myself up for not moving on in a speedier fashion but looking back, I can see that only hurt my progress. What I should have done instead was to be proud of myself for every step I took, and when I felt discouraged and set back, looked forward to the next goal.
Don't repeat my mistake. Pat yourself on the back for each of these little mile markers on your way to a full recovery.
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1. The first morning he's not the first thing you think of when you wake up.
2. The first night he's not what you're thinking about as you try
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by Melissa Melms, GlamourRead More »from What Your Holiday Gifting Style Says About Your Relationship
It's that time of year. You know, the candy-cane-licking, cookie-baking, wrapping-paper-tearing, gift-giving holiday season. Well, guess what? The gift you choose for your significant other actually says a thing or two about your relationship.
It's true. Your holiday gifting style can reveal a lot about the relationship you're in. First, think about what you got (or are planning to get) your S.O. this holiday season. Next, see how it fits in with the super accurate (JK, you guys, these are just for fun) categories, below, to see what it means about your relationship. Then, enjoy the holidays--and your gifts--with your love. It's as easy as that.
So, which of these gifting styles best describe you?
* The Crafty DIY-er:
(AKA The Pinterest Princess) You're artsy, love a good homemade (or home-cooked) gift, and are obsessed with all things Etsy. Your go-to gifts include snowman cake pops baked from scratch, DIY wrapping paper, specialty drinks for toasting on
by Gena Kaufman, GlamourRead More »from 28 Reasons Thanksgiving is the Least Sexy Holiday
Reason number 11.Thanksgiving has many wonderful things about it--most of them edible--but it does not include a boost to your sex life.
Can you guys believe it's just a little over a week until Thanksgiving? I feel like I was so distracted by the election frenzy I forgot all about the impending holiday. And while I love love love Thanksgiving and the week of delicious leftovers after it, it has to be said: Thanksgiving is not sexy. In fact, it might be the least sexy holiday ever. It's got none of the romance of Valentine's Day, it lacks the sexiness of Halloween costumes, and it's much too cold for outdoor barbecues or pool parties.
Here are just a few things that may contribute to a very non-sexy celebration of thanks, whether you're spending it alone or with your guy:
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1. Overcrowded airline travel.
2. Screaming babies on overcrowded airline travel.
3. Screaming babies at your grandma's house.
4. The hangover you're
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You don't have to worry about your guy when he's out without you. He's less likely to move his joystick toward other pretty ladies than a single guy is. I mean that so literally you don't even know.
It seems like scientists are constantly studying the effects of love hormone oxytocin, and this time, they've devised a series of experiments to see how a dose of the hormone affects the behavior of men who are in relationships versus single men.
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In one experiment, men approached or were approached by an attractive female experimenter, and were told to either hold their position or stop her approach at the distance at which they felt comfortable talking, thereby establishing a personal bubble. In the second, men saw pleasant images, such as beautiful women or landscapes, or disturbing ones, such as mutilated body parts or dirt, and were asked to pull a joystick toward them for the pleasant
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I know, I know. As a non-14-year-old, who came of age way before everyone and their toddler had a cell phone, I should be a fan of the old-fashioned phone call. I should lament the decline of the spoken word and the forgotten art of conversation.
Whatever. Phone calls are 80s. (Pagers are 90s, obvs.) A lot of dating advice experts will say you should expect a man to call to confirm dating plans or to ask you out. And maybe you should listen to them, since the only thing I'm an expert in is being single and occasionally crying about it. But I generally hate phone calls and specifically hate them from guys I'm dating, and I'm not changing my mind any time soon.
Allow me to list my reasons.
1. Have you ever heard your voice played back to you via recording? Did you like the sound of your own voice? No, you did not. The only people who like the sound of their own voices are politicians (timely and true!). Yes, that IS what you sound like on the phone. Yuck.